Your thoughts on polyamory and monogomy

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One night I was perusing through the movie channels and came upon one on ShowTime called Polyamory: Married and Dating. Very interesting show, still seems somewhat staged but caught my attention nonetheless. Basic concept are 3 couples that are... married and dating.

I personally am a monogamous type of guy, it feels great to be w/ just one person w/o having to get the "I'm sharing him" effect. When I was single I always hooked up w/ partnered men and women w/o a care in the world, but now when people try to get me in the sheets and know I'm partnered, it upsets me. Not sure why.

Anyhow, are any of you in a relationship or married but still have NSA sex on the side? Monogamous but known for your partner to have multiple partners on the side? Jealous in a poly relationship?
 

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Anyhow, are any of you in a relationship or married but still have NSA sex on the side?

I am. My wonderful fiance (with whom I am very much in love) have an arrangement where every once in a while we are able to explore other options. It's unconventional and probably wouldn't work for everyone but for us it's been working for the last two years of our 7-year relationship.
 

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or married but still have NSA sex on the side?

Yes I do, without the knowledge of my wife. We married early in life, I was 20. We have a very successful marriage and beautiful, adult children and a grandchild. Yes, we have a great house, have a great extended family and I love all of my family and they love me.

All of that success did not keep the mid-life crisis from hitting me. I have the exotic sports car, I have a job where I charge large amounts of money, I have professional recognition as an expert in my field and I can work when I feel like it.

That still did not put out the fire for experiencing other women. I love my wife but I wanted to experience what is is out there in the female area. I have had many other women, later in my life, that have expanded my appreciation of the female body and pschye.

I use this experience with my wife and appreciate her even more.
 

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My husband and I have been in an open relationship for 18-years. We play together or alone with others. My husband is usually the one that finds my tricks for me, he's always liked fishing. Sexual jealousy is a cultural construct that can be overcome.
 

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I think there is something to be said for the open relationship or Poly type relationships. Since my wife, whom I love, is never in the mood for sex, but satisfies me in my other needs for companionship, intelligent conversation and so on; why not have another person who can satisfy my sexual needs.

If the opportunity were to present itself, I would not say no to a relationship. But right now it would have to be without wife's knowledge as she is very jealous and set in her old ways. Her daughter came out as Pan-Sexual, she has almost entirely disowned her. Sad.

I think a lot of relationships would benefit from openness. Less stress as all needs are being met, more bonding over your common interests since you are fighting less.
 

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I am personally open to anything, so I let my partner dictate the terms. I will tend to be mostly monogamous though, even if the deal was an open relationship.
 

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Polyamory is very different than an open relationship.

Open relationships are about hookups/casual sex. Polyamory is about simultaneous emotional relationships. I’m totally fine with casual hookups, but if a partner wanted to “date” other people, I’d have a problem with it.

I’m no expert on the subject and have no statistical data, but my anecdotal observations suggest that polyamory is more common among straights whereas open relationships are more common among gay men. This may be because men are more open to one-time casual sex.
 

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if we are to accept polyamory, then we must legalize both polygamy and polyandry (1 wife, multiple husbands). knowing how insecure men are about their penis size, dont look for THAT to become legal in the US any time soon. LOL!!!
 

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Polyamory is very different than an open relationship.

Open relationships are about hookups/casual sex. Polyamory is about simultaneous emotional relationships. I’m totally fine with casual hookups, but if a partner wanted to “date” other people, I’d have a problem with it.

I’m no expert on the subject and have no statistical data, but my anecdotal observations suggest that polyamory is more common among straights whereas open relationships are more common among gay men. This may be because men are more open to one-time casual sex.

Agree completely with the first half. :fing02:
 

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For me it depends on whether I am single, free and easy or in a relationship. In relationships I am monogamous. It isn't for religious or moral reasons, it is purely convenience and having condom free sex. You first have to get the all clear for STDs. Monogamy is just so easy and simple. Strewing around while in marriage or partnership is just fraught with potential problems. I like a stress free life, and having lots of sex, stress does take the fun out of both. When I am not in a relationship, I am just a male slut, but after being told by my partner that she did not love me anymore, I have gone down the route of Friends with Benefits, I have five of those. The downside is getting the time to be together with our commitments getting in the way. Sometimes it is just easier to go to a bar and do the one night stand thing. Anyhow at my age it is better to stick to FWB.
 

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going on 33 years with the same wonderful woman and what a woman she is! She still fucks the shit out of me and we are committed to each other. She still lights my fire and wears my cock out. Our bedroom life cannot be described. It is still full of intense incredible sex that I cannot find words to describe. We still say every week or so "how can the orgasms get any better." I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that we know one another so well! We love each other! Just wanted to share our wonderful love story!!!
 

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My wife fulfills me in every way except one. We are both successful professionals with successful adult children, and all the possessions we want. She is never horny anymore. I have had four ladies over the years with whom I had a FWB relationship. Nothing committed, but we were friends who helped each other relieve stress and had fun. Three were members here. Two of those three lived 300 miles away and I only saw them whe I traveled on business. All of them ended up in other relationships and moved except one. Lost contact with her and don’t even know if she is ok. I won’t fuck some random woman. I also won’t fuck some slut who is banging five guys a week. I just need a friend who enjoys my wit, good convo, and likes sex with a thick, hard dick.
 

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Fair enough. I would frizzle away in this town, Alice Springs, without my friends with benefits. It is a bit cloak and daggerish as they are married, or partnered with children, and I, well, don't want to be the cause of marital strife especially in this town. But, I need my release and my conscience is clear. I am thinking that I am looking for threesomes again. Mutual consent for three way sex, beats all the secrecy, and hiding.