I can shed some light on the girth issue. Most bottoms can't take girth nearly as well as length. There are a few talented guys out there that can, and you know you who you are. Not all guys with extra length have extra girth, personally I'm only a little above average length, but my girth is right up there in the extremely rare category. If you're looking to take a big cock, try and find a toy to practice on, that's the one thing guys who could handle girth had in common, they built up to it before even trying to take the real thing.