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Anyone here willing to share their experiences of coaching someone to deep-throat a larger cock?

My partner is generally keen to please, but believes that she physically isn't able to do it and is scared to try. I'd be interested in any anecdotes from male/female users with experience taking or coaching deep-throat for the first time.
 

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Not totally sure about this, but I have heard to slightly extend your tongue, round your mouth and gently push it down. Take it slow of course and get the hang of it.

I believe there is the perfect and simple trick to not gagging, but I haven't got the trick fully yet.

Nothing like giving the pleasure your partner wants.
 

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Thanks guys. Somewhat relieved to hear I'm not the only one who struggles with this (though commiserations obviously), it's actually a bit demoralising to hear another rehash of "just relax and take it slow and it'll happen". Always nice to get support of course, but I'm just hoping for that magic little tip that suddenly makes everything possible!

I know nothing is ever that simple but it helps to try out new things anyway.
 
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Well , I think the most important thing is having a girl that wants to do it. When I met my GF , she could only get half of me.. But she told me not to worry, lol... That " everytime she went down on me she would go a little deeper". And that's exactly what she did. Now she can put a 9" dildo down her throat.. Yeah , she likes to show off., lol
 

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http://groups.yahoo.com/group/The_Swallowers once you join, there are articles you can read in the files section of the main group. And you can inquire about your particular problem. If this is something you believe your g/f wants to do... then somehow she will figure it out.
 

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When your partner says she physically isn't able to do it, does that mean she believes it won't fit down her throat; or that she's scared about gagging; or scared that she won't be able to breathe; or something else?

One thing to experiment with is a range of different positions - everything from having her on her kness, to lying on her back with her head tilted back of the edge of the bed. She might find that she feels more able to take it all in, in some positions rather than others.

The other thing to experiment with is who is in control. Depending on what she likes, then letting her have control, or you having control might give different results.
 

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Loose is good.
If she focuses too much, it's difficult.

Tell her to relax and just "let" it happen. You can guide her. Don't push too far too fast.

It can be just a nice sharing experience.

It doesn't have to be a test of skill or endurance.

She should see it like a kiss. A nice deep kiss, not a fucking.

:smile:
 

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Thanks guys, all useful stuff.

elvid: I think she finds the idea of gagging unpleasant (a turn-off even), and her jaw gets sore after about 30-60 seconds so blowjobs tend to be a series of brief intense bursts of sucking interspersed with licking/hand-job rather than long languid sucks where she can gradually take more length. She enjoys doing it for me and wants to do more (likes loss of control generally), but I think the fear of gagging and maybe fear of disappointing me stop her going any further.
 
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elvid: I think she finds the idea of gagging unpleasant (a turn-off even).

OK. In that case, she might find it helpful to practice controlling her gag reflex with something small eg a tooth brush. Once she knows she can control her gagging with that, she might well find it less daunting to take a cock all the way in.
 

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Nice idea, but Russia's a long way to go. And those dildos are all pretty skinny!

OK. In that case, she might find it helpful to practice controlling her gag reflex with something small eg a tooth brush. Once she knows she can control her gagging with that, she might well find it less daunting to take a cock all the way in.

I'll see if she's up for that! I reckon deliberately making herself gag will be hard for her, but she might be prepared to put in the time if I ask nicely. Not sure if the gag is the only thing stopping her though, I think the sore jaw/small mouth issue is going to be more of a problem in the long run.
 

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I'll see if she's up for that! I reckon deliberately making herself gag will be hard for her, but she might be prepared to put in the time if I ask nicely. Not sure if the gag is the only thing stopping her though, I think the sore jaw/small mouth issue is going to be more of a problem in the long run.

As long as you let her know that you appreciate that it's not an easy thing for her, hopefully she'll won't give up trying.
 

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And I think the girl has to love giving head or it just won't happen.

Agreed, but there's a difference between enjoying giving a mouth-job and wanting/allowing your throat to be stretched beyond what you think your body is capable of I think. My girl definitely enjoys the first part (specifically knowing she's giving pleasure), and it makes her wet enough sometimes that she can be on the edge of cumming. But she can't do it for long at a time, so the usual pattern is 1 min sucking, 2 mins hand-job + licking, repeat for 30 mins!

I don't know yet if we'll ever be able to work up to deep-throat. There's obviously enough physical variation in humans that certain combinations of larger penis/smaller mouth will be very difficult, and I'm just hoping that there are some techniques or strategies that can help with my particular case rather than it simply being impossible...