So, a friend of mine told me to write this post. I'm not exactly sure where to begin or what to say, but I will definitely give the effort that's deserved. Some of you may know me as DrGodiva, or you did. I changed my name because I wanted people to call me Dante' instead of DrG, Godiva, etc. My name is Dante', and I'm comfortable with that(Dante wasn't available as a username- still bitter about that!). I really want to give those who don't know me a bit of background information, so here goes. I'm 24 years old (will be 25 in 17 days), and I'm from South West Virginia. I'm studying to be a psychologist, and I'm looking into Relationship and Sexual Therapy; seems like a good path for me. I'm very open about myself, I enjoy getting to know people, and I enjoy letting people get to know me. People are very important to me, even strangers. I've always believed myself to be a very nice guy, however, I have a fire side- treat me the way you would want to be treated, I'll do the same, and that side of me you'll never see. I've always had a gift for reading people. I just pick things up, and it makes it easier for people to talk to me; we all prefer to connect with those who understand us. This isn't something that I just do in real life, but here as well. I feel that even though this is a forum, the people I communicate with are living, breathing-beings, who wake up everyday and hope that the world doesn't eat them alive. Just like me. I believe that's why it's so easy for me to give a damn. So even if I've never met my online friend from 2,000 miles away, I still hope that their day didn't suck, you know what I mean? Over the years, I've gotten to know people, and I've noticed the same thing in so many of them- most of them are afraid to be who they are. I personally can't understand that, and it breaks my heart to know that this is the case. People showing the world what they want it to see, however, a majority of what appears to be strength is weakness in gold ribbon. I've just never understood why we as people choose to lead double lives, when living one is hard as it is. Years ago, I said to hell with that. I am who I am. I'm a good person, and I love my fellow man. And I've made myself perfectly aware that there is no extra credit in the end; just do the best you can. If you feel that I'm speaking to you, please hear me when I say "Love yourself". That's right, love yourself. Examine every aspect about yourself that you can recognize and appreciate it. Take no shame in it, even if no one else cares for it. We spend our whole lives giving a damn about what other people think, and we rarely listen to ourselves- that's not fair. And if you feel that your life is not fair, feel free to rationally even up the score. Never be afraid to do so, because you only get one life to live, might as well be comfortable in it. That's why I love sex. Sex is the one moment that you can share with one or multiple human-beings, and you show them who you are. You are fully exposed, and your body won't tell a lie. I'm a firm believer that you can't truly appreciate someone unless you know who they are. And here you have a forum/chatroom, where you can meet others who express your similar interests. That's amazing to me. It depresses me when I meet people who are still lying to themselves, thus, they lie to you. No Ma'am- that I can't deal with. I apologize, but if I want to speak with a fictional character, I can create my own, and he'll be 100 times more impressive than the one you created, I assure you. So if you're gay, bi, straight, married, divorced, single, a parent, got a big dick, got a little one, don't have a dick at all! Hey- it's all good! You don't have to express that- just don't lie. Because when you do, no one is appreciating you- just the person it took you 30 seconds to create, and yet you still lack an outlet. Be You! Love yourself just like I love you. If any of you ever want to speak to someone, or feel that you need to- feel more than free to message me. Take Care Everyone, Dante'