My middle brother has a hammer.. he stayed at the house for a few weeks, would leave doors open and wander around like it's nothing.. . Me And wife saw it one evening after he shpwered.. it hangs soft bigger and thicker then mine hard.. deff had a little rage at my family genetics and my wife's googly eyed grin..
Definitely need to see a side by side of you two!! Next time he's in, you and your wife should leave the door open and give him something to look at and maybe join.