Many of us will have read and contributed to Fake_et's thread in the Relationship section and I have a thought that has arisen from that on which I would welcome your thoughts comments. I wonder whether people get confused between freely given commitment and imposed obligation. Do we try to impose obligation for our own given emotional commitment when it is seemingly unrequited? Is this fair? Should we want an emotional commitment just because we want to give one? Are we obliging someone when we shouldn't and aren't relationships based upon this, doomed to ultimate recrimination?