Have you tried wearing a thong to hold your toy in place? The string should hold it better since it would be right up against the dildo.
Thank you so much for replying! So they definitely help you in terms of being able to take dick? As in you think they stretch your hole? Amy tips/advice other than work up in sizes? Or can you give me a short explanation? I really would appreciate it! Thank you for your reply!
Hi, I'm tight too, and have used a plug prior to bottoming for years. I do get the bit about the thinner neck of it and the wider part inside, but it's the first few inches inside that you are trying to open, more than your actual hole.
It can be annoying being tight can’t it! Tbh I know I shouldn’t but I’ve recently gotten into a habit of smoking before however I’m now wanting to stop smoking so that’s why I’m trying to loosen myself in other ways! I don’t like the idea of poppers as I have history of mental health and I don’t want to damage my brain! I have recently seen that you can get butt plugs which are really thick at the base which concentrate on the actual opening of your butt hole! Idk I’ll experiment I guess and see what works best! Thanks for your reply
You hang on to your tight hole, it'll soon get used and less tight. If you're trying to open your hole, a dildo is more useful to you, butt plugs, as you've noted, have a thinner neck - which means your asshole clams up and holds the plug in place - what an experience.
Do you think I should go for a dilator instead? I’m basically just wanting anal sex to be less painful! I only really have anal sex once every two weeks but when I do I always end up having to have a smoke so I can relax to take it!
These are amazing. I’d add Topped Toys to this. It feels so good to get a big soft plug in
Ive always wanted to try one of those cock rings with the anal ball on it does it feel good wearing all day
A butt plug with a T shaped base is much more comfortable for long term wear, for standing or walking you need a butt plug rather than a dildo as a butt plug is held in place by your anal muscles on the neck. The exception is a weighted internal toy where your anal muscles work to retain the toy against gravity, so it moves up and down inside- quite a different feeling from a butt plug or dildo. I'm not aware of any commercially made items.
Maybe, but for a beginner a lot of it is actually getting used to having something inside without struggling against the action of the rectum- the body trues to empty the rectum when it feels full, hence the initial "need to poop" sensation when you start with bum toys. Use the toilet and clean up, lube up and slowly slip the smallest toy inside. Leave it in as you sit and just get used to the sensation of being full without your body trying to empty- it takes a while but in a week or so you'll be much more relaxed with something inside- then you can start to get used to something little bigger.
