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Get a dildo that is as big or bigger than him and try to work with that. How I do it is I expect there will be some pain, but I detach myself from the situation. Close my eyes and pretend that Im not there. Of course he has to be patient too and realize that since he's that big, it wont be easy for you.
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Lot's of lube! But, most important, take your time. If he's worth it, and he truly wants to have sex with you, he'll be patient as well... and then when the magic finally happens... WHOA!!!! :biggrin1:
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More than likely you have allowed your mind to take over at this point. I'm sure the whole time your thinking and stressing over the fact that you can not take that big dick up your ass. You need to just relax and allow it to happen on it's own. The more you push , the tighter your ass will become. I agree with getting a bigger dildo and the both of you can play with this first, then work your way to him. No amount of lube will make your ass ease up and relax. If you try to force it, then there is no pleasure..... just have fun and before you know it, you'll have a nice smile on your face.
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dont get a dildo thew same size as him....get a smaller one......use it until your comfortable taking it....then work up a size......get him to use his fingers to work you open until your comfortable....and as long as u think you arent going to take it, you arent going to take it..
your mind has a strong control on the body...although u can THINK your relaxed, your body KNOWS you arent....take your time and work upto it.....and when u finally take it...itll be amazing...
so lucky finding a guy that big.....i still aint come across anyone big enough.....
good lucj and take care.x
your mind has a strong control on the body...although u can THINK your relaxed, your body KNOWS you arent....take your time and work upto it.....and when u finally take it...itll be amazing...
so lucky finding a guy that big.....i still aint come across anyone big enough.....
good lucj and take care.x
OK, Dude this is how its done! First you have to start small, and work up.
This make take some time so practice make pervert. LOL
No really start with a small size dildo that is comfortable to you, or perhaps a few fingers. Then over time (months perhaps) work your way up to bigger and better. Also it helps to be mentally relaxed. But NO DRUGS! as you have to be able to since pain where there is pain.. Let you body talk to you? Annal sex is great sex. If more people tried it the world would be a much better place.
Also in closing lots of guys like their buts played with. Some are just to scared to admit it. So loose the hang ups!:wink:
And before you know it you'll be just like Scarlet in "Gone with the wind" On your knees swearing "If God is my witness I'll never go horny again!" LOL
This make take some time so practice make pervert. LOL
No really start with a small size dildo that is comfortable to you, or perhaps a few fingers. Then over time (months perhaps) work your way up to bigger and better. Also it helps to be mentally relaxed. But NO DRUGS! as you have to be able to since pain where there is pain.. Let you body talk to you? Annal sex is great sex. If more people tried it the world would be a much better place.
Also in closing lots of guys like their buts played with. Some are just to scared to admit it. So loose the hang ups!:wink:
And before you know it you'll be just like Scarlet in "Gone with the wind" On your knees swearing "If God is my witness I'll never go horny again!" LOL
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dont even attempt it again until you get you a fairly long, slim dildo and condition your hole yourself. When you control the sensation, pain or pleasure, you'll get in, stretch your hole and eventually will be able to bottom.
That's the way it is for most I think, they have to condition themselves. That's how it was for me. The pain will go away. Break yourself in.
I tried three times with my hot guy and couldn't give it to him. I felt like shit because I liked him so much and couldn't give him what he wanted.
That's the way it is for most I think, they have to condition themselves. That's how it was for me. The pain will go away. Break yourself in.
I tried three times with my hot guy and couldn't give it to him. I felt like shit because I liked him so much and couldn't give him what he wanted.
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There has been some good advice given to you. I would say yeah. . visualize it. . eyes on the prize, man. . . and then there is the element of practice practice practice. Get a toy that is in similar dimensions to him, and plan a (workout schedule) with your time. In time your body will become accustomed to that size and shape. when you can easily take the toy and fuck yourself with it, then you should be ready for your friend.
Hope that helps. .
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Use a combination of a dildo bigger than your man, and a butt-plug of the same circumference of your man. Work up to opening you're ass up, with various sizes of dildo's and butt-plugs. Start with smaller ones and work up to the wider ones. Do this before he penetrates you. Use plenty of J-Lube. Make sure you're completely cleaned out. Less debris inside, the more cock you can take. I douche for two hours prior to getting fucked.
In this order: Clean, lub, butt plug, dildo.
Clean before you start. You don't want shit and smell all over the place.
Keep the butt plug for a wile (until your confortable) not to small not to big.
Then you play with your dildo. From small to larger.
I would recomend two different size.
Take your time, the ass hole is a muscle, you have to train as any other muscles.
I also use oragel (for tooth ache) it's an analgesic, it will diminish the pain wile you train. But don't use in sex time or you'll fell less pleasure.
It will alow you to strech more easely, but you have to be careful not to hurt your self.
I find poppers to help, but I wouldn't recommend it, you just get hooked...
Training and time are the keys.
Using this technic I can now take realy big guys. I event double a couple of time.
Thinking and fantasysing is good, but if you want to get your man you have to train.
Clean before you start. You don't want shit and smell all over the place.
Keep the butt plug for a wile (until your confortable) not to small not to big.
Then you play with your dildo. From small to larger.
I would recomend two different size.
Take your time, the ass hole is a muscle, you have to train as any other muscles.
I also use oragel (for tooth ache) it's an analgesic, it will diminish the pain wile you train. But don't use in sex time or you'll fell less pleasure.
It will alow you to strech more easely, but you have to be careful not to hurt your self.
I find poppers to help, but I wouldn't recommend it, you just get hooked...
Training and time are the keys.
Using this technic I can now take realy big guys. I event double a couple of time.
Thinking and fantasysing is good, but if you want to get your man you have to train.
In that order : Clean, lub, butt plug, dildos
Clean : You don’t want shit and smell all over the place.
Lub : I like ID lube. Just don’t use water base it dissolve too fast
Butt plug : Keep it until you are comfortable. Not to small not to big.
Dildos : I would recommend two size. Well lub.
I use oragel (for tooth ache) it’s an analgesic so it will help with the pain. Don’t use it during sex or you’ll feel less from your partener. Be carefull not to hurt yourself.
The ass is a muscle and you have to train just like other muscles.
I use this technique and now I can take big guys, I even double several times.
Take your time, go slow and train, train, train.
Fantasizing is good but you have to train. I would say two to three times a week should be good, just don’t over do it. Your muscle have to recuperate.
When you can take what you want, stop the training or you will just get loose and you don’t want that.
Have fun and keep us posted.
Clean : You don’t want shit and smell all over the place.
Lub : I like ID lube. Just don’t use water base it dissolve too fast
Butt plug : Keep it until you are comfortable. Not to small not to big.
Dildos : I would recommend two size. Well lub.
I use oragel (for tooth ache) it’s an analgesic so it will help with the pain. Don’t use it during sex or you’ll feel less from your partener. Be carefull not to hurt yourself.
The ass is a muscle and you have to train just like other muscles.
I use this technique and now I can take big guys, I even double several times.
Take your time, go slow and train, train, train.
Fantasizing is good but you have to train. I would say two to three times a week should be good, just don’t over do it. Your muscle have to recuperate.
When you can take what you want, stop the training or you will just get loose and you don’t want that.
Have fun and keep us posted.
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I would do the butt-plug thingy, while you're top is there. Not before hand, and not leave a butt-plug in all day, beforehand. It can cause irritation and possible infection. Let your top see the measures you go through to open yourself up. Yes the anus ring is a muscle... but you can't afford irritating the inside walls of your anus. Irritation and lead to minor or major bleeding. Bleeding can lead to infection, and so on, and so forth. Use a very good slippery lube. Again My recommendation is J-Lube. http://www.j-lube.net Once you mix the stuff up, you can dip a screw driver into it, and you won't be able to hold onto the end of it.
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