Dating advice

[BlueBearCub]

Hey guys,

I have been on 3 dates with this guy and we have a pretty good connection. We shared a few kisses when we parted ways on 2 of the 3 dates. I am not looking to rush into anything, but at what point is it acceptable to go further? I don't want to jump into bed, but don't want to think I am not interested.

What you guys think?

 

[BillM]

Stud, I would say it is time!!

 

[deleted875903]

Hey guys,

I have been on 3 dates with this guy and we have a pretty good connection. We shared a few kisses when we parted ways on 2 of the 3 dates. I am not looking to rush into anything, but at what point is it acceptable to go further? I don't want to jump into bed, but don't want to think I am not interested.

What you guys think?

Talk to him, communication is key. If you like him tell him etc...

 

[BlueBearCub]

Stud, I would say it is time!!

You think? I am looking for more than just sex and like to get into relationship.

 

[BlueBearCub]

Talk to him, communication is key. If you like him tell him etc...

I have told him I like him. I just dont want to rush into anything.

 

[LilJock]

As a guy, I've always felt the sooner, the better. Don't tarry. Hit the hay as soon as possible. I've never held it against a girl who was too accommodating.

Grope me and suck me,
Relieve me and fuck me,
I'm grateful as hell
The quicker they fell.

A girl who is fast
Who never is chaste
Will best let me pet her
The sooner the better.

Without further delay
Please put out today.
There's never remorse
In taking that course.

You'll never regret
A casual pet,
A roll in the hay,
A glorious lay.

 

[BillM]

You think? I am looking for more than just sex and like to get into relationship.

Stud, Well sex is very much part of a relationship!!

 

[BlueBearCub]

Stud, Well sex is very much part of a relationship!!

That is true.

 

[deleted875903]

I have told him I like him. I just dont want to rush into anything.

Don’t over think it my friend just let things happen naturally.

 

[BlueBearCub]

Don’t over think it my friend just let things happen naturally.

True. He did say he wants to have a movie night when he gets back from his work trip. Maybe then will be the night. Be the first time together not in public.

 

[deleted875903]

True. He did say he wants to have a movie night when he gets back from his work trip. Maybe then will be the night. Be the first time together not in public.

Sounds really nice.

 

[BlueBearCub]

Sounds really nice.

Yeah I am excited. TO be honest I don't think I could resist if he wanted to seal the deal. hes so handsome.

 

[deleted875903]

Your too funny. Enjoy yourself and have fun.

 

[BlueBearCub]

Your too funny. Enjoy yourself and have fun.

Thanks. I am a bit nervous. I havent been with a guy in over 2 years.

 

[art]

Be slightly aggressive. Make a move (rub his thigh, touch his ear or whatever.) See how he responds.

 

[Boggman]

Instead of asking yourself:

“When is it acceptable to move forward?”

Why not ask yourself :

“Why am I holding myself back”?

As far as “rushing” goes...that ship has already sailed. You’re not rushing anyhing if you follow your heart and you trust your instincts.

Do what feels natural - and don’t be afraid to go after what you want when you want it.

Confidence is sexier than procrastination- and it will take you much farther in your potential relationship(s).

I slept with my partner the 1st night we met. 5 years later and we’re still going strong.

 

[BlueBearCub]

Instead of asking yourself:

“When is it acceptable to move forward?”

Why not ask yourself :

“Why am I holding myself back”?

As far as “rushing” goes...that ship has already sailed. You’re not rushing anyhing if you follow your heart and you trust your instincts.

Do what feels natural - and don’t be afraid to go after what you want when you want it.

Confidence is sexier than procrastination- and it will take you much farther in your potential relationship(s).

I slept with my partner the 1st night we met. 5 years later and we’re still going strong.

I appreciate the advice. Thanks

 

[ohiorod]

Take it at what feels like a comfortable pace and as advised, communicate. When you feel like you are ready to have sex, tell him that you like him a lot and you would like to take the relationship to the next level when he feels comfortable. Always be prepared to keep yourself safe and never forget to communicate, even if you just reveal that it has been a couple years for you. Good luck!

 

[852838]

If there is chemistry and you guys have been out a few times, I would say move forward with sex pretty soon. I too am more interested in a relationship and last night had sex with a guy after our fourth date. There was definite chemistry and it went well.

Like me you sound like you aren't interested in the screw and never talk again club, which is where I fall. I'm not saying I want to be in a long term thing with the guy after we had sex but I at least would hope we would be friends even if we decided not to go out again.

 

[BlueBearCub]

If there is chemistry and you guys have been out a few times, I would say move forward with sex pretty soon. I too am more interested in a relationship and last night had sex with a guy after our fourth date. There was definite chemistry and it went well.

Like me you sound like you aren't interested in the screw and never talk again club, which is where I fall. I'm not saying I want to be in a long term thing with the guy after we had sex but I at least would hope we would be friends even if we decided not to go out again.

Yeah I would be very upset if he didn't want to hang out after. We were texting yesterday and it seems like we are both looking for something long term and not just a hookup.

Now that I know that I want our first time together to be amazing. Any tips for having a good first time with a new guy? I'm more a bottom here btw.