We live in a world of double standards and parallel realms when it comes to sex. On one hand we lead relationships with one partner for an extended period of time (sometimes with a lover on the side) based on emotional affection, on the other hand our bodies and their sexual attributes are often highly objectified and we “actively” enjoy this purely physical approach!
"Physical approach": Next to „tits and ass“ among other „parts“ – literally from hair to feet with the female – it also concerns penises and scrotums (the latter less so) with the male.
But how important are penises for men and women? How and why does a random person (no matter the sex) value and cherish a cock more or less?
I believe the parallel realms exist (always have been) because we (human individuals) either apply emotion (heart and soul) to the other (as a whole) prioritizingly, OR just want pure sex to meet excitement, release and satisfaction without emotional bonding... and deliberately so.
But humans are always both: their bodies and parts of their bodies are tools; and yet they own a heart and soul and thus develop emotional bonds towards other humans - sometimes unwillingly.
That’s why the attitude towards a penis can be very different, even in one and the same person. It depends upon whether the given penis is owned by a dear partner or whether a penis appears as an abstract (being a highly objectified tool then).
For better understanding I must clarify my point of view. This pondering thematizes cock-loving individuals! It is about worshipping penis – whether you own one or not.
So, in one case you may love a penis unconditionally, as is, no questions asked. That penis shall serve a double-function in the sex act, (A) for the owner, for his cock being the gateway to his experiencing himself as sexual being in a satisfying manner, thus it being more of an apparatus you use to please your lover (and/or yourself). And yet sure enough (B) for the “external” worshipper regarding (the partner’s) beloved penis as being the source of all the sensations it generates in her or him physically and psychologically.
In the other case the penis – for a worshipper – remains a concept, a pure tool existent to please your urges (toward your concept). The penis is the object of desire, it needs to work properly, it ought to be spectacular, it ought to satisfy your fascination with its design and appearance (the owner is of less importance, unless you are a penis-owner and relish your endowment more as a concept than as the gateway mentioned above). You enjoy cock for the cock’s sake and you are in the position to show that. Emotional bonding towards a given penis may arise if it touches your individual taste and preferences you developed for your image of an ideal penis. The utmost realization of this kind of penis-love in the real world may be the practice of glory-holing/milking-table sex.
Now, every man owns a penis that he (hopefully) loves unconditionally. Whether men want to experience other men´s cocks is a matter of open-mindedness and sexual orientation – still, the same rules for the parallel realms apply (being in love with the penis-owner vs craving cock for cocks sake).
Women only know penises thru encounters and images of whatever source (the internet is an eye-opener for sure). Whether they develop an urge for cock in pursuing penis encounters the objectified kind (keyword glory-hole) or via the emotional bond to a penis-owner may be a matter of individual attitude (toward sexuality and love) and social situation.
As for the objectified urge, yet not exclusively, „size likely matters“. However, ejaculatory performance may outweigh the size-question? Only remember, one cannot have it all, such combinations (big cock + big cum) are rare and/or access is most probably limited. - Adore penis (and scrotum) in whatever which way! It does not matter “why?”.
