I have no (long term) problem with breaking up with people because they are lazy/rubbish in bed/clingy and so on, but frankly if someone broke up with me because of my cock size I'd be a) suprised and b) think I'm better off without her. If a girl did it on a night out I'd consider it to be her loss and go on with things, however I think b. would still apply
I have two male friends for whom having less than D-cups is a dealbreaker. That's the smallest size they'll go for but they both prefer much larger. They refuse to date or go out with any woman with less. I don't meet their cup requirements for anything more than being a friend.
So yes...I'd say rejections based on physical size happens on the male side of the fence too. But I notice they don't get called names or are told they're shallow for admitting women they date must be D cup or larger.
the_reverend said:i don't think the girl has to say "your penis is the wrong size so i'm leaving you," but be a bit more tactful and diplomatic and say it's just not working out or whatever to spare his ego and i think you're fine.
This thread seems to have wandered from "What would you (as a woman) say to your female friends who say size doesn't matter?" to "what would you say to a guy who was too small?"
In both cases, if these were people worth caring about, I'd say that any response should be tactful. No point in rubbing salt in a wound, or insisting that your friends don't know what they're talking about.
I have two male friends for whom having less than D-cups is a dealbreaker. That's the smallest size they'll go for but they both prefer much larger. They refuse to date or go out with any woman with less. I don't meet their cup requirements for anything more than being a friend.
So yes...I'd say rejections based on physical size happens on the male side of the fence too. But I notice they don't get called names or are told they're shallow for admitting women they date must be D cup or larger.
I have two male friends for whom having less than D-cups is a dealbreaker. That's the smallest size they'll go for but they both prefer much larger. They refuse to date or go out with any woman with less. I don't meet their cup requirements for anything more than being a friend.
So yes...I'd say rejections based on physical size happens on the male side of the fence too. But I notice they don't get called names or are told they're shallow for admitting women they date must be D cup or larger.
I think you just confirmed the reason why a lot of men feel like they can't believe a woman when she says she doesn't care about size. I don't think that many guys think women are lying per se, just that they think it looks bad for them to say it because of they are "automatically programed" and can't admit it.
The toughening up bit is a lot easier said than done... No one chooses to be insecure or feel bad about a body part after all. Just ask any woman who thinks her breasts are too small or her ass is too flat.
Sometimes (and I'm not accusing you of this in particular) I get the impression that a lot of women think a man should not be subject to this kind of insecurity about themselves. An insecurity that EVERY woman I have met and talked to long enough has expressed about some part of themselves...
I guess it's just not "manly"??
that's stupid to say Lee_M, you are insecure about something BECAUSE it's important to other people
you can't go the other way
that would be like me staring at some girls tits and telling a flatchested girl she just shouldn't care...
Could you clarify what you mean by "automatically programmed"?
Yes. Of course. That's what most parents teach little children (I hope). I guess you use 'automatically programmed' to mean "socially conditioned'.I always assumed it was every gorl but maybe not. From as far back as i can remember i was taught you don't tell people they are ugly or stupid
and you dont tell men they have a small cock. It is basically programmed into your head that it is something you don't do. The ultimate insult to any man
They would by me... It's hard to tell someone that their personal preference is somehow wrong, but there is a point where preferences get ridiculous and become fetishes. They are past that point.
This is an important point, and absolutely on the money as far as I'm concerned. It's one thing to have a preference, but if one physical attribute becomes a dealbreaker, that person should take a long, hard (pun intended) look at themselves and their motivations.
I think for myself size matters a great deal, and it is a deal breaker for longer term relationships if the guy is not hung. Given that I also require the rest, as well, ie kindness, intelligence, humor, etc, etc.
I have taken a long hard look at myself, and have come to terms that my taste or preference for "horse sized" men is more a fetish/obsession rather than a preference.
I think for myself size matters a great deal, and it is a deal breaker for longer term relationships if the guy is not hung. Given that I also require the rest, as well, ie kindness, intelligence, humor, etc, etc.
I have taken a long hard look at myself, and have come to terms that my taste or preference for "horse sized" men is more a fetish/obsession rather than a preference.