Advice for topping?

[shanenanigans69]

Hi. I (24) am seeing my long distance boyfriend (23) for the first time in person quite soon, he'll be flying to my town in a few weeks, and staying at my apartment for a few days and I'll be taking off days for work so we'll have the whole day to ourselves. And we're both two very horny gay dudes so being with each other all day, honestly I could imagine that sex will happen and I have bought condoms in advance for it in case. However, he's never had sex before and I have only had oral sex and this was like 3 years ago. Neither one of us is experienced at sex.

However, I know my boyfriend is very much a bottom. I think I'm definitely more into topping than bottoming, but I much prefer oral sex to anal. I'm not totally against anal either but it's kind of scary, uncharted territory. I feel like I do not know what I am doing. Are there any advice you can give on topping, when I have never done it before?

 

[Brodie888]

My advice is not to do it on this trip if you are both uncomfortable. Perhaps stick to oral.

The question of when to start anal is more for the bottom to be ready and willing. For example, does he know about douching? Has he had toys in his ass and how comfortable is he with penetration?

For your part, the best advice is for him to mount you so he can control the depth and speed. Focus on being in the moment and enjoying kissing etc because if you get stuck in your own head, you'll end up limp which adds pressure on how to get the fire started again.

Being inexperienced, shit can happen, literally. So you are best to try and deal with it but treat it as nothing. Anal in the shower can be a good choice for this reason.

 

[dana2]

Hi. I (24) am seeing my long distance boyfriend (23) for the first time in person quite soon, he'll be flying to my town in a few weeks, and staying at my apartment for a few days and I'll be taking off days for work so we'll have the whole day to ourselves. And we're both two very horny gay dudes so being with each other all day, honestly I could imagine that sex will happen and I have bought condoms in advance for it in case. However, he's never had sex before and I have only had oral sex and this was like 3 years ago. Neither one of us is experienced at sex.

However, I know my boyfriend is very much a bottom. I think I'm definitely more into topping than bottoming, but I much prefer oral sex to anal. I'm not totally against anal either but it's kind of scary, uncharted territory. I feel like I do not know what I am doing. Are there any advice you can give on topping, when I have never done it before?

I agree with the other poster, if this is the first time you are meting do other activities: making out, oral, mutual JO etc. Once you get comfortable with each other then start experimenting with anal.

 

[shanenanigans69]

I agree with the other poster, if this is the first time you are meting do other activities: making out, oral, mutual JO etc. Once you get comfortable with each other then start experimenting with anal.

That makes sense. I guess I was building it up in my head that anal is the standard way for men to have sex but yeah, you're right we have other options too that we should try getting more comfortable with before that. Good idea thanks y'all.

 

[Tbprivate]

While giving head you could play with his anus and maybe insert a finger or two?

 

[theplayerking]

Hi. I (24) am seeing my long distance boyfriend (23) for the first time in person quite soon, he'll be flying to my town in a few weeks, and staying at my apartment for a few days and I'll be taking off days for work so we'll have the whole day to ourselves. And we're both two very horny gay dudes so being with each other all day, honestly I could imagine that sex will happen and I have bought condoms in advance for it in case. However, he's never had sex before and I have only had oral sex and this was like 3 years ago. Neither one of us is experienced at sex.

However, I know my boyfriend is very much a bottom. I think I'm definitely more into topping than bottoming, but I much prefer oral sex to anal. I'm not totally against anal either but it's kind of scary, uncharted territory. I feel like I do not know what I am doing. Are there any advice you can give on topping, when I have never done it before?

If you have never met in person and are both virgins, there are way too many variables to predict what might or might not happen. If you’ve set the expectation that you’re both newbies open to exploration with each other, there’s not much more you can do other than being open minded and keeping a sense of humor. Bring condoms and lots of lube.

Remember that everyone sucks at sex the first few times and that practice makes perfect.

 

[dana2]

anal is the standard way for men to have sex

That is a common misconception straight people have about gay sex. While there are gay men who also believe that, there is a big hot world of other activities two men can do in bed. Of course every man likes different things, I would encourage you to explore each other's bodies, stare into each others eyes, make out naked and inspect and suck each other's cocks. When you are comfortable together start experimenting with anal.

 

[hairyjacques]

Back rubs or (better) full body massage can be a really wonderful way to get physical while also giving you some great visuals of your bodyfriend. It's a great prelude to kissing, licking, and tonguing all his special spots!

Have fun and write back to tell us all how it went. We want DETAILS!