I'm 19 years old, and I'm very self-conscious. I'm 5'6 and have a smaller-sized dick. For years now, I hated myself for it, and I'm depressed because of it. I have been saying my dick is 6 inches, but now I doubt it's even 6 inches. I feel so worthless because of it. Everyone is taller than me, and everyone has bigger dicks than me, and it just sucks. I feel like people don't find me attractive for both reasons, and I only have gotten to top once cause who wants a top with a small dick no one sadly. I'm happy being a bottom for guys cause I love pleasing guys and enjoy it, but I also want to experience topping. I'm going to measure my dick soon, but I'm terrified cause I have a feeling it's not even going to be 5 inches, even though I thought it was at least. To continue with my height, I felt like I never grew and or I did, but I got stuck cause everyone in my family is taller than me, other than my mom. My mom has told me guys in her family are later growers who have their real growth after 18, which I know some do, but it's not as common. I have a few questions
1. is there anything I can do to make my dick larger that's safe and effective, if possible?
2. What can I ask my doctor about my growth, and what can I ask him about if there are any possibilities or anything that can make me grow more?
3. Does anyone have advice on body confidence?
I don't comment often, but Jay, your first two questions are not appropriate for where you're at and it feels important for you to know this. When you can CALMLY OBSERVE "oh, my dick's a bit short, maybe something can lengthen it," then you can look into that.
But right now, you need to work through alllll of the anxiety-paranoia stuff first. Any actions you take from this state will always end up being unfulfilling at best and self-destructive at worst. This is what gets transgender people in trouble, they start mutilating their body based off charged feelings, and then five years later detransition. This is utterly the wrong approach.
The size of your dick is not the problem, the way you
feel about the size of your dick is the problem.
Change your feelings, not your dick.
Your last question is closer to healthy. Honestly, I sense you have an overall 'mental health' challenge, as there's likely nothing wrong with your actual body. Have you investigated serotonin issues? GABA issues? There are harmless supplements you can take to test and see if you feel better from them. Therapists might help, but I don't trust them.
Also consider regression therapy, to go back into your subconscious and see if there are any wounds/trauma that led you to be so self-consciousness and paranoid. "Men with short dicks" equals … what? What does that mean to you personally? What's your subconscious thing about this situation? What negative associations are there? Where did you learn that shorter dicks are bad? There are big dicks and small dicks that exist, so their existence isn't the problem. It's some association you have about them that's the problem.
As an anecdote, I'm 6"-something and was with a guy who was only 4-5". I felt just fine with him. The only thing that caused me some disappointment that he was too wide for me to bottom, but his dick was not too short. Ironically, he had amazing balls which are my favorite anyway. But when I commented on that, he seemed to misinterpret it as me deflecting attention away from his dick, because
he thought his dick was inadequate. I did not. It was sad because I wanted to see him again, but I think he just absorbed it as a problem with his dick, because he also had self-admitted anxiety issues.
Meanwhile, I've also been bothered at my balls getting all tight and sucked-in, but I'm not paranoid about it. I just know I dislike it. And I did find things to make them hang more (zinc and other testosterone support). But I've had sex plenty of times with my balls in a tight mood and it was never issue, because I didn't make it one.
Healing your body and lack of confidence about it isn't about changing your dick size, it's about balancing whatever biochemical, nutritional, or subconscious imbalances you have about the topic of dick size. When you heal those, then you can soberly assess the state of your dick. Or maybe realize it's not even the issue you make it out to be.
