I think you answered your own question. It's not that you "turned gay" it's that you are considering acting on your same sex attraction. What is normal? Do what you feel is right for you and forget about what other people will think or what label you/they put on it. If you don't know where to start, then that's a valid question for men that have been in a similar situation as you.
I agree with hvdude. People don't turn gay or bi. It was always there but in the past you just ignored it because you were satisfied with what you were doing up to that point.
Same thing with women "turning" lesbian later in life.
Don't know if you are still married or have an open relationship. Obviously that needs sorting out because that tends to lead to excessive risk taking.
The first step is to protect yourself. Prep is a great option to significantly decrease the risk of HIV. Once that is out of the way, any fears you may have are no different than having sex with women.
If that's all too much, the risk of getting HIV from a handjob is very low. Even BJ is low if you don't have any cuts or sores in your mouth.
In the gay world, anal sex is not a requirement. So don't look at that as much of a hurdle.
Same thing with women "turning" lesbian later in life.
Don't know if you are still married or have an open relationship. Obviously that needs sorting out because that tends to lead to excessive risk taking.
The first step is to protect yourself. Prep is a great option to significantly decrease the risk of HIV. Once that is out of the way, any fears you may have are no different than having sex with women.
If that's all too much, the risk of getting HIV from a handjob is very low. Even BJ is low if you don't have any cuts or sores in your mouth.
In the gay world, anal sex is not a requirement. So don't look at that as much of a hurdle.
I think what happens is, when people are young, they worry about pleasing everyone else, doing what is expected , avoiding homophobia etc.
Then in their later years, maybe after a divorce or parents die or whatever, it dawns on them that they don't give a fuck about perception any more and they do what makes them happy.
I have a straight friend, reasonably fit and attractive, who liked bigger women but didn't do it because he worried about other people's perception of him. It wasn't until his thirties that he stopped caring and started dating bigger girls.
Then in their later years, maybe after a divorce or parents die or whatever, it dawns on them that they don't give a fuck about perception any more and they do what makes them happy.
I have a straight friend, reasonably fit and attractive, who liked bigger women but didn't do it because he worried about other people's perception of him. It wasn't until his thirties that he stopped caring and started dating bigger girls.
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here's my theory. I think there is a combination between older guys not needing to prove how straight they are and how much pussy they conquer as when you're a young guy. The other part is women are less interested in sex with age, and their focus becomes the home and kids. Add a final part that after decades of the nagging wife and the constant and cumulative emasculating of a husband by his wife over the years, I think is why many men start looking to other men later in life. I don't think it's a "gay" thing, you don't suddenly become gay or straight, but one loses the social stigmas, you care less about what other people think, and guys want love and affection just the same, so older men start to look to each other to give them the masculinization, support and sexual gratification that wives don't give anymore.
At least, this is the pattern I've noticed in my life. Hope this helped.
At least, this is the pattern I've noticed in my life. Hope this helped.
I think its just natural as we age. We all jave the need to explore and as we age we lose our inhibitions.
Many of us fall into your description so you have come to the right place.
I am 42 and experiencing this very strongly. I have always enjoyed looking at guys dicks and bulges - goes back as early as gym class when I was young, but I was too busy with career BS etc. I am married but never really into pussy. In fact I prefer anal sex with her when we do it - and I need to fantasize that I am doing it with a guy. I never thought much about my sexuality until the past couple of years. I thought I was Bi for sure, but thinking I am more gay. Gotta' figure it all out - but interesting journey so far.
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What you're experiencing is very common from what I've seen in the community. Going through the motions of what was expected of you, distracted with work and life that you hadn't focused on other aspects of yourself. Don't feel rushed or pressured to figure it out quickly, do anything/everything at a pace that is comfortable to you (or don't do anything at all, your choice). It's totally up to you. We're here for support in whatever you choose.
Funny , my thinking is about the same ." How would it be "... I'm a mature man . Fit , retired , well off. And I do sunning on the back upper deck , no one can see so I lay out naked to get a full tan .
It feels so good , them I find my self holding onto my balls , with rings on them .
When I get back in the house I rub my legs down with baby oil , the sun drys them out .
Here is the get to the point thing ,I look at my legs all oiled up , and think,, would any man want this .my gurl friend was a Transexual she had a very tiny , cock and tiny balls , it was a pleasure to go down on her , she was on HRT and T blockers so getting hard was next to impossible. This way her soft lovey cock was a delight ,getting back to why I'm here , could I have a loose relationship with another man ?? Hell I don't know .It's thoughts that go through my mind
It feels so good , them I find my self holding onto my balls , with rings on them .
When I get back in the house I rub my legs down with baby oil , the sun drys them out .
Here is the get to the point thing ,I look at my legs all oiled up , and think,, would any man want this .my gurl friend was a Transexual she had a very tiny , cock and tiny balls , it was a pleasure to go down on her , she was on HRT and T blockers so getting hard was next to impossible. This way her soft lovey cock was a delight ,getting back to why I'm here , could I have a loose relationship with another man ?? Hell I don't know .It's thoughts that go through my mind
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