As a group of Straight Man, would you go to Japanese Onsen / Publich Bathouse with your gay bestfriend?

[Brianhalim]

After all this time I imagine you done the trip, how was it? Something remarkable about the baths and town?

not yet, lol its a longplan vacation, our plan is next year march or april, just too much thinking and paranoid even still so long lol

 

[cofrader]

not yet, lol its a longplan vacation, our plan is next year march or april, just too much thinking and paranoid even still so long lol

You plan longer than my project manager.
Have some some tea Zuko

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[38long]

As straight men traveling in a group, would you feel uncomfortable if one of the group members is gay and you’re all going to the onsen together? Or would it be better for the gay friend to go at a separate time?

Hm, going to such a place would be the last thing in my mind actually. 'Tis the sort of place that can be 'reproduced' elsewhere in the world, like foreign food. A lot of other activities, open spaces and experiences would come first without a doubt.

But, if something happened to all of us together and then people decided, out of the blue, to go to such a place, I wouldn't, because I don't have any curiosity with such places, neither here, nor in Japan. However, from what I gather from my friends, they wouldn't mind going with a bi/gay friend and, if it was the bi/gay one's idea, several of them would do it to humor said friend, to be honest, as not to have that experience alone, for companionship, not exactly because they'd be really excited to go.

Anyway, if you would heed an advice or two, because we don't know you at all: avoid staring. Specially those that know about your sexuality, because they would be the ones 'on the lookout' about your behaviour. But without knowing any of them either, that might be neither here nor there. Maybe they simply don't care? Really, just avoid staring or getting hard. I think these are the basic things to avoid to be on the safe side.

 

[Brianhalim]

Hm, going to such a place would be the last thing in my mind actually. 'Tis the sort of place that can be 'reproduced' elsewhere in the world, like foreign food. A lot of other activities, open spaces and experiences would come first without a doubt.

But, if something happened to all of us together and then people decided, out of the blue, to go to such a place, I wouldn't, because I don't have any curiosity with such places, neither here, nor in Japan. However, from what I gather from my friends, they wouldn't mind going with a bi/gay friend and, if it was the bi/gay one's idea, several of them would do it to humor said friend, to be honest, as not to have that experience alone, for companionship, not exactly because they'd be really excited to go.

Anyway, if you would heed an advice or two, because we don't know you at all: avoid staring. Specially those that know about your sexuality, because they would be the ones 'on the lookout' about your behaviour. But without knowing any of them either, that might be neither here nor there. Maybe they simply don't care? Really, just avoid staring or getting hard. I think these are the basic things to avoid to be on the safe side.

yes, ofcourse a foreign destination, food, and sightseeing the first, but we all love to have a new experience and identical with japan which is onsen, this kind of experience we will not possible in my country and it felt different too i suppose

yes your advice is very good one, they will aware of what i will see there, i will try to not staring lol thankyou, so do u have any similar expereince with your gay or bi best friend?

 

[38long]

so do u have any similar expereince with your gay or bi best friend?

No. This is not the sort of experience I seek with any friend of mine, either being straight or not. I like simpler stuff, unrelated to a needless, pointless nude physical experience. I also do not require direct interaction. I'm a quiet company and good listener. And do enjoy just being with a friend, even if we do not say anything, watching a movie, or even simply dozing off on a hammock whilst the other is reading a book or something. The feeling of trust and safety is very relaxing to me, when I have my friends around.