I've had family visiting from out of town staying with me this week so there hasn't been any action for the last 4 days. They left yesterday so I decided to go over to Steamworks (bath house) last night in search of some relief. They have a room that I call the "suckatorium". It has a raised platform that runs along 2 walls with a railing on the inner edge. This allows the suckee to stand on the platform and face the railing. The suckor can stand on the floor and face the suckee with his mouth just about at cock level. This is really nice no sore knees or awkward positions. I was standing on the platform facing the railing with my package fully exposed making it pretty obvious what I was looking for. After a couple of minutes a guy came up and played with my dick and balls for a few seconds and asked "you won't cum in my mouth will you?" I answered "it depends on how good you are." He proceeded to go to town on my cock. He was really good. Lots of silvia drooling from his mouth. Hitting all the right spots. He even deep throated it 4 or 5 times. The last time he took my hand and put it behind his head like he wanted me to push his head down on my cock which I did a couple more times. He started to gently tug on my balls (that's my trigger). The jizz was ready to fly. I reached over with both hands and pushed his head back down hard and shot down his throat. He gagged a little ( for the first time) Looked up at me and said "you weren't supposed to cum in my mouth, ASS HOLE" then stomped out of the room. It sure seemed to me like he wanted his reward. Did I break the rules here?
Blow Job Etiquette
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You need the etiquette lesson, not him. If someone tells you not to cum in his mouth, you don't cum in his mouth.
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Well, except the cocksucker didn't tell him not to, he said, "You won't, will you?" And the OP said, "It depends." And the guy sucked his cock anyway with no further discussion. Plus, it's the penis buffet at a bathhouse. Seems to me there's some gray area here.
Unless there was previous interaction with the guy to indicate otherwise, his question should have been enough to imply that he did not want you to cum in his mouth.....at least without warning.
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Yeah... it seems like maybe you should have quickly agreed on this point (cum in or out) before you started... and I'm thinking that he thought that his comment before he started should have been enough to imply a NO.
Bummer that it had to end negatively. If you see him there again, apologize at least that's what I would do.
Bummer that it had to end negatively. If you see him there again, apologize at least that's what I would do.
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Just look at it as if you said "don't cum in my mouth" and ended up getting honey on your tonsils.
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That's why it's always good to mutter (clearly)- "I'm about to cum ..." If it's anonymous, I like to throw in a "bitch" or whatever ;-)
Seriously - if you're a cocksucker who doesnt want to swallow cum (NOT an easy to transmit HIV, btw), but likes to suck anonymous cock - you HAVE to learn how to tell when a man's about to blow, even if he doesnt tell you. Not a difficult skill to learn, in my experience....
Seriously - if you're a cocksucker who doesnt want to swallow cum (NOT an easy to transmit HIV, btw), but likes to suck anonymous cock - you HAVE to learn how to tell when a man's about to blow, even if he doesnt tell you. Not a difficult skill to learn, in my experience....
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The suckee should have announced his impending orgasm & let go so the sucker could back off. However the suckee didn't say either one way or another whether he would cum in the sucker's mouth. So the sucker allowed the suckee to hold his head in place for a short throat-fuck, that led the suckee to believe the sucker wanted the cum. So if you hang out at the suck-a-torium...on the lower level you should expect to get cum in your mouth.
So lets stop the guilt-tripping.
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always try and the holding in place really should be agreed in advance, no way to escape then.
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Well put Atomic.
There is no reason to let someone cum in your mouth without your approval. I always thought the person with the cock in their mouth was ultimately in control of the blow job, and should be able to control whether or not they swallow or have cum in their mouth. The blower should be in control of the speed, motion, and depth of the blowjob. Nothing goes on while I am sucking a dick that I do not know about or want to happen. If it does, then I am going to stop right away.
I have been to bath houses before and given my fair share of blowjobs, and have never had someone cum in my mouth unexpectedly. Part of a good blow job is communication between the two parties, and being aware of how each other feels. If you do not want a man to cum in your mouth, then simply pull their penis out and stop the blow job. At least when I am sucking dick, I have a pretty good idea or feel for when my partner is about to climax and blow.
Or better yet, being a bath house, maybe you should talk to the person you are about to fool around with and establish some ground rules before you get to action. A minute conversation can make all the difference. I know it is a bath house, but simple conversation and common sense can prevent something like this from happening.
While the guy sucking your dick did say something about cum before he started, I can see why you found his question vague and uncertain. For all parties involved, next time a quick conversation before hand will prevent something like this from happening.
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I tend to agree with the points of view of AtomicMouse and bigbadger (and not because we all use mammal references in our profile names/avatars).
There was some major miscommunication from the start in this situation. The sucker announced he didn't want a gob full of jizz, the suckee then responded in a flippant and evasive way, then the sucker went ahead anyway to the point of never pulling away to an impending nut. Who is at fault? I'd put more blame to the suckee because he knew the sucker's original desire but seem determined to cum down his throat regardless.
OP, just because people are in a sex venue doesn't mean any thing goes. You still need to respect your playmate or it can get ugly very quickly as you found out. You're lucky he only told you off, and it didn't get any more heated than that. Some guys have instant guilt after an act, and their moods can swing really rapidly.
About the insinuated belief by some of the posters on this thread about swallowing and STI/D's. That is incredibly naive. The risk factor is really quite negligible between giving standard head without a condom compared to head with swallowing a load. And yes, you're better to swallow than spit because you keep your enzymes in your mouth. And if a sucker has sores/cuts/burns/scraps in his mouth or throat that he's worried about any of this, he has no business giving any kind of head, full stop.
By the way, I've also have guys cum whilst giving them head with little or no warning. Some guys are really still and quiet, and some have hair triggers. If I didn't tell him not to cum in my mouth, it's on me. It's done at that point, so I just savour the load.
There was some major miscommunication from the start in this situation. The sucker announced he didn't want a gob full of jizz, the suckee then responded in a flippant and evasive way, then the sucker went ahead anyway to the point of never pulling away to an impending nut. Who is at fault? I'd put more blame to the suckee because he knew the sucker's original desire but seem determined to cum down his throat regardless.
OP, just because people are in a sex venue doesn't mean any thing goes. You still need to respect your playmate or it can get ugly very quickly as you found out. You're lucky he only told you off, and it didn't get any more heated than that. Some guys have instant guilt after an act, and their moods can swing really rapidly.
About the insinuated belief by some of the posters on this thread about swallowing and STI/D's. That is incredibly naive. The risk factor is really quite negligible between giving standard head without a condom compared to head with swallowing a load. And yes, you're better to swallow than spit because you keep your enzymes in your mouth. And if a sucker has sores/cuts/burns/scraps in his mouth or throat that he's worried about any of this, he has no business giving any kind of head, full stop.
By the way, I've also have guys cum whilst giving them head with little or no warning. Some guys are really still and quiet, and some have hair triggers. If I didn't tell him not to cum in my mouth, it's on me. It's done at that point, so I just savour the load.
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