This virus... My mother has terminal stomach cancer and she asked me to go to her home to help her because she couldn't go out with her chemotherapy. My office closed because of COVID-19 so I went to her to her place (3 hours away) to help her. After three weeks there, I got bored so I took some vodka shots. Then, her boyfriend and her got all mad on me and threw me out. BTW I have a house, money and stuff, I was there to help her. I'm mad at her and needed to say it, thank you LPSG forums!
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I like to catch an alcohol buzz now and then as well.
My guess is that you got more buzzed then you thought and made an ass of yourself. (been there and done it myself)
Some people get mean when drunk. Not me, but I can say things that I should not.
Example from my end: Deer hunting buddy caught his wife with a pussy shot on some adult internet website. She ended up leaving him for her new lover and they got divorced.
Few months later we were drinking with friends one night. I asked if his ex-wife was still putting pics of her cooter on the internet.
My Girlfriend about killed me over that comment and my other buddies busted their gut's laughing! Probably a mistake on my part.
Hope you can patch it up with your Mom before she passes, and you get a few more good memories together.
My guess is that you got more buzzed then you thought and made an ass of yourself. (been there and done it myself)
Some people get mean when drunk. Not me, but I can say things that I should not.
Example from my end: Deer hunting buddy caught his wife with a pussy shot on some adult internet website. She ended up leaving him for her new lover and they got divorced.
Few months later we were drinking with friends one night. I asked if his ex-wife was still putting pics of her cooter on the internet.
My Girlfriend about killed me over that comment and my other buddies busted their gut's laughing! Probably a mistake on my part.
Hope you can patch it up with your Mom before she passes, and you get a few more good memories together.
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This sounds something like a thing you are just going to swallow your anger about the incident and go on as your Mother is with terminal stomach cancer and her boyfriend is 85 YO. It sounds as though you don't have to much time left with your Mother and since you have the time off from your employment make the best of this time with your Mother. I don't know how long your Mother and her boyfriend have been companions but your lucky he is there as if you have to go back to work at your employment when this Covid-19 thing is over he will be there to help her. So I would not want to piss him off either. It won't kill you to not have vodka while you are there helping. Good Luck, I do hope your dilemma ends well for you.
You were willing to go look after your terminally ill mother at her request and you ended up being thrown out. I can feel your anger, and I know you need to vent it - if not here, somewhere else.
Perhaps your mother and her boyfriend felt you were more buzzed that you thought you were. Perhaps they were frightened and lost trust in you - they see you buzzed/perceived you drunk and therefore could not be relied upon - and thus that reaction.
Whatever the case, I hope all goes well with your relationship with your mother and I hope everything gets patched up before her eventual demise.
I wish you well, and I hope that when your mother's time comes, she can go in peace, without pain or suffering.
I mean how big were these shots?
If you mean like 6 standard measures I don't see what all the fuss is about!
Are they anti alcohol?
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My experience as a caregiver was that emotions and stress-levels are high and that things can get magnified and blown out of proportion easily. I spent my mom’s last few months angry and resentful—and now that she’s gone I regret it, even though some of my feelings were well-justified. Your anger is valid, certainly, but if it’s safe and appropriate for you to patch things up, you might be glad you did. All my best to you and your family in this difficult time!
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You are very correct about the emotions and stress levels. I was a caregiver for my Sister before she passed and was a bit bitter with her daughter as I thought it her place to be the caregiver. Her daughter was a registered nurse in a different state than the one my Sister lived. The Daughter did not have employment at the time. Her excuse to me was her family(all grown) could not be without her. The last time my Sister was taken to the Hospital she had a stroke and before released from her Daughter and 3 of the Grand Daughters (all grown) came to town and visited which really pissed me off and when i first saw the Daughter, I was ready to give her my thoughts right there in the room but instead I held them for my Sisters sake. I didn't even acknowledge them. When I was done talking with my Sister I told her I would see here during the later visiting hours to enjoy her visit with her Grand Daughters. I got up and quickly left stopped at the intensive care desk to talk to them a bit and started on down the way. Walking down the way I could hear a voice behind calling my name and I knew the voice very well as my Sisters Daughter(my Niece) is only 4 years younger tha n me. We were together a bit as children. Well I just stopped and waited for her to catch up with me and turned around to talk with her and at that minute decided to see what she had to say. Well it was about what the hospital Physician and the nurse had talked to her about my Sister. The hospital was moving her out of intensive care that evening and then releasing her to a care facility 2 days later. We had to go out and find a care facility to take my Sister as she need rehabilitation from the stroke she had experienced. We had to go look at care facilities and decide which one we wanted her to go to. The Daughter was depending on me to help her find one as she was having to go back home before the release. We ended up going and having lunch and then we started looking at this list of approved care/re-hab facilities. There were only 5 on the list. 2 of them on the far east side of town which I told my Niece and her daughter those are 2 far away from where her friends live and they probably would not visit her. We looked at 3 on the west side of town which all 3 were close to her friends and I was sure she would get more of her friends visiting. We went to Starbucks to have a cup of coffee and discuss the facilities we looked at and I just told them of the 5 my choice was this one that was just down the street 3 blocks from her best lady friend and they both said in unison that that was the one they like the best as well. I got along with my Niece the rest of the time she and her daughters were there to not put any stress on my Sister. The change when it happened went smooth but my Sister was not happy going to a care facility instead of home but when I saw what they were doing with my sister there was no way it could be done by me at home to get her rehabilitated to be able to walk even with a walker where she could get out of bed get to a potty chair and back to bed. She was not even able to stand. But I learned a bit being the care giver for a year for my Sister which I really feel good about doing for her. I am very thankful I was able to do it for her and my wife was able to accomodate me being away from the home that long.
The shots were standard.
We didn't speak to each other since the incident and, I for myself, don't intend to speak to her ever again.
My sister and father (from whom she is divorced) won't intervene because they say it is between us two, which I totally agree with.
I didn't mention it in the first post, but it is her third cancer and for the first two ones I took care of her as a teenager, but I couldn't drink legally at the time so I didn't look up the bar in our home. The idea of browsing through her alcohol collection didn't really cross my mind at the time though.
We didn't speak to each other since the incident and, I for myself, don't intend to speak to her ever again.
My sister and father (from whom she is divorced) won't intervene because they say it is between us two, which I totally agree with.
I didn't mention it in the first post, but it is her third cancer and for the first two ones I took care of her as a teenager, but I couldn't drink legally at the time so I didn't look up the bar in our home. The idea of browsing through her alcohol collection didn't really cross my mind at the time though.
