I'm tired of people saying gay men don't deserve to get married because they aren't monogamous. Some of the gay couples I know have been together for over 5 years and are very much in love. They deeply care about each other and are deeply committed to each other. Why do others care that they enjoy sex with a lot of other people? It's just sex people, come out of the dark ages.
Commitment does not equal monogamy
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D_BenJo_Ahanakokolele
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shut up because it's not just a gay problem... straight couples do this too. and to some people sex is not just sex. you may view it that way but don't tell people to get out the dark ages. asshole.
D_BenJo_Ahanakokolele
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no because your argument crap. if you did say that to some homophobe then you are encouraging the misconception that gay men or lesbians can't be monogamous.
you are doing more harm than good.
the best way to get rights is to show that we can be just like straight couples, flaws and all.
dude fir one, he's right
and second you are not sticking it to the homophobes you are posting on a website wher eyou KNOW already you will get more support then argument it's the epitome of preaching to the choir man...
at BEST you are venting and at worst you are highlighting that you are ignorant enough to think that because you know a few people that being in an open relationship works for that it MUST be the best for everyone and whoever disagrees with you is an idiot....
that's so weak I can't believe I even bothered to tell you how stupid you sound
try to understand that the first person to post and tell you how foolish you sound lists themself as 90% gay...
and the second person has had multiple gay friends
you havn't found argument from a single homophobe yet bro
D_BenJo_Ahanakokolele
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you are far dumber than I originally thought....
and you sound like you're 13 years old.
It's not just a same sex thing. I'm very happily married and my wife and I are totally committed but we have an open marriage and we're swingers as well. We both have been having sex with others of the same, and opposite sex, since we got together, and married a couple of years later. As you say, it's only sex; love and commitment are something entirely different.
Stephenmass
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I have nothing against couples that are open in their relationships at all; I have been with my partner now for approx 7 years and we both like it monogamous. But I also understand that others are not (str8 or gay or bi) and it doesn't bother me in the least. Whatever works and is mutual, works. It's sneaky, behind the back shit that bothers me the most.
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My partner and I have been together for almost 5 years. We bought a house together last year, we've talked of marriage, his 3 kids, and grand daughters love me. We've made a family all of our own, and we are committed to each other. We are not monogamous. We talk about it. We have basic parameters of what we find acceptable, and we continue to discuss it as often as needed. We would do anything for each other, but we're not often in sync sexually, and that's how we deal with it. It was harder for me to come to terms with it, but in the end, it's just sex. He might have sex with someone else, but he comes home to me, he sleeps next to me. He loves ME. That's what's important. I know several straight couples that do the same thing as well.
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Surely - true equality is needed - people shouldn't need to seek approval to get married to any other person whatever the sex. If a monogamous relationship works for them fine if open then fine, but that should not be gender or sexuality based if it makes them happy great - just no sneaking behind each others backs for sex. The point is gay people are no more likely in my opinion to b less monogamous than any other str8 or bi -
I think when someone says they are committed, for the most part it implies total
Commitment, which encompasses sexual practices. If you are in a relationship that includes extra marital activity, it's just that "extra marital" I.e outside of the marriage.....and that's fine for whoever chooses it but you do have to use a caviat of commitment othe than sexual.
Commitment, which encompasses sexual practices. If you are in a relationship that includes extra marital activity, it's just that "extra marital" I.e outside of the marriage.....and that's fine for whoever chooses it but you do have to use a caviat of commitment othe than sexual.
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