Your thoughts about homosexuality

Which words and phrases describe your feelings about same-sex attractions?


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lol. i don't mean. like. girly as in a high voice or anything... but when they are like. OMG GIRL FRIEND NO YOU JUST DIDN"T!! SNAP SNAP... and being serious. lol... wow. i laugh. and then am kinda kreeped out. it used to sorta bother me when i got hit on my gay friends or by ppl in malls or at my job. but. it doesn't anymore. im ok with it... i still tease them though. is that mean? it's just for fun haha
 

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lol. i don't mean. like. girly as in a high voice or anything... but when they are like. OMG GIRL FRIEND NO YOU JUST DIDN"T!! SNAP SNAP...

If you did that imitation in person, do you think I'd be able to tell that you're not gay, or does "imitating" gay guys just come naturally to you? :wink: :tongue:

i still tease them though. is that mean? it's just for fun haha
I don't think it's mean if your "victim" knows that you're sincerely just kidding around. :smile2:
 

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lol they do. and it's no hard feelings usually. they ask me to go to parties with them... shit a lot of my friends prolly think i'm gay anyways. well not my close firends. they know. but ppl that know of me... they are just mad cuz i'm cooler than them and everyone hits on me not just ugly chicks ha ha. the guys aren't ever bad looking either.. tobad i'm not interested... but if i was gay. id do them. lol.
 

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lol they do. and it's no hard feelings usually. they ask me to go to parties with them... shit a lot of my friends prolly think i'm gay anyways. well not my close firends. they know. but ppl that know of me... they are just mad cuz i'm cooler than them and everyone hits on me not just ugly chicks ha ha. the guys aren't ever bad looking either.. tobad i'm not interested... but if i was gay. id do them. lol.

Okay, so you've said that you want to be a stripper. Well here's your chance to audition. Post some pics here and let everybody rate you! :biggrin1:

heh heh...
 

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i just said i'm not putting anything up online. it's not safe. for my career path. lol... maybe in person tho? and i think i've seen your face somewhere. do you do Bear porn? sorry if i'm being rude? lol
 

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I think that sexuality/physical and emotional attraction are complex issues. I think many peeps on this site realize that, so there's less negative stuff about homosexuality or bisexuality. I don't especially feel comfortable with a lot of the labeling about people's sexuality. It's sort of like one more way to divide us all up. I also think sexuality is more on a continuum, not just gay or straight. I'm also aware that I'm exploring these issues in myself all the time so I don't know exactly where I'd put myself on that continuum. I'm thinking it might depend on a person's age and maturity. Just my take.
 

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I think that sexuality/physical and emotional attraction are complex issues. I think many peeps on this site realize that, so there's less negative stuff about homosexuality or bisexuality. I don't especially feel comfortable with a lot of the labeling about people's sexuality. It's sort of like one more way to divide us all up. I also think sexuality is more on a continuum, not just gay or straight. I'm also aware that I'm exploring these issues in myself all the time so I don't know exactly where I'd put myself on that continuum. I'm thinking it might depend on a person's age and maturity. Just my take.

Jon, I think that as time goes on, we're seeing more and more fluidity in the way people define their sexual orientation.

For example, there's another thread about the game, "gay chicken". It's not the most positive or affirming way to look at homosexuality, but the fact that guys are even playing around like that speaks volumes to me. I mean - tongue kissing between straight guys?! :eek: Even if they're just clowning around, there's no way in hell young guys would have done that 20 years ago - not even 10 years ago.
 

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you might want to review certain aspects of Western civilization

most of the prohibitions and taboos, legal and cultural, against gay behaviour arose with the increasing influence of women in the 18th and 19th Centuries, much as the history surrounding the imposition of prohibition and control of alcohol consumption originated with, and was attributable to, the growing influence of women
 

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Your thoughts about homosexuality

  • Gay people should be given lower home interest rates for their initial home purchase because they always improve neighborhood property values. :smile:
  • People who are caught/indicted for gay bashing should be flayed alive in the center of town, at noon, on a stage.
  • IMO We need to stop treating homosexuality like a disease that can be cured if only we found the right genome. Scientists should focus on real problems like curing breast and prostate cancer. :cool:
  • I think we need more talented gay entertainers and less straight actors that look like this or this. (Sorry to disagree with you so openly WillTom27) :redface:
 

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What interests me a lot as a gay man, is the amount of discrimination and "cattiness" in the gay world itself. Whatever your orientation or sexuality is, I cannot stand a "catty" person. By that I mean someone who judges someone on looks, behavior, etc.

I also cannot stand the labels in the gay world, and as I said I am gay myself. Top, bottom, etc. These are questions asked often in an online conversation. Turns me right off to be honest.

I find it difficult to find friends in the gay world because it seems that gay society has made its own rules. I have a life mate, I don't want to be told by others that I'm "settling" too early, and I should expand my horizons with multiple partners. I'm not saying it's wrong to have multiple partners or whatever, it's just not me.

Every time I go to a gay club (OK, not EVERY time) and dance maybe with someone that may ask me, it is only to dance. Because I dance with you does not mean I want to sleep with you.

A bought drink does not equal "blow me".

I personally cannot understand the "girly types" myself and as I said I am gay. While I would never discount any of them as a friend, because of their girly nature I'd never consider them b/f material. Friends is cool. Actually, some of them can be hilarious to be around.

As a gay man I think gay men are more judgemental than anybody.

I agree that society has not "really" accepted us.

If you were a straight man watching a pride parade, would you understand a lot of it? I'm gay and I don't. Lots of queens, fems, leather, etc. This only reaffirms to me what society thinks it already knows about gay people. The stereotypes.

Interesting topic.
 

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Gay, straight, bisexual - they mean nothing more to me than just preferences. Personally I do not judge anyone based on their sexual orientation and preferences. It'd be as unfair as saying someone is wrong for preferring bread to rice or coffee to tea. The way I see is if it makes you happy then it's best for you. And that's all that you should care about. I usually always hope for the best for everyone... unless they're nasty to me then that's another story. :)

Gay? Bisexual? Striaght? Whatever!? We're cool. :)
 

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I think one of the things I've learned from this discussion is that there are all kinds of people of all different persuasions. There are self-loathing gays and gays who love themselves; there are gay-hating straights and there are straights who love the range of sexual orientations out there in the world.

I think there may be more of a liberal/conservative division in American society today than a gay/straight division.
 

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just to go back on that proposition 8 thing, wefollowed that in politics class and its one of the many things that frustrate me in american politics. so much money for the campaign against gay marriage came from the head of the Mormon church based out of state, and that undoubtedly helped the "cause" tremeandously, and it really pisses me off that out of state organisations can do that. but that is off topic sorry.generally, i think most homophobia will die out with my parents generation and be killed off with my generation. people are too liberal to allow this to go on. maybe im an dreamer but i can really see this happening, if, like was mentioned earlier, the military is accepting gays to a degree then we cannot deny the leaps and bounds we have made. results from this site however are hardly a reflection of the world as how many people do you know openly post pictures of their dick for people to judge?
 

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I just voted on this poll. I haven't read all the posts. I am bothered by one item on the poll. That is, having a gay son or gay daughter. Only 38 percent said they would be happy to have a gay son or daughter. I took the word happy to mean that I wouldn't have any reservations about it. Not that I was praying every night to God begging him to make my son gay.

Of all the things to be concerned about.These are some of the things that are most important to me.

1. That my children be healthy and outlive me.
2. That they be happy and content.
3. That they make enough money to be comfortable not be in need.
4. That they are comfortable with their relationship with God as they understand him to be.
5. That they are happy and content in thier sexuality whether it be straight or gay.
6. That they live close enough I can see and visit with them as long as I live.
7. That is if they find a mate they be totally happy and both of them have unconditional love for each other.
8. That they may live a happy and long life fulfilled into the very end.

There are my top eight.

There are so many things much much more important than which gender my children are attracted to. I'm more concerned about the character of that person, the ability of that person to love my child and those kind of questions.
 

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I'm not sure if the "loathe" comment was directed at me or not but I do not loathe my being gay in the least. I just wish that people would judge us based on who we are, not our choice of a sleeping partner.

That said, we all have our preferences. For me, a man should be a man (and I admit my definition of man may sound "loathing"), I don't thnk it is. I want my guy (and he is thankfully) to be a guy's guy. I know that term in itself can go all over the place, in terms of what makes a "man". I enjoy the masculinity of a man, not the femininity (is that a word?) of a man. I think a masculine man can have some traits of what some may classify as feminine, like thoughtfulness, feelings, expressing ones feelings, etc. As an example, it wouldn't bother me if my guy brought me home a dozen roses or something, it proves to me he thinks enough of me to even think of doing that!

The only difference between me and a straight guy is our choice of sleeping partners. Beyond that I don't see myself any differently. Whether I like sports or not (and I love sports btw) does not make me straight or gay for that matter. But I will say that in the gay world, very few men enjoy sports. No big deal. But for a life partner, I'd rather share common interests with someone as I do now, playing hockey, volleyball, etc. That said, I do enjoy the theater, the arts, etc. Stereotypical in that sense? Maybe, but it's who I am.

Another topic to open up sometime would be the amount of discrimination in the gay world itself vs. the amount in the straight world. As I said I generally don't like labels, and here I am using a few in my response. Oh well.

When I mentioned the gay pride parade, in most of what may go by me at that parade, I do not see myself. I enjoy the things most don't see; the things that say we are just like you. I'm sorry, but a drag queen does not present the image of we are just like you. The drag queen may have all the inner qualities (and I can say for sure that many do) of anyone else, but does the "drag" thing that not many understand, including many from the gay world itself.

I like to see PFLAG of parents that support their gay kids, gay parents of adopted children, gay MARRIED parents (I am from Massachusetts), etc. I am someone that will fight for equal rights; I have a partner and have had him for quite some time in my life. Why should he not be covered like a straight couple would be under my insurance say? It makes no sense.

Why does a gay couple, should they decide to hold hands in public, have to worry about even just one guy that may hit you in the head simply because of your sexuality. These are things that straights do not have to worry about. They are given to straights.

It isn't often at all that I hear a gay man question why someone is str8. That said, why do the ask the other way around? I just don't get it. It's all about acceptance.

I know there is a seedy part of even straight life which I won't get into here, just as there are seedy parts of gay life. But it seems the straight seedy life generally gets swept under the rug, while the gay seedy parts are brought out into the open only to further enhance the "stereotype". It's a tough line to draw.

And for the record I don't consider myself a self loathing gay at all. I face the facts of what it is like today to be gay. It is easier now than before from what I have read, but it still isn't easy. I never hear of a hate crime against a straight man; yet I do hear it too often when a gay is involved. I could go on and on but I'll end here.