Found my sons used condoms

I think he'll figure out where they went! Maybe it just turns him on to save them or it's like a record of how many times he's had sex, you know instead of notches on the bed-post! If he knows how to use a condom I'd say you've got nothing to worry about, just let him enjoy the sex.

talk like a man to him....he is still your son.....but believe me he will appreciate your discussions....thank gawd he is using the condoms...

Proving once again that the uses for Tupperware are endless. :biggrin1:

Cum doesn't keep too well at room temp, either... must've stunk.

I also as a kid saved condoms. (I'd wash them out) and jerk off in them. I kept them in a box in the closet at a grandmother's house - where I thought my secret would be safe. Unfortunately one day the box disappeared and nothing was ever mentioned by her or by my father.
Rather embarrasing though.

my guess is it was a record of the dead.

cleaning dorm rooms over the summer it wasn't uncommon to find a stash like this left behind in someone's room.

when he gets to the stage he doesn't need to keep count or track to justify his man hood he will wrap them in toilet paper and throw them away like everyone else.

SInce you threw them away, he'll know that someone found them. I'd definitely talk with him about it, although I would have probably talked to him first before tossing. Don't know just how open your sexual talks have been, but openess is very important.

thanks guys for all your insight, I think I am going to have a modest, comfortable conversation with him. Just to see where his head is at with the situation. I dont want me to feel embarrassed so I think I should mention it to him.

invisibleman, while I totally understand your concern, I feel that if done right, it could really open up the avenue of communication

Not about condoms, but I had a conversation with my nephew recently about the transition from teen to man. As a teen we guys do a good deal of the weird and gross stuff we did because we want to fit in and appeal to our other guy friends. It's an acceptance thing.

At a point you either realize that your buddies are moving on or you are among the first to.

I did this by going out for a beer with my neph. I dressed casual but mature, took him to a nice place, not a hang out. A place with people just a bit older than he. He was definitely soaking in the different class of men and women around.

When we got to a point where I wanted the coaching to begin, the conversation was totally about ME. My days in college, bars and the different choices I started to make in clothes and behavior that appealed to women friends. I never made any direct comparisons to him. They are bright enough to draw their own conclusions.

I'm not a dad, having decided I liked men better during college, but I've found that avoiding direct inquires and confrontations and using demonstration by example gets the point across just as well. Plus, they get practical information in the process.

It may come up, or not, but perhaps you can think back to how you recorded your personal triumphs and share that. Unless you used a cigar box instead of tupperware.

at least he uses condoms!!

In your talks, give him a lot of credit for using condoms, as they should be used properly.

good god man why cause the boy trauma?

It's none of your business.

reverse roles and if you can't think of plausible explanations then why would you force him to come up with them.

Human sexuality is complex and doesn't need to be explained,

you'll only cause unnecessary pain,
and distance between the two of you,

and for what, to satisfy your curiosity?

just let it go!

you don't need to know.

I know it's probably late , but I would have just left them, you should not have been disgusted , at least he is being smart and safe ! I hope you don't find it to weird , i'm bi , but I think the idea of you son having hot sex with his young gr is pretty fucking hot , you should have just clean around it so he knows you were there , but it will just be between you and him the way it should be and cool, be a cool dad so he can come to you and tell you anything

So Did you speak to him ?

I agree with ruggero. Respect your son's privacy. As long as what he's doing isn't an unwelcome imposiiton on others, who's business is it but his (and his partner/s)?