Being a bottom

[Blkgymrat]

please help me to understand what it feels like to bottom. Would especially like to hear from those who have been tops too.

 

[Anyjoe]

How do you describe the color blue to a blind person?

 

[Blkgymrat]

Haha. Well, when I describe an orgasm. I say it feels like the feeling of expectation right before fireworks burst. Im hoping someone out there has similar insight.

 

[Auggiecakes]

Haha. Well, when I describe an orgasm. I say it feels like the feeling of expectation right before fireworks burst. Im hoping someone out there has similar insight.

You wanna know what an anal orgasm feels like? Cause you know we cum just like you do. I assume you’re a top.

 

[Blkgymrat]

Yes. I’m a top. I’ve been with bottoms who seem satisfied with the experience without necessarily having an orgasm. It puzzles me. I am thinking that there is something about the pleasure of being a bottom.

 

[Auggiecakes]

Yes. I’m a top. I’ve been with bottoms who seem satisfied with the experience without necessarily having an orgasm. It puzzles me. I am thinking that there is something about the pleasure of being a bottom.

I can be content from a good fuck without having to orgasm. If that’s what you want to know. I’ll explain you personal experience, think of how you feel after you get a good work out. The soreness, the lightheaded ness maybe even the little shortness of breath. That post workout feeling is super similar to getting stretched out down there and of course the actually work out you get from being a good fuck. Doesn’t happen always but it does occasionally. Also if you are someone like me, it feels good to just relinquish control. Letting the top take over and of course none of this happens unless you have a spark or some really good chemistry.

 

[muskokan]

similar to what Auggiecakes is saying, when i go out and play my objective is to please not cum but that is not off the table. Giving ones self for the pleasure of another is one of the reasons i bottom.

 

[Brodie888]

Something that a lot of tops need to know is that a bottom doesn't have to have an erection to be having a great time.

I say this because some tops think they are doing something wrong when this happens and it then affects their performance/confidence.

 

[bkmuscledad]

Something that a lot of tops need to know is that a bottom doesn't have to have an erection to be having a great time.

I say this because some tops think they are doing something wrong when this happens and it then affects their performance/confidence.

It's a surprise that it should undermine anyone's confidence. Some guys get super hard while being fucked, and some guys never do, but are enjoying it just as much. People are just wired differently.

 

[Brodie888]

It's a surprise that it should undermine anyone's confidence. Some guys get super hard while being fucked, and some guys never do, but are enjoying it just as much. People are just wired differently.

I think some inexperienced guys think firmness of erection is indicative of sexual satisfaction/arousal for bottoms.

 

[Blkgymrat]

I can be content from a good fuck without having to orgasm. If that’s what you want to know. I’ll explain you personal experience, think of how you feel after you get a good work out. The soreness, the lightheaded ness maybe even the little shortness of breath. That post workout feeling is super similar to getting stretched out down there and of course the actually work out you get from being a good fuck. Doesn’t happen always but it does occasionally. Also if you are someone like me, it feels good to just relinquish control. Letting the top take over and of course none of this happens unless you have a spark or some really good chemistry.

THIS is the explanation that I was looking for. Thank you. It all makes so much sense now. I have a much better perspective. Light bulbs are going off over here.

 

[Auggiecakes]

THIS is the explanation that I was looking for. Thank you. It all makes so much sense now. I have a much better perspective. Light bulbs are going off over here.

I should write a book

 

[Blkgymrat]

I should write a book

I’ll co-sign to that.

 

[jabbari]

How do you describe the color blue to a blind person?

i would say blue be like when it aint warm but you aint shivering -- blue be like when you aint necessarily sad, but you aint laughing -- more like when you sitting alone contemplating you life. blue be no limits like the sky -- beyond emotion, which weigh you down.

 

[Auggiecakes]

i would say blue be like when it aint warm but you aint shivering -- blue be like when you aint necessarily sad, but you aint laughing -- more like when you sitting alone contemplating you life. blue be no limits like the sky -- beyond emotion, which weigh you down.

Light Blue feels like cold velvety river water. Dark blue would be like the wind you feel on top of a mountain.

 

[hvdude]

There is a physical feeling and a psychological feeling in being bottom, in my experience. A lot of it depends on what leads up to actually having sex. The connection and attraction, the thrill of the hunt, the teasing and slow lowering of inhibitions. Of course kissing, petting are key too. Foreplay is important and a good top gets their bottom ready for them either with their mouth or fingers, saliva or lube - brining them to a point where they are panting and saying that they want it.

Then comes the penetration - that initial period when the bottom can feel the head of his lovers cock pressing to enter his body and the top taking the time to be gentle and slowly sliding himself inside. I think eye contact, caressing, kissing and all the rest adds to the eroticism and the psychological aspect of knowing that you have given yourselves to each other in the most personal and intimate way is extraordinary.

It's important for the bottom to reassure his top, telling him how big his cock is, how great his body feels, etc. If acceptable the bottom should let his top know whether he wants the cum inside him, in his mouth or on him. Of course if you know me you know where I put it ; )

Then after holding each other, caressing each other completes the perfection of being a bottom.

 

[W4_Hung]

If its with someone you like its intimate and your whole body feels a bit of euphoria
If its just fun its like having your cock wanked from inside

 

[dreambridger]

orgasms when I bottom tend to last much longer than orgasms that happen with purely genital stimulation, and the orgasm can also be staggered -- as in, I can cum multiple times when I bottom, but if it is just genital stimulation I tend to be wiped out after one cum. There's also the added effect that, while orgasms normally cause muscular relaxations in the legs and abdomen after release, when I bottom that relaxation also includes a release of anal tension as well.

To state to the obvious, the tension build before orgasm when bottoming occurs in the prostate and perineum, as opposed to the tension build occurring in the genitals alone. Though, as long as I'm erect, I will still feel it in my genitals as well while I'm being topped.

 

[insert_8]

There is a physical feeling and a psychological feeling in being bottom . . . .

The guy who initiated my hole mentioned that I would feel both physical sensations and mental sensations. For me, they are both quite intense, and difficult to separate.

. . . Of course kissing, petting are key too. Foreplay is important and a good top gets their bottom ready for them . . . .

Yes, kiss me! The guy who got my ass cherry said that I would be kissed. I thought that would be the worst part of the experience, but it was actually the opposite. The soft, pleasurable sensations of lips and tongue are an erotic contrast to the hard, painful erection entering my ass.

. . . a point where they are panting and saying that they want it . . . .

I am too bashful and embarrassed to ask for the insertion. If the top determines it's time to do it I let him position me. Or, I will lay back, spread my thighs and raise my legs to offer my hole to him.

. . . Then comes the penetration - that initial period when the bottom can feel the head of his lovers cock pressing to enter his body and the top taking the time to be gentle and slowly sliding himself inside . . . .

"Gentle" and "slow" depend on the size of the erection and the extent of foreplay. I expect it to hurt at least a little - maybe more than a little - when the cock breaks through my sphincter. That stab of discomfort and my whimper or yelp is like a switch being flipped. It emphasizes what I'm doing, and concentrates my focus on the top guy's pleasure. The is a fine line between "hurts so good" and "hurts too much".

. . . I think eye contact, caressing, kissing and all the rest adds to the eroticism and the psychological aspect of knowing that you have given yourselves to each other in the most personal and intimate way . . . .

I all but insist on face-to-face positions because they are more personal and intimate, and allow more body contact.

. . . the bottom should let his top know whether he wants the cum inside him, in his mouth or on him. . . . .

DEFINITELY cum with your penis inside me! I rarely feel the actual squirt but knowing it's happening is an important part of the experience, as significant as the sensations of penetration.

. . .Then after holding each other, caressing each other . . . .

Please stay inside at least until you have completely finished twitching. I'd like to hold you until you go soft and plop out of my hole.

 

[Allmight247]

Taking dick is almost like taking a shit, peeing fucking and jerking off all at the same time. actually sometimes when I jerk off and cum it’s almost not enuff cause I feel like I needa dick in me. You know ur bottom when taking dick feels better than cumming

As a feeling? I would say it’s like holding in ur breath for a couple seconds and than when I exhale how awesome that air feels... that’s what it’s like