Youtube Video: "Telling my dad that I am gay-LIVE"

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  1. Water dragon

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    I think this is a really great video to watch, a military gay man free from don’t ask don’t tell; telling his family he is gay. It's cute to see how nervous the guy is and I would be just as scared at such a potentially defining time of one’s life.

    Anyway I just wanted to pass the video along so I hope everyone enjoys it :smile:



    Telling my dad that I am gay-LIVE - YouTube
     
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    In the Netherlands we have a program called 'uit de kast' (out of the closet) in which a presentor follows a guy or girl who is about to tell their parents and friends they are gay.
    It is a very sincere tv program that mostly shows the struggle young gay people have before telling others. So far only about five episodes are made. I think it is a great format and should be made abroad too.
    I could post a link, but it is all in Dutch, so not many of you can understand a thing they are saying, but I wanted to let you all know.
     
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    I put this on my fb page the day it first came out. It's so touching. This soldier has been putting up more anonymous ("headless")vids for months detailing his life as a gay man in the service before the repeal of DADT. Check them out on youtube.
     
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    All his videos are under the name 'areyousuprised?',
    (Note that an 'r' is missing in the first syllable of 'surprised.')
    I posted on the thread where he comes out to his father, who sounds totally accepting and like a very nice man.
    Later, I went to find my post and new posts were being added at the rate of about one per second.
    I really admire that soldier and I think he's doing something very valuable.
     
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    I agree it is very powerful...and I like the faceless buildups to this moment. Congrats to him for a job well done. Sadly, as this has gone viral...the focus on how 'hot' he is rather than the message. I wonder if this would get the same level of attention if he was a frumpy average joe....just sayin'.
     
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    I find it doubtful.
    Sad but true.
     
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    "Hey daddy... Hey bud!"
    It's adorable. There's no two ways about it.
     
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    I fail to understand why this is a a public moment.
     
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    I found it very touching. Felt that maybe the dad had a sense that his son was gay and though he did not say it was ready for for this day. Kind of made me think of what I would do. However, like dad here, love should be unconditional. You raise your children to be happy, productive, responsible and caring and it shows in this relationship.
    The respect he has for his dad was special and valued as his dad was first on his list to tell.
     
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    Very touching and, yes, the guy is very cute. Good for him, and I'm glad it worked out well.

    I'd like to give my parents the benefit of the doubt, but I don't think they would have reacted as well if, back when I was this guy's age, I told them that I liked girls and boys.
     
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    saw the link posted on a friends wall - didn't realize he was a soldier until afterwards..

    Great video, and, i think, inspiring and a sign of things to come. Good for him!
     
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    Carry on, soldier.
     
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    thanks everyone, this is why I love LPSG so much, a fun and free community.

    Now it's time for me to learn some dutch lol for the tv show 'uit de kast' (out of the closet). Thanks pepijn, maybe I will find subs if I am lucky lol.

    ok take care every one :D
     
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    Well, it certainly doesn't have to be.
    But why can't the soldier choose to make it so?
    I think there are real benefits in everyone seeing the human moment behind the decision to tell the truth about oneself ... and for a father to remain unconditionally accepting.
    No harm, no foul.
     
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    Click...dial tone....."Uhhh... Dad".."Hello?"...."Can you hear me"...Fuck. LOL
     
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    Your point? :rolleyes:
     
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    I thought it was a great video. Im so glad it all worked out.
     
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    I agree. This can be just as hard, if not harder, of a conversation for the parents to have, and while this father seemed to hold up well, I think he deserved a little more respect than to have his reaction recorded for public viewing. I'll get flack for saying this, but that was a little bit of a self-centered move on this young man's part. And he's about a 6/10.
     
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    Full disclosure: I am gay, have not watched the vid, have never served in the military.... and I don't like this.

    I'm glad the soldier can be honest and still serve, DADT is thankfully dead. I just think it shows a really selfish streak to hit your parents with big news ON YOUTUBE. The dad did not have any choice as to how public his reaction would be and absent any axe to grind, the son should have told the dad in private.

    In other words, there's a big famewhore streak in this whole story that is a big turn-off.

    Beyond that, I wouldn't recommend coming out via a phone call for that matter but that's besides the point.
     
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    I was touched deeply when I saw this. I don't know why, but it was just a relief to see that someone was no longer forced to hide from who they are. I commend him for his bravery both as a soldier and as a man. It takes balls to be both. He is the epitome of what it means to be an American: strong, courageous, accepting and real.
     
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