I have a 5.5 inch penis (fully erect), and I can genuinely say I've never once felt even the slightest size insecurity or envy. I'm perfectly content with what I have and have never once even considered whether a partner would be disappointed once I slipped off my underwear (they never have been). My penis is there for
my pleasure, not his—the same way that his penis is there for
his pleasure, not mine. And speaking of partners, I've gotten just as excited over a small dick as I have over a large one (most have been either average or on the small side). I've never once looked at a partner's penis and thought, "Gee, how is he going to please me with that?" On the contrary, my thought is always, "I can't wait to get down there and please
him!"
My suggestion: Don't put any energy into thinking about the size of your penis. If a partner doesn't appreciate what nature gave you, they're not worth worrying about (and I would apply this all across the board, not just to gay men).
BTW—and please pardon me for getting on a soapbox here—I'm so freakin' sick of hearing this "gay community driven by looks and physical attributes" talk, like gays are the shallowest people on the planet; firstly, because I've been out in this "gay" community for many years now, and there are all kinds of guys out there if you take the time to explore and get to know them; and secondly,
all communities are driven by looks to a large degree (seriously, do you think social media is all about conversation?). And lastly, if you can stomach it (I can't), take a good look at the vast majority of the reality TV garbage out there and tell me it's not "driven by looks."
Just my 2 cents...