Alpha attraction

[1087963]

I'm a hung alpha top gay male, and I've noticed that alphas are often attracted to other alphas, especially if they are also hung. It's the same for me, and it's not that it turns me submissive and I want to bottom... It's just that I'm attracted to their masculinity, the power, and if they are hung, then I'm attracted to their big dick. I have found quite a few straight hung men that are also interested in/attracted to other big dicks.

What do you suppose is behind this mutual alpha attraction?

 

[erpap]

I love an alpha male to take charge and use me for his pleasure. I’m submissive masculine, I wouldn’t say alpha though.

Maybe it’s the power struggle between you and another that gets you going! So as a top what kind on men do you top for?

 

[GentleGuy243]

As a str8 man I can tell you that much men are fascinated by watching big cocks. Why do you think that the actors in porns are hung? The most men are afraid or feeling ashamed to be honest about that.

 

[1087963]

@erpap Sort of about the power struggle, but it's not actually a struggle. It's just about admiring a big beautiful dick for being exceptional, rare, and a symbol of power. I submit to them, too, but don't want to be fucked. Just suck and touch and look at and admire.

@GentleGuy243 I have come across many straight men (sometimes literally "cum across" them!) who are open about it and tell me that they are turned on by big dicks. But also some, as you say, are not open about it and have conflicted feelings, which can make them behave strangely.

 

[biman]

Completely agree! I find that it's not about having a big dick. We symbolize a big dick with power. For me, I've learned it's about raw power. I'm an alpha type and highly attracted to men who are also alphas, small or big dick. It's about their self-confidence, their self-validation, their own style, and not giving a shit what other people say about it. Around those men, I clam up like a little school girl, but noticed they clam up around me the same.

 

[Sklar]

For me, it's about finding an equal.

Looks fade, erections fade, but Alpha's never fade.

It's all about the confidence. The deep seated knowledge that we are who we are.

When you look at us, you know, this is a guy I want to be friends with. This is a guy who understands me, not only on a sexual level, but as an equal.

That confidence that comes as others are just drawn to you, as you are to them, and you both know, instinctively, that we are equals in a world that values us.

Sklar

 

[EquusAZ]

That confidence that comes as others are just drawn to you, as you are to them, and you both know, instinctively, that we are equals in a world that values us.

Sklar

I concur with this. As the old saying goes 'Game recognizes game.' @Aithon and I are both dominant personalities and both hung. I think it was our recognition of each other as people who know what they want that initially drew us together (besides being hung) and then next to that love, friendship, and all that came. I just remember his first message to me on A4A was "Hung dominant top? I'm a hung power bottom. Why aren't we fucking already?" The rest is history ;-)

 

[Faunus]

I believe i said, "I'm a power versatile bottom", but all in all it did work out. I think that I am an alpha, but am content being a beta, because my alpha knows how to bring me to heel

 

[Faunus]

Actually, now that I am thinking about it--- I am a beta, and content. I think our culture is used to equating being hung with having automatic alpha status- which is not always the case. Much love to the all the alphas in the streets and in the sheets xo

 

[1087963]

Get your story together @EquusAZ , sheesh. Just kidding! What you have with @Aithon apparently worked out because he was willing to be the bottom. A previous long-term relationship of mine wound up floundering because though we were both hung and into that, I was not willing to bottom more. I tried and sometimes could get into it, but the glove just didn't fit.

 

[Faunus]

Hah! @bigd8st you're onto something. There is a part of me that finds my experience of being an alpha made more enhanced by willfully submitting to another alpha; it's yin and yang to me, really, and just being in synch with your other half. @EquusAZ acknowledges that I choose to be his beta and that enhances his experience of being an alpha.
By the by Are there companies that make "gloves" that are more accommodating? I have thought about getting into that market- plus sized prophylactics....

 

[alexnine]

I'd enjoy letting @EquusAZ and @Aithon both be as alpha as they want

 

[EquusAZ]

Get your story together @EquusAZ , sheesh. Just kidding! What you have with @Aithon apparently worked out because he was willing to be the bottom. A previous long-term relationship of mine wound up floundering because though we were both hung and into that, I was not willing to bottom more. I tried and sometimes could get into it, but the glove just didn't fit.

*raises eyebrow* My story is straight. I may not be, but my story is. Lol.

@Aithon and I chatted after he posted on here and it's pretty apparent that to the rest of the world, he's an alpha. Sometimes he forgets he's an alpha. In the bedroom with me, he's a beta. With others, alpha. In life with me outside of bed? We're equal overall. At least now. Every now and then we struggle with being alpha at that point. Its a fun dynamic.

 

[EquusAZ]

I'd enjoy letting @EquusAZ and @Aithon both be as alpha as they want

Heh - careful what you ask for!

 

[giantguy23]

I don't think I'm built for bottoming

 

[erpap]

I'd enjoy letting @EquusAZ and @Aithon both be as alpha as they want

Ditto!

 

[biman]

Anyone attracted to an alpha male with a small penis? I find myself attracted to alpha men, big or small. The power, dominance, and the security drive me crazy.

 

[Filotu98]

@Aithon and I chatted after he posted on here and it's pretty apparent that to the rest of the world, he's an alpha. Sometimes he forgets he's an alpha. In the bedroom with me, he's a beta. With others, alpha. In life with me outside of bed? We're equal overall. At least now. Every now and then we struggle with being alpha at that point. Its a fun dynamic.[/QUOTE]

The last part, is what excites in my opinion. The power struggle dynamic. And also mutual respect. I am very dominant and conscious of it, so when I see anyone willing to stand up to me, I am happy because I hate to feel I influence on them by my dominance.

I like to know they're strong enough to do them around me. It's almost a power struggle for each to be their true self, amazing

PS: power struggle porn is my weak point. If anyone knows any, pm me links

 

[Sklar]

I don't think I'm built for bottoming

I'd be more than happy to help you try!

Sklar

 

[Zazoo]

I often come off as alpha cause of my look and of course I'm very comfortable with myself and I'm confident in myself. That said, I'm totally not an alpha.