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Do tops get annoyed when their bottom doesn't get hard or if he does he doesn't jack off?
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I'm a bottom who gets his pleasure from getting fucked. Me having an erection in not a reflection if I'm enjoying myself. To all the tops if some of us bottoms aren't erect, most times it means we are enjoying what your giving ....
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I think if I had a top who got annoyed over that, I'd tell him in no uncertain terms where to get off.....literally 
I’m a top, and my bf doesn’t like to jerk off or cum before me. He likes to satisfy me, letting me fuck him until i cum. Then I flip him over and help him finish. Sometimes I wish he would jerk off while I fuck him, I enjoy feeling his hole flex around my dick while I continue to fuck him through the orgasm. I also understand staying horny, enjoying the bottom experience, and post nut clarity might not be helpful to the bottoming mindset. Lol
I am a top. If you are soft, I will get soft. Only way for me to get off if you are soft,, is if I am past the point where I would care.
I dont think I could be with a bottom that doesn't get hard. I don't see the fun in that.
I dont think I could be with a bottom that doesn't get hard. I don't see the fun in that.
I'm a top, and I personally couldn't care less if the bottom is hard or soft while he's being fucked.
I care a loooooot about entering gently, helping him relax his hole and adapt to the penetration, and making sure he's feeling it all the way inside, possibly deeper than he's used to.
In my experience, most of my bottoms don't get hard ever while getting fucked, and they often don't feel the desire to jerk off afterwards. I always try to make them feel empowered to jerk off if they want to, but not pressured into doing it for me, because again I couldn't care less. If their pleasure goes 100% through their butt and 0% through their dick... Go ahead! I like to think I maybe attract total bottoms, and I give this vibe of "come as you are", so maybe they don't feel compelled to put up a jerk-off performance for me after they've been fucked.
Of course if they do get hard with a dick inside, and they want to jerk off, that's also perfectly fine! As long as they don't jerk off furiously, which makes the hole less receptive and less nice to fuck. In that case it's a nice idea to push them into the face-down-ass-up position, so they can't reach their dick anymore
I care a loooooot about entering gently, helping him relax his hole and adapt to the penetration, and making sure he's feeling it all the way inside, possibly deeper than he's used to.
In my experience, most of my bottoms don't get hard ever while getting fucked, and they often don't feel the desire to jerk off afterwards. I always try to make them feel empowered to jerk off if they want to, but not pressured into doing it for me, because again I couldn't care less. If their pleasure goes 100% through their butt and 0% through their dick... Go ahead! I like to think I maybe attract total bottoms, and I give this vibe of "come as you are", so maybe they don't feel compelled to put up a jerk-off performance for me after they've been fucked.
Of course if they do get hard with a dick inside, and they want to jerk off, that's also perfectly fine! As long as they don't jerk off furiously, which makes the hole less receptive and less nice to fuck. In that case it's a nice idea to push them into the face-down-ass-up position, so they can't reach their dick anymore
You, sir, sound like a dream topI'm a top, and I personally couldn't care less if the bottom is hard or soft while he's being fucked.
I care a loooooot about entering gently, helping him relax his hole and adapt to the penetration, and making sure he's feeling it all the way inside, possibly deeper than he's used to.
In my experience, most of my bottoms don't get hard ever while getting fucked, and they often don't feel the desire to jerk off afterwards. I always try to make them feel empowered to jerk off if they want to, but not pressured into doing it for me, because again I couldn't care less. If their pleasure goes 100% through their butt and 0% through their dick... Go ahead! I like to think I maybe attract total bottoms, and I give this vibe of "come as you are", so maybe they don't feel compelled to put up a jerk-off performance for me after they've been fucked.
Of course if they do get hard with a dick inside, and they want to jerk off, that's also perfectly fine! As long as they don't jerk off furiously, which makes the hole less receptive and less nice to fuck. In that case it's a nice idea to push them into the face-down-ass-up position, so they can't reach their dick anymore
I almost always jack off as my man is fucking my arse! He's looking into my face and his eyes go really intense. Almost every time I can time it so I cum as he does, filling my arse with semen. It's great to be able to time it out so it works.... even at my age LOL
He sounds awful. To each his own. If I stick it inside of you, and you get soft, I must be doing something wrong.
I have had many one night stands with all kinds of guys. Not once did they go soft. In long term relationships it happens, but it is always psychological and fixable.
Sexual arousal in men has a physical manifestation. Unless something is wrong with the pipes, or the wiring, an erection should occur when aroused.
I don’t always get hard while getting fucked and no that doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. Usually at some point I will have a raging hard-on but if we’re having a long session it probably won’t stay all the way through. Trust me, I’ll still enjoy his big dick in my hole. I fucking love getting plowed. But I don’t need pressure from my top to stay hard the whole time. I’ll usually get hard, but I’m far more interested in pleasing my top and giving him a nice warm place to cum into than jerking myself off. Sometimes I cum hands free anyway.
So I need to weigh in on this. Im
bi and verse. I like being a top and a bottom. If you’re a top and the only measure you have is if he is hard you suck as a top. Learn to read the signs, is his hole relaxed, is he moving on you, is his penis leaking? Does he appear to be enjoying it? A raging boner flopping around while he is hitting the right spot is distracting.
I can start rock hard, then go semi or soft while being fucked and orgasm. I can cum through a soft dick or a hard one. Soft feels better.
bi and verse. I like being a top and a bottom. If you’re a top and the only measure you have is if he is hard you suck as a top. Learn to read the signs, is his hole relaxed, is he moving on you, is his penis leaking? Does he appear to be enjoying it? A raging boner flopping around while he is hitting the right spot is distracting.
I can start rock hard, then go semi or soft while being fucked and orgasm. I can cum through a soft dick or a hard one. Soft feels better.
As I said, to each his own.
My husband has on occasion lost his erection midway thru sex. I usually try to get him back on it. In the beginning, he used to say all the things you guys say, but I think now he has learned he can stay hard if he is into it. If he is not, we don't have sex. Simple.
I want to meet a bottom who is ok with his top being soft while having sex. You all get mad if a top wants you to stay hard but would you even be able to have sex is the top went limp?
Different roles. A bottom doesn’t need to stay hard, and that’s also not the part you’re stimulating. I sometimes also don’t like it when a top starts to jerk me off as I’m already getting stimulated from the inside and it can get too much or I cum too quickly. Glad you’re not my top as I would get really annoyed if your measure of me being a good bottom is staying hard the whole time. I thought my job as a bottom was taking your dick and enjoying getting fucked and pleasing you until you shoot a load in me. But perhaps I should check the job description again. If I were to be a top, then yes it would be important to stay hard because well, how else would you fuck?
Yeah and I told you that my pleasure can’t always be measured by how hard my cock is when bottoming.
From my experience some do as they view it as their bottom not enjoying themselves. I personally can’t get hard and if I do I can’t keep it. Even when hard it’s not noticeable so when guys know that they either don’t mind or find it hot depending what they’re into. I will say that I was rejected by guys who asked if I stay hard when getting fuck and I explained how I physically can’t. As recently as last month where someone told me he wants “a real man” due to my ED.
I will say that I always prefer guys who find it hot that I’m limp when getting fucked over guys who don’t care because that’s just who I am and it’s great to be wanted for who you are
I will say that I always prefer guys who find it hot that I’m limp when getting fucked over guys who don’t care because that’s just who I am and it’s great to be wanted for who you are
Oh wow thank you!
How nice! Thank you too!!
This is just factually not true, not for every man at least. Everyone is different, "to each his own" as you say.
Sexual arousal doesn't necessarily need an erection. Personally, when I eat a guy's ass, which is arguably my second favourite thing just after anal sex, I'm often not hard. And yet I'm totally horny and aroused.
You know, it's perfectly fine if you have a preference for bottoms who stay hard during penetration, and you found a husband who shares this with you.
Where you start sounding a bit like a cunt, though, is when you basically make bottoms feel wrong if they don't conform to your preference, by saying that their "pipes and wiring" are wrong. They're simply not a match for you, be kind to them.
halcyondays
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In my experience this is true. Apart from semen dribbling, running or shooting from flaccid cocks of guys I've topped there's always some combination of trembling thighs, arching backs, gasps, moans, sighs and other vocalizations as well as heavy breathing, closed eyes and passionate looks--even smiles--all of which clearly demonstrate a sexually aroused man without an erection. Add hips and thighs that don't want to stop pumping and bodies which cannot stop moving.
omfg is there anything better on the planet?
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