Dating takes a
lot of time. I'm a single father. I have a full time job. I am constantly anemic due to a genetic disease. My free time is
very valuable to me. This is what I would mean if I were to say, "I'm too busy for dating."
I gave up on using online dating apps months ago. I've been single since 2016 and have dated a few times but they were consistently big wastes of time when they were from online dating apps/sites. It was consistently people lying about who they were, insisting they were looking for something "real" and then revealing that what they actually wanted was to get laid and/or have a kid ASAP (comes with the territory in your late 30s, I guess)... or both. You think people are wasting time on social media, you should see how much time dating apps waste.
That's basically what it comes down to. I'd rather spend that valuable spare time on hobbies and if those hobbies lead to me meeting someone to date, then I'm happy with that. If not, then so be it.
And, I mean, if people want to be screwing around on their phones, on social media, or on forums about having a big ding dong then whatever, what's wrong with that? Maybe they prefer that to the random whims of dating apps.
As for the world outside the apps, in my situation if someone says they're busy, I take it at face value and move on. I had a date planned a couple weeks ago, and she cancelled our dinner plan and turned it into a lunch plan, then cancelled that. And I said okie-doke and moved on. Because frankly, I'm
thankful she didn't waste my time if she has such a poor ability to commit and/or make time for even a quick dinner date.
When you add the WHY THE HELL and a lot of crazy ramblings it looks more like a rant. It was a ranting monologue. You’ve been with someone for 15 years, I don’t understand why you care. Still confused here.
I too found the whole final sentence about being married for 9 years confusing and I'm not sure where this question is coming from. I guess maybe they're in an open relationship or something, who knows. Maybe it's someone with an unusual abundance of free time.
