Advice..

[ladukbi2820]

So Ive been with my bf for 8 year when we first got together it was sex sex sex after a couple of year he was diagnosed with depression so sex life went down to nothing maby kiss long story short he has this safe in bedroom with he says is locked because of bills and house deed etc but after 8 year never seen askd to see inside he said nooo anyway yesterdayhe leaves keys for it unatended I open it and it has butt plug dildo condoms lube jock straps witch I never seen our sex life no existent is it me or would he rather have fun himself now ideas..?

 

[aarondong9]

Sounds like you were better off not knowing. I guess never look at your man's phone extends to don't look in his safe either. I'm not sure that just because he possesses them means he's using them. But I think we all have some solo time anyway?

 

[ladukbi2820]

But more fact we don't do anything togeather

 

[aarondong9]

Send me a PM since I can't send you one

 

[ladukbi2820]

My pm open now

 

[6114801]

Having been through something similar, you have to talk and make time for each other.
I’m not saying it’s going to be easy at first but if you want to be together you have to work at it.

 

[6114801]

Hope you work it out fella

 

[DiamondJoe]

Talk to the other half, sounds like there's a house/mortgage/sex life/sanity at stake.

Talk to him

 

[purepilot73]

So Ive been with my bf for 8 year when we first got together it was sex sex sex after a couple of year he was diagnosed with depression so sex life went down to nothing maby kiss long story short he has this safe in bedroom with he says is locked because of bills and house deed etc but after 8 year never seen askd to see inside he said nooo anyway yesterdayhe leaves keys for it unatended I open it and it has butt plug dildo condoms lube jock straps witch I never seen our sex life no existent is it me or would he rather have fun himself now ideas..?[/QUOTE

Maybe they just belonged to his ex and he’s keeping them as a keepsake.

 

[Brodie888]

Asking strangers is pure speculation. You need to ask him yourself.

If he's not having any sex with you and he has all that with the condoms within their best before dates, then he is cheating on you in some form.

He wouldn't have condoms for solo play unless he has some rubber/plastic toy allergies. Also one doesn't usually wear jockstraps for one's own benefit, especially if he hides it in a safe. If they aren't his size then they could be gifts or trophies. Maybe he has cam sex, but once again why the condoms...