I've tried Grindr on and off since college. I think that I'm a reasonably attractive guy but I've gotten no interest from anyone who isn't ugly. It's making me incredibly depressed lately. Has anyone else had this problem?
Am I the only person who has had no luck on Grindr?
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Grindr is mostly full of catfishes anyway. I stopped using that app a long time ago.
It depends what you are looking for? Are you looking for fun or a serious relationship?
You can still try Grindr but be very careful. I think since you have premium you have access to video call right?
I don't think you understand my problem. Nobody I like is responding to my taps.
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grindr is an ap that makes most of us feel depressed. i am an attractive guy and i feel the same as you. try tinder or instagram for dating, you might be luckier there, avoid using grindr
can tell you, it's not better on jack'd or hornet
Yeah so, without noting what you define as "ugly" I don't know if you just have really high standards.
Besides, I'm one of those "ugly" guys I'm sure you would not like messaging you so while yes I have had no luck. It's because I'm not attractive.
I just want someone who's not massively overweight and whose face has some boyish charm.
Yeah reasonable. Which is why I have had no luck myself, no one wants me lmao. But you could keep grinding away, pun intended. Eventually you will find someone you like. I don't mean any offense but, it's also possible you are not attractive? Or actually it's probably because you are using taps. Try actually messaging guys. I think a large number of guys ignore taps, especially since they can be accidentally sent.
i'm in a relationship now but have used grindr and other apps over the years before.
I think they're all pretty much the same in that there are a lot of fake accounts, lots not interested in meeting full stop, etc
I do think there are a number of factors that make success more likely;
- some sort of pic, not necessarily dick or ass, but at least a RECENT bod pic
- choose your profile name well as thats first thing they'll look at
- do write something as to what you're looking for, do fill in as much of the profile 'tick box' stuff as is necessary for what you're looking for
- distance is always an issue as if you're not 'right round the corner' most guys won't bother - so if you're in a fairly rural/low population area may not work no matter
- 'role' seems a big decider - i'm top and put that i'm top on these apps and i'm inundated and i'm older, not ugly but not super attractive either - there's a lot of bottom guys it seems so too much choice
- be clear in any message why you're contacting them and what you're after
ultimately just as dating in real life, its a nubmers game, the more you approach the more likely you'll find someone.
just don't take it personally and accept these apps for what they are - brutal and a means to an end.
good luck
Depending on where you are, each app can have a very different audience. One is not inherently better than the other, and one may be better in some locations than another. In my town, Scruff is very bear-centric, Grindr is very twinky, Jack'd skews very Asian. But when I go to other cities, Grindr can be much more mixed, Scruff can be very otter and rugged muscle guys with all the bears being on Growlr, and Jack'd can skew very heavily African American.
If you're not finding good results on Grindr, try others. There's a comedian who talks about being on all the apps at all times and having to constantly "check his traps."
There's also another thing to note, in my experience: After you survey all the apps... surprise! Six months later, the population will have changed and might be completely different -- new people, updated profiles, and more importantly, changed expectations, or maybe changed photos hit differently. For example, I tried to chat with someone on Grindr once and was ignored... then I changed up my photos -- nothing really different, just some recent shots that I thought looked good, and suddenly Mr. Didn't Have Time was all over me.
For this reason, many people are on multiple apps... precisely because you never know where you're going to meet someone to your liking. Some people are lazy and don't want to be on multiple apps... that's fine, but they can't complain that they're not meeting a variety of people or having sufficiently different results.
Another important point: All the apps can be for both hooking up and for meeting people for relationships. I've hooked up from "dating" apps like Tinder and OKCupid, and I've had multi-year relationships with people met via "hookup" apps. I disagree with anyone who says any app is "hookup" or "dating" oriented, they're all for anything -- which leads to my final point...
Finally: you will get out of it, what you put into it. Communicate your interests clearly and you'll be more likely to find someone interested in that. Looking to date? Say it. Looking to fuck around? Say it. Looking to fuck until you accidentally stumble into a relationship? You and everybody else!
PS: PLEASE have photos and some useful information in your profile (or send with your first message). If you aren't giving people anything to work with, you're just wasting your time and theirs. Again, you get out of it what you put into it. If you're flying stealth, you can't whine that nobody's engaging with you.
Good luck!
If you're not finding good results on Grindr, try others. There's a comedian who talks about being on all the apps at all times and having to constantly "check his traps."
There's also another thing to note, in my experience: After you survey all the apps... surprise! Six months later, the population will have changed and might be completely different -- new people, updated profiles, and more importantly, changed expectations, or maybe changed photos hit differently. For example, I tried to chat with someone on Grindr once and was ignored... then I changed up my photos -- nothing really different, just some recent shots that I thought looked good, and suddenly Mr. Didn't Have Time was all over me.
For this reason, many people are on multiple apps... precisely because you never know where you're going to meet someone to your liking. Some people are lazy and don't want to be on multiple apps... that's fine, but they can't complain that they're not meeting a variety of people or having sufficiently different results.
Another important point: All the apps can be for both hooking up and for meeting people for relationships. I've hooked up from "dating" apps like Tinder and OKCupid, and I've had multi-year relationships with people met via "hookup" apps. I disagree with anyone who says any app is "hookup" or "dating" oriented, they're all for anything -- which leads to my final point...
Finally: you will get out of it, what you put into it. Communicate your interests clearly and you'll be more likely to find someone interested in that. Looking to date? Say it. Looking to fuck around? Say it. Looking to fuck until you accidentally stumble into a relationship? You and everybody else!
PS: PLEASE have photos and some useful information in your profile (or send with your first message). If you aren't giving people anything to work with, you're just wasting your time and theirs. Again, you get out of it what you put into it. If you're flying stealth, you can't whine that nobody's engaging with you.
Good luck!
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Okay. 1 decently attractive guy propositioned me. Now I'm thinking I'm just not the type of person who does hookups.
I know, I'm pathetic
I know, I'm pathetic
