Challenges Finishing

[hale989]

I’m curious about guys who don’t cum easily. I’ve been with guys who are hard, have precum, but just have trouble finishing. These guys have been both young and old.

I want to hear from the guys who do have trouble finishing. Is easier to cum when you’re alone? Is it performance anxiety? Are you still satisfied if not finishing? Is the other person just doing it wrong? If there is something the other person can do to make you cum? And do you tell them?

Personally, I’m here for you empathetically. If my partner is happy even if they haven’t finished, that’s ok by me. I had performance anxiety before and that definitely makes it harder to cum. And all men know, no one knows them like themselves. I can make myself cum quicker than any other person.

But if you do have challenges cumming, I want to here why and what can get you there. Thanks for sharing.

 

[RobertHunter30]

It is always easiest alone because I know what makes my dick feel good and gets me to the end. Some times it is performance anxiety. I started to take Viagara for that just to keep me hard. Usually if I stay hard, I can finish. While I was going through this stretch of not being able to finish, I was always happy when I could get my partner across the finish line. It never bothered me that I didn't, though I know it bothered some of my partners.

Many times, the partner was doing it wrong. When I was younger a breeze would make me cum, but as I got older and I probably spent more time with myself, it became more difficult for a partner to know what I needed if I never told him. I have learned to advocate for myself and tell a partner to stop if there "killing" me. I have really sensitive balls and sometimes guys are really rough with them. Often, I am not hung like my partner and so the way they stroke themselves is not pleasant for me. Sometimes you have a partner who really want to make you finish. They will listen to what you need and ask questions while engaged. When that happens, I can all most always finish.

Also, for me, was stumbling across coconut oil. It really feels amazing on me. It is nice because it is chemical free so putting it in your mouth is fine. That stuff gets me hard and leaking faster than anything else I have used alone or with someone. When I am alone, I do not need the viagara, but if I am going to be with someone, I take it just to be sure I remain hard.

I am an older guy, but far from not wanting to have sex or cum. I can see that as you age it really does become ... trial and error until you find what works.

I hope this helps.

 

[hale989]

Thank you! That is really helpful to know. One reason I’m asking is because there is a guy (a bit older) that I really like hooking up with.

 

[littleguy2]

I’m curious about guys who don’t cum easily. I’ve been with guys who are hard, have precum, but just have trouble finishing. These guys have been both young and old.

I want to hear from the guys who do have trouble finishing. Is easier to cum when you’re alone? Is it performance anxiety? Are you still satisfied if not finishing? Is the other person just doing it wrong? If there is something the other person can do to make you cum? And do you tell them?

Personally, I’m here for you empathetically. If my partner is happy even if they haven’t finished, that’s ok by me. I had performance anxiety before and that definitely makes it harder to cum. And all men know, no one knows them like themselves. I can make myself cum quicker than any other person.

But if you do have challenges cumming, I want to here why and what can get you there. Thanks for sharing.

I struggle with periods of not cumming with my wife. Cialis makes me hard and keeps me hard but at times I just can't get over the hump, even if it's been a while
Wife will finish and I will pull out she helps me cum by rubbing my balls as I stroke. I then I have a very unsatisfactory cum and not a big load. At times I have stopped because I can't cum.