Breast Reduction Surgery

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Most women in my family are very large breasted. They've always had back pain & mobility issues. One of the most common memories I have is after the women in my family cooked for everyone all day is them setting their boobs on the table after dinner & them finally looking like they got some relief.

My cousin is my age (26) & has the same breast size issues. I recommended breast reduction surgery to her. Her husband & I got into a full-on brawl (not bragging, but I won). It was his view that it was none of my business & that if he liked it, they were staying (if you cant tell, he's a dick).

Before her husband got involved, I think I had convinced her of the benefits & that it wasn't cosmetic surgery, it's necessary if she doesnt want to spend her life in pain. But her husband's intervention has made her sour on the idea.

Should I bring it up again? If so, is there another argument I should offer? Am I interfering by bringing up the issue? Is it even any business of her husband?
 

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I had breast reduction surgery a little over 10 years ago. My only regret is that I did not do it sooner. I have permanent neck and back nerve damage from carrying around so much weight. It was a medical necessity.

That said, I know you mean well and want the best for her, but this is a decision borne primarily be her, but also involves her spouse. While I had made up my mind to finally go through with it, it was only after a deep discussion with my husband, who, by the way, supported me 100%.

He may be an asshole, but he's her asshole, and she'll have to live with him.
 

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I don't have the experience of having large boobs. Mine barely exist. But...

You've said your piece. You expressed your concern and suggestions. It's her decision, not only whether or not to have the procedure done. She gets to decide whether her husbands opinions matter enough to impact her decision.

She gets to decide if she wants to tolerate the pain/discomfort for the sake of pleasing another person.

If she makes a choice she ends up regretting later in life, you tried. But continuing to bring it up could just put a wedge between the two of you. In my opinion, it's not anyone's business but hers. Not her husband, not you. But I'm not her, and she's an adult who has to live with the choices she makes for herself given the information and circumstances in front of her.

If I was you I'd leave it alone unless she asked for help making the decision.
 
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He may be an asshole, but he's her asshole, and she'll have to live with him.
If I was you I'd leave it alone unless she asked for help making the decision.
The 2 gals I go to for keepin it real & have always been there when I needed em, have put me on the right path. I think the other factor is that I cant stand her husband - which shouldn't involve her, at all. I try to be well-intentioned, but need to figure out when to clean my hands of things & let go. Thanks m'chers.
 

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@Adreaux ,
Is it possible the women/woman you're talking about simply aren't using good quality bras and or wearing the wrong size?
I'm a UK 44KK, 44P in American sizes, always had large breasts but obviously as the poor old body ages things change and the importance of a properly fitting and good supporting bra is essential.
Right from the start I was given some great advice, always get fitted by a trusted professional with a good reputation and always buy the best bra I could afford. Thankfully I've never really suffered from back or shoulder pain and I can tell when a bra is going bad and losing its support because I can feel the weight more on my shoulders, sure I sometimes get the odd niggle etc but nothing like it would be if I was wearing the wrong band size for instance which can lead over time to spine deformation and all sorts of issues.
Personally I'm not interested in having reduction surgery, not unless I developed a medical issue which meant I needed to, I just make sure I look after the boobs and keep them happy. Happy boobies, happy body.
As far as I'm concerned as long as they don't cause me trouble they'll stay put, I wouldn't want unnecessary surgery myself and I firmly believe I've only escaped back and shoulder problems because I listened to that advice many years ago.