I've used the net for a long time and pretty much managed to stay out of trouble by sticking to the rules I made for myself when I first used it. I have had two experiences which were fairly mild to what some people have gone through :-
My husband was often away working so I'd chat online, I started talking to this guy who was a techy and had some nice conversations. My husband would occasionally use the same chat rooms and he also had one or two chats with this guy, I was unaware of this. Then I found out from someone else that this guy had stalked someone he'd met at one of the meetings this group had, it had become so bad she'd had the police involved, this was confirmed by a few other people whose word I trusted. Imagine my surprise when I got a phone call from this guy - my dopey husband had given him our phone number so he could help him with a computer problem. I went mad at my husband and the calls continued. Knowing his history which had included a fair amount of violence and that he had a fair idea of where I lived I was reluctant to offend him by telling him to fuck off, so I skirted around it when he suggested we meet. His phone calls never got abusive but being aware of what he'd done in the past was pretty scary. We couldn't change our number because it was also the number my husband communicated with hundreds of business associates with, but we did get caller id, however he must have realised this when none of his calls were answered because he started calling from different numbers. He became increasingly pressing on the subject of meeting. I don't know what would have happened eventually, I suppose I'd have had to tell him to piss off, but I left my husband and I don't really know how it ended up as my ex husband didn't talk to me for about three years and when I do see him now he's still frosty.
The other one was on a site similar to this. I chatted with this woman regularly, one night we naughty cammed together
We both had fun and I thought that would be it. The next night she asked if I fancied messing around again, I said no and she became quite unpleasantly insistent that I should. I told her to fuck off and she started sniping at me in the chat room off the site. I ignored her, I was a regular at that site and they all knew her little gibes were untrue. I blocked her on yahoo. For the next few nights I'd have unknown id's try to access my yahoo which were all new accounts she'd created. I got hundreds of emails asking why I was being so nasty to her when she loved me - totally nutty stuff. In the chat room she accused me of net stalking her. This was the point at which about ten other people in the chat room stood up and said 'errr yeah she did that to us too', so why had no one ever warned me or warned all these other people? Anyway as so many of us said she was a nut she deleted her account.
There was a bit more to both experiences than I've said but those were the gist of them and I kept it to the main points for brevity. I consider my little bad experiences very minor and over the eleven years I've used the net I think I've done pretty well in keeping out of major trouble.
Anyone else want to share their bad experiences? Or good experiences come to think of it :tongue:
My husband was often away working so I'd chat online, I started talking to this guy who was a techy and had some nice conversations. My husband would occasionally use the same chat rooms and he also had one or two chats with this guy, I was unaware of this. Then I found out from someone else that this guy had stalked someone he'd met at one of the meetings this group had, it had become so bad she'd had the police involved, this was confirmed by a few other people whose word I trusted. Imagine my surprise when I got a phone call from this guy - my dopey husband had given him our phone number so he could help him with a computer problem. I went mad at my husband and the calls continued. Knowing his history which had included a fair amount of violence and that he had a fair idea of where I lived I was reluctant to offend him by telling him to fuck off, so I skirted around it when he suggested we meet. His phone calls never got abusive but being aware of what he'd done in the past was pretty scary. We couldn't change our number because it was also the number my husband communicated with hundreds of business associates with, but we did get caller id, however he must have realised this when none of his calls were answered because he started calling from different numbers. He became increasingly pressing on the subject of meeting. I don't know what would have happened eventually, I suppose I'd have had to tell him to piss off, but I left my husband and I don't really know how it ended up as my ex husband didn't talk to me for about three years and when I do see him now he's still frosty.
The other one was on a site similar to this. I chatted with this woman regularly, one night we naughty cammed together
We both had fun and I thought that would be it. The next night she asked if I fancied messing around again, I said no and she became quite unpleasantly insistent that I should. I told her to fuck off and she started sniping at me in the chat room off the site. I ignored her, I was a regular at that site and they all knew her little gibes were untrue. I blocked her on yahoo. For the next few nights I'd have unknown id's try to access my yahoo which were all new accounts she'd created. I got hundreds of emails asking why I was being so nasty to her when she loved me - totally nutty stuff. In the chat room she accused me of net stalking her. This was the point at which about ten other people in the chat room stood up and said 'errr yeah she did that to us too', so why had no one ever warned me or warned all these other people? Anyway as so many of us said she was a nut she deleted her account. There was a bit more to both experiences than I've said but those were the gist of them and I kept it to the main points for brevity. I consider my little bad experiences very minor and over the eleven years I've used the net I think I've done pretty well in keeping out of major trouble.
Anyone else want to share their bad experiences? Or good experiences come to think of it :tongue:
