I can't deny it. I'm jealous of my partner. If the wind so much as blows across him, he gets an erection. His sex drive is so much higher than mine and it bothers the hell out of me. Mainly because I know it shouldn't be that way.
See, I used to have a high sex drive too. Jacking off 4-5 times a day. Then I met my most recent ex and that changed. I hated being touched by him and I dreaded sex. He was an evil old man that treated me poorly. I never knew your mind could affect so much. But, I'm told that 95% of the erection starts in the brain.
Now, after 5.5 years of being with that ex, I took a year off of dating and such to try and get things back to normal, but I seem to have developed some sort of aversion to sex with another guy. I'll do it, but it doesn't feel the way it used to. I find myself just waiting for my orgasm and not enjoying the sex. My partner's understanding comes across as condescending or pitying of my situation.
I barely get full erections anymore. Porn does little for me and it frustrates the hell outta me. Can one really bad sexual relationship of 5.5 years have this profoud of an effect on a person? Seems to. I was a psych minor in college. I know there are things that can do a lot of damage to a persons mental state. I just never knew something like this could happen.
My partner says he doesn't always have to get off. Just because he gets hard, he's ok if we don't always get him off. Those words are little consolation. I feel inadaquate and less than because of all my troubles. I suggested a sex therapist for us. Other than my jealousy of his immense sex drive, I really am into him and it drives me insane that I can't sexually perform for him as much as I used to.
What's worse is that I can feel it. The opening stages of being hot and bothered for him, but I can never get fully there. I've tried Levitra with no success. I feel like I'm whining, but if I don't get how I feel out of my system, I worry that I may simply explode verbally on my partner for no good reason.
I just never knew how much your mind played in sexual arousal. I hope there is something I can do about this. I want to be the horny little bastard I used to be again.
See, I used to have a high sex drive too. Jacking off 4-5 times a day. Then I met my most recent ex and that changed. I hated being touched by him and I dreaded sex. He was an evil old man that treated me poorly. I never knew your mind could affect so much. But, I'm told that 95% of the erection starts in the brain.
Now, after 5.5 years of being with that ex, I took a year off of dating and such to try and get things back to normal, but I seem to have developed some sort of aversion to sex with another guy. I'll do it, but it doesn't feel the way it used to. I find myself just waiting for my orgasm and not enjoying the sex. My partner's understanding comes across as condescending or pitying of my situation.
I barely get full erections anymore. Porn does little for me and it frustrates the hell outta me. Can one really bad sexual relationship of 5.5 years have this profoud of an effect on a person? Seems to. I was a psych minor in college. I know there are things that can do a lot of damage to a persons mental state. I just never knew something like this could happen.
My partner says he doesn't always have to get off. Just because he gets hard, he's ok if we don't always get him off. Those words are little consolation. I feel inadaquate and less than because of all my troubles. I suggested a sex therapist for us. Other than my jealousy of his immense sex drive, I really am into him and it drives me insane that I can't sexually perform for him as much as I used to.
What's worse is that I can feel it. The opening stages of being hot and bothered for him, but I can never get fully there. I've tried Levitra with no success. I feel like I'm whining, but if I don't get how I feel out of my system, I worry that I may simply explode verbally on my partner for no good reason.
I just never knew how much your mind played in sexual arousal. I hope there is something I can do about this. I want to be the horny little bastard I used to be again.
