I can remember being much younger...back in my 20's, just getting started with free love, birth control and condoms.....Back when there were no large assortment of sex toys with which to blow off steam. I used to use that hard white plastic termed a "muscle relaxer" that came by mail order only and took 2 size D batteries....no energized batteries existed, nor were they rechargeable.... Anyway....getting back to the point,
after relaxing from a nice romp in bed, perhaps you'd light a cigarette or share one... Then my partner would seriously look over and ask the then dreaded question.... "Did you cum?" I do know that this was sincerely out of his concern for me to have just as good a time as did he....as his ejaculation solidified he had reached his peak and beyond....
My response was always a fishing expedition of how much of the truth I could honestly tell without hurting his feelings.... I'd say things like, "Oh it was very good", or "Gosh, you had so much energy, you really wore me out this time", or worst, i would just lie and say "yes"....and then could hardly wait for him to leave, so i could put that vibe on my clit and have a screaming orgasm. Once, i got caught....i thought he had left but he forgot something and came back into the bedroom, where i was going at it, in vibrator bliss. His comment to me was, " well i guess i didn't do a good enough job"!!!
You could say i was "vibrator spoiled", but what I did know was how to get myself off by using my fingers or some sort of clit stimulation....but for some reason i didn't know how to translate that into action....didn't know how to put the two together. Now you might ask, well why wouldn't she do that during the act.... I'll explain....and these are just MY experiences, and not of women in general.... Anyway...men were not as open back then...if you NEEDED something else beyond their cock to get you off....you were labeled as "frigid", "hard to please" incapable of letting go ....and the reverse, if you enjoyed it or asked a man for sex....then you were labeled a "nympho", "easy" or a "whore and a slut!" Some used to say a woman who enjoyed sex had a "white liver"....I haven't figured that one out to this day, but i digress.
Anyway....I come from a strict religious background, a PK and was taught that good girls didn't have sex, let alone enjoy sex and that it was more for men to enjoy and women to oblige....thank goodness times have changed!!!
There are so many avenues today for one to be satisfied from all sorts of toys, techniques and partners who are conscientious about the female anatomy and open to wanting to know what turns one on and willing to work towards mutual fulfillment....
After years of learning my body and how it responses to certain stimuli and knowing what's required to get myself to the big "O", I stand as woman who knows what she wants and needs in order to be fulfilled and I make no apologies.... I do however have guardrails that i don't cross...all of my own moral compass...
It's funny because it seems we are having more sex with ourselves these days, even that's gotten much better than the days of yesteryear!!!I
It's been a long time since i've heard a man ask, "Did you cum"?....because he doesn't have to....the proof is in that devilish smile on my face...
after relaxing from a nice romp in bed, perhaps you'd light a cigarette or share one... Then my partner would seriously look over and ask the then dreaded question.... "Did you cum?" I do know that this was sincerely out of his concern for me to have just as good a time as did he....as his ejaculation solidified he had reached his peak and beyond....
My response was always a fishing expedition of how much of the truth I could honestly tell without hurting his feelings.... I'd say things like, "Oh it was very good", or "Gosh, you had so much energy, you really wore me out this time", or worst, i would just lie and say "yes"....and then could hardly wait for him to leave, so i could put that vibe on my clit and have a screaming orgasm. Once, i got caught....i thought he had left but he forgot something and came back into the bedroom, where i was going at it, in vibrator bliss. His comment to me was, " well i guess i didn't do a good enough job"!!!
You could say i was "vibrator spoiled", but what I did know was how to get myself off by using my fingers or some sort of clit stimulation....but for some reason i didn't know how to translate that into action....didn't know how to put the two together. Now you might ask, well why wouldn't she do that during the act.... I'll explain....and these are just MY experiences, and not of women in general.... Anyway...men were not as open back then...if you NEEDED something else beyond their cock to get you off....you were labeled as "frigid", "hard to please" incapable of letting go ....and the reverse, if you enjoyed it or asked a man for sex....then you were labeled a "nympho", "easy" or a "whore and a slut!" Some used to say a woman who enjoyed sex had a "white liver"....I haven't figured that one out to this day, but i digress.
Anyway....I come from a strict religious background, a PK and was taught that good girls didn't have sex, let alone enjoy sex and that it was more for men to enjoy and women to oblige....thank goodness times have changed!!!
There are so many avenues today for one to be satisfied from all sorts of toys, techniques and partners who are conscientious about the female anatomy and open to wanting to know what turns one on and willing to work towards mutual fulfillment....
After years of learning my body and how it responses to certain stimuli and knowing what's required to get myself to the big "O", I stand as woman who knows what she wants and needs in order to be fulfilled and I make no apologies.... I do however have guardrails that i don't cross...all of my own moral compass...
It's funny because it seems we are having more sex with ourselves these days, even that's gotten much better than the days of yesteryear!!!I
It's been a long time since i've heard a man ask, "Did you cum"?....because he doesn't have to....the proof is in that devilish smile on my face...
