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The moment in time when you realized one gender was edging over the other in preference or you were completely converging over into homosexuality.

Because I fear I am becoming pure homosexual.

I liked the idea of having a choice/chance/undefined future.

And I liked the idea of the term "Gay" not applying to me considering the amount of times it was thrown at me as a slur in school.

Maybe I have been confusing “being attracted to" with "finding attractive". Or maybe I just wanted to believe..
 

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Do you still attracted to women? I have had this same concern. Sometimes it seems like I'm more into men than women, so I begin to wonder am I gay or bi. But then I see a gorgeous women walk by or seem an image of a hot women on the internet and I get those same feeling. My thought is, as long as you are attracted to both sexes, you are Bi, even if you tend to steer towards men more than women.
 
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Sexuality is a spectrum, most people are fluid, and while you feel like you may be leaning towards 100% homosexual, you have no proof you won't slide to 100% heterosexual in the future. Go with your urges and stop worrying about the label.
 

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Well I hardly ever just sit and think about girls or oogle over them as they walk by if EVER. I never think about them when I masturbate and I know I never want to be a heterosexual. I would hate to not be attracted to guys.

I have a thing for Asian females, but I'm even starting to question that now. I don't know. I find them attractive, but am I attracted to them anymore?

One of my friends actually asked me if I was still Bisexual today. Odd thing is, they thought I had turned complete heterosexual. But that's just because I am more open about stating a female is attractive over a male because I feel that is what society is more comfortable with right now and I don't want to cause awkwardness.

I just think sooner or later I am going to have to admit something to myself.

Effort should not be put into a sexuality. And I have been trying very hard to remember what is bisexual about me.

The last time I stanned hard for a girl was 4th Grade. The last time I stanned hard for a guy was earlier today at work when the Brinks Man came.
 

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Sexuality is a spectrum, most people are fluid, and while you feel like you may be leaning towards 100% homosexual, you have no proof you won't slide to 100% heterosexual in the future. Go with your urges and stop worrying about the label.

Oooh, I love the way you put that "Go with your urges and stop worrying about the label" I love that.
 

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Sexuality is a spectrum, most people are fluid, and while you feel like you may be leaning towards 100% homosexual, you have no proof you won't slide to 100% heterosexual in the future. Go with your urges and stop worrying about the label.

Taiga is right.
The labels gay, straight and bi are just that - Labels which we give ourselves or that others have to put onto us.
Don't label yourself, just go with what you feel happy with and don't worry about putting a label or name to it.
Sexuality is fluid, just go with the flow and be happy and have fun.

I know I cannot say too much as I have no sexual feelings for women at all, which to most peoples labels makes me Gay.
I see myself as a man who has sex with other men. Gay is what I tell people as that is the only way people understand it, but it is not a label I feel suits me.
But thats just me!

Take it easy
 

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Everytime I thought I was one or the other.....the other would bring me back. It just got too damn confusing trying to pick one side. So I accepted both. Good luck.
 

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Sexuality is indeed fluid, sometimes I think that I am leaning more Gay and then I will see a hot woman or meet a woman that has a really nice approach/personality and then I am like wow! where did that come from? Then other times I will see a really hot guy and not give it a second thought. Go figure.
 

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That describes my sexual preferences. I also believe sexuality is fluid. In my teenage years and early adult life, I felt more attracted to women and only had the odd man crush. My sexual attraction to men and my willingness to act on my feelings came years later. The jury is still out on whether I repressed my feelings or lacked the sexual maturity?

Sexuality is indeed fluid, sometimes I think that I am leaning more Gay and then I will see a hot woman or meet a woman that has a really nice approach/personality and then I am like wow! where did that come from? Then other times I will see a really hot guy and not give it a second thought. Go figure.
 

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Well I hardly ever just sit and think about girls or oogle over them as they walk by if EVER. I never think about them when I masturbate and I know I never want to be a heterosexual. I would hate to not be attracted to guys.
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I just think sooner or later I am going to have to admit something to myself.
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The last time I stanned hard for a girl was 4th Grade. The last time I stanned hard for a guy was earlier today at work when the Brinks Man came.

Dude I think you're fluid but you lean close enough to gay to just own that label. And frankly, I think that's awesome! I'm a fluid bi guy who slips and slides around the middle of the spectrum, and I have wished I was gay several times but my hunger for women just won't allow it. I don't know what your journey will be like, but I hope you can be proud of who you are and what you love.