After years of fear holding me back, I’ve finally accepting myself fully as a bisexual male. Ive recently starting going on dates with men. I’ve only previously dated women. So a lot of this is very new to me. Are there any suggestions out there as a way to navigate any of this? I’m one part excited and one part I have no idea what I’m doing. So I’ll take any advice I can get.
Dating Men For The First Time
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I guess it’s fair to mention that I’ve never dated or ever been with a guy before.
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Remember what it was like when you first dated girls, the excitement, the fear, the hope.
Enjoy the journey
Enjoy the journey
Thanks, I appreciate that. I guess it’s so new I feel somewhat apprehensive. Yet also very much excited. I’ve never been with a man. So all of this will be an exciting new adventure.
Hope you find the right guy for the first time. Goodluck
I’m not sure if there is any advice I can offer just yet. But I do have a question. You said you recently started going out on dates with men. So you have been on at least one date with a guy? If so, how did you meet him? Who asked who out? How did it go?
I was just confused because in a post after this one you said you had not dated or been with a guy before, but I got the impression that there was probably at least 1 recently.
You’re correct. I wanted to emphasize the complete newness of this for me. I have been on two dates with men. I met them using a dating app. I set my profile for men and women. I asked out both of the men. That seemed to be my typical approach with women. Each date with the guy was fun and exciting. Neither ended in a second date. My thought process for the entire dating process this go round is: open heart, open mind.
Again, I’m open to any suggestions you may have.
Again, I’m open to any suggestions you may have.
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Again I reply, while dating wait for the one who's gonna make you feel comfy and your attracted to. Alot of 1 night stands out there. Goodluck
Update for everyone. So I went on my third date with a guy. Met up at a brewery, hung out had a good conversation. I go to hug him good by and he shows me pics of this Indian festival he went to and skipped past a dick pic. I said whoa. Who’s is that, he replies his I asked to see it again and then we started making out and the parking lot. He feels me get hard and starts rubbing it and then I asked to see if I could give him a blow job. So we did in his car in the parking lot. Which as a first for me in every sense of the word and then I asked him to return the favor and he did but not as long as I did. We made out and then I left and drove home. So that happened! It was exciting, I’m never that forward and I’m still stunned I did it. Again all of which was a first. So anyway that happened and I actually liked it and now I’m just siting here thinking “did I just do that???” I just followed my heart and the mood of the situation. I guess not bad for a first time. But crazy! Anyway I just wanted to share.
No, I had considered it. He only wanted a FWB relationship. I wasn’t opposed to doing that. But with further though I decided I’d rather spend the time and energy into a relationship that I can see going somewhere. So that’s my plan for now.
Update: I’ve had some success but mostly failures. All of which are fine. I joined some other dating apps to cover the spread. A few random hookups. Nothing more than a hand job, or bj. Until last week. I chose to kick it up a notch. Had my first bj that resulted in my cumming on Friday and then again on Tuesday. I had a lot of offers once I shared a dick pic. But I was hesitate as I wanted the attention, but also for them to like me too. So here is the question of the day. Yesterday I met someone in the app and stuck up a decent conversation. To the point I asked him out we exchanged numbers and all. I had not yet shared a pic. I did later and he was more than impressed. So question is what advice do you give a guy like me for my first time topping a dude? He seems pretty cool I’m finding a connection there other than the typical men I’ve been finding. But to the actual sexual experience any advice will be helpful.
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Highly recommend reading the book The Velvet Rage when you dip your toes into dating men. I found it very informative on some of the ways we bi guys face a different experience growing up from most gay guys -- and how that affects our behavior as adults.
Some things are the same but some are VERY different. But relax and have fun. Guys wanna fuck on the 1st date pretty often, but be careful. More than a few times I really got good vibes on the date but it turned out to be a long prelude to what essentially just became fuckbuddys.
Some things are the same but some are VERY different. But relax and have fun. Guys wanna fuck on the 1st date pretty often, but be careful. More than a few times I really got good vibes on the date but it turned out to be a long prelude to what essentially just became fuckbuddys.
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