Critique my writing style-no haters just looking for advice

I had a traumatic brain injury in 2000. I had to learn everything like colors,counting,everything it was awful.
I had a frontal lobe injury so saying the name of anything was very difficult. It is called word recall and it drove me just about crazy because it was so frustrating.
I could only see a picture in my mind but could not say the word for it even though I knew I knew the freakin' word. That was a living hell. I took the GED test for English and writing and I passed. Maybe the test was too easy.That was all they had to offer at the local high school I went to for rehabilitation.
I had a social worker in Florida that was helping me with my rehabilitation. I also got free classes at Nova Southeastern University in Ft. Lauderdale.
For the first 4 years I could not put a number in a phone except for one at a time which was frustrating because I couldn't remember the numbers for even a second to press the keys. I couldn't use automated systems.
I had to learn how to write a check and I had to learn how to spell my name.
A lot of physical therapy was necessary.
I couldn't understand how to use appliances. God ,that was hard.
In 2005-2006 I still could not comprehend directions even though I could read them. I had to write the directions for everything on copy paper and tape them to the wall next to everything I wanted to use like the alarm clock because I couldn't retain the information. I have a sign on my wall that tells me how to forward my calls.
I started making progress and was able to start typing when I took Lyrica. It stopped my seizures and headaches. It has been a miracle. I got off Depakote. I found out that the seizure medicines had not allowed my brain to heal.
I had an auto accident in 2005 to ad to my issues but I ended up getting some powerful anti inflammatory meds and the swelling went down in my brain and now I can do math again.I have a lot less problems with word recall.
Just recently I got some therapy machines for my neck and back pain and I can concentrate a lot more since I am not in as much pain.
As soon as I pay off the $5000 I now owe I can go back to school.
I haven't had any help with my rehabilitation other than medication since I left Fl. 2 1/2 years ago.
I used to teach gymnastics and dance before my injury. I obviously had to change careers as I could not even get on an escalator without help. I couldn't comprehend how for some reason and it gave me nightmares. I was terrified of escalators.
For some reason my feet still know how to Salsa. I can still dance to hip hop and they used to call me Snow Black.lol
One thing I could do is give the definition of words but not the other way around. That must be two different ares of the brain. When doctors or therapists talk about the body and they point to it i can see a picture but I can't remember the names from my A&P classes. Like planter fasciitis. I called another therapist and explained what was going on in a friends foot and he told me it was plantar fasciitis and that I was correct to think that putting pressure on it could only make it worse. I thought I didn't know the treatment(only what not to do) because of my amnesia but he told me they don't teach it in the classes I took and you learn the treatments in the field anyway. I have an empathic ability to help problems in the body and I was able to retain it but not what the name of anything was. I knew how to do myofascial release before I went to school and I am blessed with a natural talent. I was able to help my assistant in '05 . She had a bunion and was a candidate for surgery but I gently stretched it over time and relocated the joint for her. Chiropractors tell me I have the gift.
At the time I did that I couldn't drive because I had trouble remembering which color was red or green but I could relocate a joint out of place. Finally last year I could remember "red like stop sign" and then I had to remember that I couldn't go until it changed. My friends and employees had to keep reminding me for a long time.
I had an assistant in Fl. who didn't have a license so I drove.She was a nervous wreck having to tell me every little thing to do,like use the turn signal ,stop,and the big one-look to see if another car is in the way before getting over! They had to tell me every time. It was hard and really scary.
2006 was when I really knew how to drive and I can safely remember what to do.
I had to find assistants who were willing to tell me what to do all day when we ran errands instead of doing everything for me.
Now that I could mentally accomplish tasks like writing I had to over come my physical problems like not having feeling in my fingertips. .I know I used to type 50 wpm before my accident . All of my fingers don't work either. My right pinky finger does not bend by itself on the top joint.
I got a typing CD ROM but I can't keep my fingers in the right place at all yet.
I guess I have to ask my primary doctor if he has any suggestions .How are people with disabilities going to college? People with no fingers type so I just have to find out how to overcome my remaining challenges.
Do I really write that bad or is it just the haters bitching every time they can?
I haven't gone to the Community College here yet to be evaluated. I definitely plan to take writing classes.
I want to expand my vocabulary and it is very frustrating not being able to express myself. I just need to re learn the rest of the English language. I have ides I want to express but I don't know the words for them.That is extremely frustrating. I have to take A&P over. That is anatomy and physiology. I have already helped a number of friends study for tests. I always know the body parts just not the names of them- weird.
I know I can't remember from day to day where to start new paragraphs. The classes I took just skipped over that like it didn't matter much for that particular exam. It was more like pass/fail not really mastery.I have a lot of readers on another website where many people subscribe to my blogs.
They enjoy my writing.
They are just reading the information not looking for errors.
Only one person complained about the way I ramble but that was just some idiot that I dated that constantly criticized me about shit he knew nothing about anyway.
I know I need to learn to write better. I know I have to over come the way I ramble.I do that when I talk as well but not nearly as bad as I used to. It is one of the effects of my brain injury. It used to be very hard for me to even complete a sentence.
Can anyone recommend a CD ROM or website to improve my writing skills?
I hate to use workbooks. I need something really easy to comprehend.
I am just going to put anyone who takes this opportunity to unfairly bash me on ignore. I am only interested in getting information on how to improve my writing and if anyone wants to point out errors so I can understand what it means to ramble. I know it when I read other people's posts on craigslist or myspace. I don't know how to recognize it in my own writing.
Mostly people who will complain about me are just people who don't like me and are just looking to discredit me or trying to hurt my feelings,which won't work. I never take shit personal from haters.
I just wanted to know if there are some basic things I could/need to change about my writing style to communicate better and to be more normal.
or
Is it just the typical bashing that haters always try.

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What about those who want to fairly bash you? :p

S&S - this is not a request for a critique of your writing style, this is an attempt to get as many people as possible to read your hard knock story.LOL, this is when I wish I could remember what I wanna say...
Something like putting on your mouth.
shoot!! can't remember! like "lock it"
ZIP IT!!!
LoL
hahaha zip it!
ah,thanks .see it's helping already.
I love this forum!
You know, I'm sure that was a hell of an experience - I have an academic background that gives me some insight in to the problems you faced after your injury and the trials and tribulations of re-educating an injured brain all the things you used to take for granted. You seem to have come an awful long way down the road to recovery, I hope that progress continues for you. Kudos on all the hard work and determination.

However - none of that difficulty in your life makes you intrinsically likeable. You have this obsession with 'haters', people trying to 'discredit' you - people here express their opinions fairly freely - often with little regard to those they are disagreeing with as a tool to get those opinions across. If some people come across as haters of you personally go look how they interact with other members - chances are you will see similar behaviour - In other words, it isn't always about you. Other times you will just meet a personality mismatch - in which case ignoring (either with the technical help of the Ignore list or by your own actions) may be the best option.

You also have an obsession with proving you are what you show in your gallery. I have looked through your gallery - you are pretty woman with a good body. If people want to think you are a fake let them - it doesn't change the facts as you know them. It doesn't help that you have a profile that says 26 and then you go and post info that clearly puts you as older than 26 but you don't bother to update your profile. But that is your own thing - I'm observing, not advising.

Having said that I will break out of observation mode for my last comment. Lighten up. This is predominantly a fun place - it is also a place of strongly held opinions and (mainly) free speech. If you are going to take everything negative said here around and about you as 'hating', you will be ignoring 60% of the site within weeks. Probably including me.
 
You've obviously gone through a lot, so you must be strong. You need to apply that strength towards those who might put you down. You have much more on your plate to worry about than a few people who may not like you or your writing.

From what I see you do ramble a bit and repeat yourself.

I know when I'm in writing mode I just let it flow then I go back and break it down. Sometimes moving sections, deleting others or making corrections .

That is what I do, you'll need to find what works for you. Have you thought of using a ghost writer? Someone who can either write what you dictate or go over what you've written and assist with puncuation, paragraphing, etc.

what ever you decide I'd say your doing pretty damn well for what you've been through. Good Luck.
 
Sorry to hear about the troubles, and excellent on your recovery.

On writing in LPSG, my recommendations are....

a) Pick someone's writing style/philosophy that you like, and copy it shamelessly. For example, Osiris is always kind and understanding. Uncut is a true gentleman. Pecker and BigDuder are the kings of funny one-liners. MB truly is Miss Piggy. Etc. Etc.

b) Keep it short. One or two or three paragraphs max. This will help you focus on your point.

and most important of all --

c) Humor and grace are the best weapons. If someone says something hurtful, toss it off with a funny comeback. Or gracefully acknowledge their point and agree to disagree.

I got covered in mud quite a few times when I was first posting here. I learned that apologies worked very well. I also learned that the best way out of a mess was to be an nice as possible.

Good luck. You're a gorgeous gal, and you just need to work a little bit on your writing.
 
Your dramatic recovery is an amazing story. It is good to see that you remember so much about it. If you have good use of your memory you can do many things to improve your writing. Without discussing boring grammar books just try reading; and I don't mean blogs. I mean books! Read 1 chapter a night and the next morning try to write about what you remember from your reading.

Remember, reading blogs is fun, but there is no discipline in it. You will never learn to write until you understand what you read.

As you continue you will begin to recognize the art of writing. That is what sets real writers apart from us hobbyist. That is a gift.
 
Thank you for sharing your story. Your courage, determination and willingness to show your shortcomings say volumes about your personal strength and perseverance. You've got a good spirirt. I am humbled by it all.

The replies you've gotten thus far are pretty good, so I will try to not duplicate the advice.

A fundamental question to ask: For what and for whom are you writing? If your writing is primarily for personal expression and mental exercise, then use "poetic license" as your passcard and just go for it. Otherwise, if you're writing for professional or more formal purposes, then (for now) ask a friend to help you with editing and proof-reading. Always hold on to your rough drafts, edits and final drafts, and refer to them when you start to write something new again. If sometimes you want to write a "disclaimer" explaining your situation, then do so quickly (1-2 sentences) and move on. And do not be apologetic!

From a practical point: Many people make the mistake of writing the exact the same way that they talk. Most of the time it just does not translate very well, because the "spoken word" is quite different from the "written word". So, punctuation and phrasing are very critical tools for conveying the right idea to the reader. Whenever you proof your work, try to look at it with "fresh eyes"-- as if you're the reader seeing it for the first time. It's difficult to do at first, but it's a great writer's skill to hone and to have.

Also, I advise you is to continue writing and READING. Find a favorite book and notice the writer's use of grammar, punctuation, formatting and syntax. As "HOTMILF" suggested, find a writer's style and pattern your own from it. Do not plagerize. Using a writer's blueprint to help fashion your personal style is fine, however, your thoughts and words must always be yours.

My most important suggestion to you is DO NOT GIVE ANY MORE WORDPLAY OR AIRTIME TO THE HATERS AND NAYSAYERS!! With each moment and every word you spend writing about their negativity, you waste valuable energy and precious time you need for your positivity. Rather, you may want to write about your supporters-- the heroes and sheroes that have helped you through your fantastic journey. As a reader, I would prefer to learn about them and how much they mean to you. It would also make a wonderful writing exercise and challenge.

Finally, I want you to consider the blog that you just wrote as the first rough draft of your "Sugar & Spice Chronicles". Do not take it for granted. In fact, cherish it! No matter what anyone else thinks or says, always know that your ideas, your words are not idiotic ramblings. They are testament to your journey. When you take the time to commit your thoughts to paper, you immortalize yourself, and you allow others to share that journey. There will undoubtedly be people who will suffer and survive the same tragedy as you did. Those potential readers, knowing that you write from the same place where they may sit, will read your story for the same courage and perseverance with which you so effectively conveyed to us here.

Peace.
 
Sugarandspice, I know you consider me one of the haters; but I'm really not. This blog is eye opening and IMO should have been your first post to this site! I am in awe of how much has happend to you and that you have been able to not only survive but thrive. Interestingly enough I suspected there was something "wrong" with you (for lack of a better word) but didn't know what. I am embarassed to admit I have stopped just short of calling you retarded on a number of occassions. :redface: I was right in my assessment a while back that you write like a child; because you have in essence had to start over again at the beginning. That said, as an educator and one with a few learning disabilities I empathize with you.


The above advice is excellent though I think Manly Banisters may have been a bit harsh in her delivery. She is correct, on this site the truth is ultra important. We can sniff out a liar faster than you can say jack rabbit. In order to be a good liar you have to have a good memory, which unfortunately you no longer have. :frown1:


Some writing advice: Don't copy BigDuder! hahaha he's a sweet guy but sometimes annoying. He is a law student and knows just how to push a topic one step too far and get away with it.


Rather than reading historical romances, read books about how to write. Also try reading autobiographies which should be written in the first person. Don't be embarassed to read or buy grammar and workbooks geared for those in 3rd through 6th grade. Those are the years during which most of the fundamentals of reading and writing are taught.
 
I think that now people understand what has happened to you, they will be more forgiving with your 'streams of consciousness' :)

My advice in regards to paragraphs is to have only one main idea, then develop that idea.

But really, no-one is expecting you to write a thesis. To write well is a gift, one sadly that I do not have. Wishing you an abundant New Year!
 
How do you want us to critique you? Should the criticisms be based on content, style or on the rules of punctuation and grammar?

As far as content goes, I hear trouble more than hope. This could be interpreted as a plea for understanding or as someone seeking attention, flattery and/or accommodation.

I'll gladly grant you the accommodation and whatever consideration that comes with it.

As far as style goes, that's a different matter altogether. As as been mentioned above, written and spoken English are two different disciplines. Spoken English is all about delivery and inflection, two things completely impossible to carry off on the Internet without seeming rambling and (perhaps) overly emotional. Written English may seem stilted, but it's correct for the format and context.well, now I understand why you said,"As far as content goes, I hear trouble more than hope. This could be interpreted as a plea for understanding or as someone seeking attention, flattery and/or accommodation." I had know idea why it would be misinterpreted until you wrote this.Thanks.It is much more clear now.
I just have know idea about WRITTEN English.lol

It doesn't seem to matter as much on myspace. Someone said blogs were worthless as far as learning real writing skills and now I see how I may have emulated myspace blogs in my writing.
It is something I just threw up and the only thing I edited was adding the word University.

At least I can talk -write.lol
SaS


Perhaps the best critique of your style is to suggest that spaces be made between your paragraphs.

As far as grammar and punctuation goes, njqt466 is most correct in suggesting that you should consult the basics. crawl before you walk, walk before you run.

Nothing I've written should be seen as a discouragement. Every voice has an equal chance and place to be heard. That, more than anything, is what the Internet's all about.
 
You are fine . The content in the post is the most important thing.
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HungDavid I can see why you want to get into her panties as she is way above average in looks. :tongue: But your compliments aren't helping her. :frown1:

The problem myself and others often have with her posts is that we either misunderstand or are completely lost as to the intended content of her posts. Sugarandspice is smart enough to realize this and is seeking to be a better writer and to communicate more clearly.

I may not always agree with her position on topics; but she asked a fair question and when I can I would be glad to assisst her.
 
Stop encouraging this friggin' bimbo.
Nothing she has said so far, has been true, why would this, blog be?
All she is doing is emulating LaFeverish,trying to get you all,to like her when she has done zip,to get any respect, from any one of us.
She's lied about everything,she's not pretty nj,and she certainly can't even lie well! She is not smart,I for one, dislike being decieved,by anybody.
She's asking for acceptance, when she doesn't accept us.
Leave a slight disagreement, on any topic with her,and she's off on a rant that is nasty and personal,but she cries "foul", when you do the same to her!
Please,don't encourage this bimbo.
cigarbabe:saevil:
 
I don't have a personal problem with you S&S but these rambling blogs need to stop because you're NOT saying anything relevant!! They're just odd! That's why I piled on you before (sorry - you just pissed me off and CigarBabe calls it like it is....JUST WEIRD! )
You've got problems..don't we all? I'll put out my hand right now to say...hey...can I help? Would you grab on and bring yourself up or continue to bring yourself down? ...your choice...
 
So, I stumbled into this blog while reading something else and I have to say that when I first read anything by S&S I thought that there has to be something wrong with her, bi-polar or some other malady that would explain why someone with a bangin body acts like she's also banged her head one too many times. Now that I've read that she actually did bang her head, it amazes me that she can even remember the words that she types, she doesn't only use simple words or sentences. I also believe that there's more to this than meets the eye, I can't put my finger on it but my kinetic abilities are shouting out loud .. but wait, that sounds like I banged my head too.
 

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