Being a bellydancer, have you incorporated any of the hip movements into your cowgirl grinding repertoire? (See the last 2 gif images). On the second to the last file (new101-sm), if the fit is perfect, then I'm grinding hard on the back wall and she feels the stretch.
Sorry I missed this question when you posted it, RawDog. Here is a rather long answer:
Unfortunately, although I have enjoyed a
lot of woman-on-top sex in past relationships, in my present relationship (which I have been in ever since before I took up belly dancing), we just don't do very much of it. We mostly have sex with him on top or in rear entry positions.
It's a bit disappointing, considering my dancing skills, but we still have plenty of fun in other positions.
I don't have a clue as to what the problem is, but with my present husband, being on top just doesn't feel as stimulating. I think it may have something to do with his foreskin -- I think my pussy may be gripping his skin and just pulling it up and down on the shaft rather than sliding against it and creating friction. I think it is the absence of friction that makes this position not that remarkable with this particular man. Rocking and grinding motions don't seem to fix the problem, either.
I did ride him once when he was lying on his back on our weight bench (I had my feet on the floor, straddling him). That was a bit better, but quite a bit more tiring to my thigh muscles than being on my knees.
I don't know why he tends to generate more friction when he is the one doing most of the work, but he does. So we tend to stick to what works.
The clip you referenced is a depiction of a woman doing perfect pelvic circles (a belly dance move) on a guy's cock. I'm sure I could do this if I tried, as well as executing several other hip moves. But some of the hip movements in belly dance are actually driven from the bending and straightening of the knees more than the abs or pelvis, so could not be duplicated easily in bed.
Having said all that, I will add that belly dancing has still improved my sex life -- even though when I am dancing, I don't feel like I am working my pelvic floor muscles, I know I must be working them
a lot, because my pussy has gotten amazingly strong. It is stronger than it ever was from doing lots of kegels. So, I am naturally pretty tight, but now my husband says it feels like I'm squeezing him all the time, even when I'm not.
Who knows, perhaps sometime I will figure out the trick to making cowgirl work with this man, and then dazzle him with my moves. But unfortunately, so far I have not had the occasion to try.
