This is exactly why labels are so problematic. Not because they aren't useful social tools, but because people try to put too much importance on them, create weird stereotypes and rules around them, and assume other parts of someone's life based on them. Labels should be the start of a nuanced conversation to build out an understanding of something deeper and unique. People hear a label and auto fill a backstory of stereotypes about someone's life, which might be true sometimes, or even most of the time, but absolutely not all of the time. Dump the rules and assumptions. Keep labels simple.