Does a sex starved marriage make us Bi?

[Lovetobetouched]

I have seen various posts where the man complains of a wife who is “off sex”. Shut up shop etc. yes. Women do seem to be fickle, and many marriages lose the spark as life gets in the way of romance. For me cheating with a woman would seem wrong, a betrayal I don’t want to do. But cheating with a man - well, that’s just a bro helping out another dude.
perhaps she goes off sex because I hanker for a diff kind of sex?

 

[dickthrobbing]

I have seen various posts where the man complains of a wife who is “off sex”. Shut up shop etc. yes. Women do seem to be fickle, and many marriages lose the spark as life gets in the way of romance. For me cheating with a woman would seem wrong, a betrayal I don’t want to do. But cheating with a man - well, that’s just a bro helping out another dude.
perhaps she goes off sex because I hanker for a diff kind of sex?

I doubt it as because the simpler choice is to have sex with another woman, this is accepting the fact that the guy is willing to cheat on his marriage (having sex with another person male or female is cheating)

 

[Puffdaddy316]

I doubt it as because the simpler choice is to have sex with another woman, this is accepting the fact that the guy is willing to cheat on his marriage (having sex with another person male or female is cheating)

He’s dead right

 

[Lovetobetouched]

I doubt it as because the simpler choice is to have sex with another woman, this is accepting the fact that the guy is willing to cheat on his marriage (having sex with another person male or female is cheating)

Agree. It simply makes the case more pressing. A catalyst and not a cause

 

[goldscorpguy]

Agree. It simply makes the case more pressing. A catalyst and not a cause

Perfectly put. No married bi man should put the "blame" on his wife. I have come to realise that my bisexuality was lingering deep down for many years, and that it just needed other events in life to help it surface. My only regret is that I spent several years resisting the urge or not having the courage to "dip my toe in the water".

 

[Cappy_Dick]

96% of men are some level of bisexual. Because society still frowns on male bisexuality, many repress and hide it while younger. The thing is when men get into their mature years, it's just not those in sexless marriages, but a good deal of single mature men find they have the same problem. This is because many mature women simply loose interest in sex, thus decreasing the the available pool of willing partners. To make things worse, many of those that still play, use sex as a manipulation tool, that many men grow tired of. The repressed feelings come more and more to the surface, that many become curious to try things out. Humans are bisexual by nature, so lack of sex in mature males tends to bring it out.

 

[Lovetobetouched]

96% of men are some level of bisexual. Because society still frowns on male bisexuality, many repress and hide it while younger. The thing is when men get into their mature years, it's just not those in sexless marriages, but a good deal of single mature men find they have the same problem. This is because many mature women simply loose interest in sex, thus decreasing the the available pool of willing partners. To make things worse, many of those that still play, use sex as a manipulation tool, that many men grow tired of. The repressed feelings come more and more to the surface, that many become curious to try things out. Humans are bisexual by nature, so lack of sex in mature males tends to bring it out.

Very true. Thanks for the contribution. It’s a lot more common than we are led to believe. I constantly find blokes clocking me as much as I’m checking them out. And it’s all sorts.

 

[diver6]

If my wife ever cut me of it would be easier to find a buddy, then find another women and for some reason it does seem easier to write it off as helping each other than cheating.

 

[Puffdaddy316]

It doesn’t make us gay but it might cause an awakening or realization, I think

 

[merc41]

I disagree. My wifes lack of sexual drive is exactly why I'm bi. After being approached several times by gay men I found it easier to get sexually satisfied by men. And I like it!? No drama,no expectations and lots of enthusiasm. The ones I have hooked up with are there to please or be pleasured thats all.Peefect for a sex starved married man.

 

[Lovetobetouched]

Good insight. I’m deffs “more” gay now. My first interest was my wife and while there was a “bi” side, it was not really where I wanted to play. With time, I noticed that I got attention from men and that it was liberating to be sexual again. So nice to get off with someone else wanting you. That was a strange feeling. Intoxicating actually. So hence my question.
but I might add. Here I am sitting on a beach staring at a young woman’s Argese I cheeky bum bikini

 

[bi2]

I disagree. My wifes lack of sexual drive is exactly why I'm bi. After being approached several times by gay men I found it easier to get sexually satisfied by men. And I like it!? No drama,no expectations and lots of enthusiasm. The ones I have hooked up with are there to please or be pleasured thats all.Peefect for a sex starved married man.

My fuckbuddy is like you, his wife lost all interest in sex. He however still loves and wants to be with her and his family and I have no desire to be in personal realtionship with him. So naturally I provide for him, a healthy, comfortable and easy sexual outlet for him. We are both happy and satisfied with this arrangment and neither of us having any romantic or personal feelings towards one another. Its purely a carnal relationship, which is why I think we work so well.

I can tell there are times when he does miss the sex with his wife or a woman, because occasionally the MM sex we have, will be very "passionate" and more "love making", then usual depraved acts we enjoy and engage with. I actually enjoy the "love making" when it occasionally happens, as a point of difference. He will spend a lot of time kissing me, rimming me and sucking on me from head to toe, he is a lot more caring and loving in the way he treats my body. My hole is literally soaking from his saliva before he puts his dick inside me. Its careful, considerate and thoughtful. So naturally I adjust myself to his tempo and make sure Im a lot more feminine, caring and loving with him in response. The anal sex positions we engage with during these "love making" moments are only either spooning, suspended congress and of course missionary. He will always cum when we are in the missionary position and no other. He enjoys seeing me get off on being fucked, its about the only time when he is very considerate and careful when he fucks me. As I said, I prefer the depraved acts we have, but also love the "love making" just because its something different and spices up our sex life. The biggest telltale sign I can tell immediately of whether we have depraved sex or love making, is the moment we meet up. If he starts kissing me passionately the moment I enter the door its always been a "romantic/love making" encounter ahead for us.

 

[Lovetobetouched]

My fuckbuddy is like you, his wife lost all interest in sex. He however still loves and wants to be with her and his family and I have no desire to be in personal realtionship with him. So naturally I provide for him, a healthy, comfortable and easy sexual outlet for him. We are both happy and satisfied with this arrangment and neither of us having any romantic or personal feelings towards one another. Its purely a carnal relationship, which is why I think we work so well.

I can tell there are times when he does miss the sex with his wife or a woman, because occasionally the MM sex we have, will be very "passionate" and more "love making", then usual depraved acts we enjoy and engage with. I actually enjoy the "love making" when it occasionally happens, as a point of difference. He will spend a lot of time kissing me, rimming me and sucking on me from head to toe, he is a lot more caring and loving in the way he treats my body. My hole is literally soaking from his saliva before he puts his dick inside me. Its careful, considerate and thoughtful. So naturally I adjust myself to his tempo and make sure Im a lot more feminine, caring and loving with him in response. The anal sex positions we engage with during these "love making" moments are only either spooning, suspended congress and of course missionary. He will always cum when we are in the missionary position and no other. He enjoys seeing me get off on being fucked, its about the only time when he is very considerate and careful when he fucks me. As I said, I prefer the depraved acts we have, but also love the "love making" just because its something different and spices up our sex life. The biggest telltale sign I can tell immediately of whether we have depraved sex or love making, is the moment we meet up. If he starts kissing me passionately the moment I enter the door its always been a "romantic/love making" encounter ahead for us.

You are a good man doing a brother a “service”. Sounds great. Does his wife know or is your fuckbuddy discrete?

 

[LOVE_MMFs]

I’m married to a guy and occasionally play with women. A couple of observations. 1. It’s a lot easier for me to find NSA sex with a man. 2. My relationship with my spouse is open and he said he’s actually more comfortable with me having sex with a woman than with another guy because he doesn’t feel any sense of competition with women.

I don’t think it’s so much a sex starved marriage that makes a guy bi, I think it’s more a case of guys, in general, becoming more comfortable with exploring sexually as they mature. When I was younger and decided I wanted to date guys, I thought that closed the door to ever being sexual with women. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized it doesn’t have to be one or the other.

 

[Lovetobetouched]

I’m married to a guy and occasionally play with women. A couple of observations. 1. It’s a lot easier for me to find NSA sex with a man. 2. My relationship with my spouse is open and he said he’s actually more comfortable with me having sex with a woman than with another guy because he doesn’t feel any sense of competition with women.

I don’t think it’s so much a sex starved marriage that makes a guy bi, I think it’s more a case of guys, in general, becoming more comfortable with exploring sexually as they mature. When I was younger and decided I wanted to date guys, I thought that closed the door to ever being sexual with women. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized it doesn’t have to be one or the other.

So true. As we get older we become more open to explore. And men are more open to NSA hookups.

on another point, I wonder if my wife is actually not into me. For a number of reasons, too lengthy to explain, it has crossed my mind she may have an interest in women. It would be great if she were comfortable enough to admit that and then we could explore that together.

 

[bi2]

You are a good man doing a brother a “service”. Sounds great. Does his wife know or is your fuckbuddy discrete?

I think this is the biggest difference of MM sex versus MF sex, we both enjoy sex with each other, so why would I deny, make it difficult or expect something in return from my fuckbuddy as compared to with a woman. If he needs a fuck and I enjoy being fucked, Im almost always avaialble. I enjoy being a bottom and the way he makes me feel for being one. So the pleasure is mutual. Im happy that I can provide for him a "service" because it benefits me greatly, sexually speaking.

I think only one occasion over the last few years we have been fucking, where I couldnt hookup with him and that was only because I was very sick.

We are discrete, he is a very proud strong alpha doninant male that views himself as "straight", I dont really care nor is it my business whatever way he chooses to view himself. His wife lost interest in sex a few years ago, so Im able to provide for him a physical outlet. He loves his wife and family and doesnt want to be with another woman, because of all the issues that can entail. So we fuck discretely.

 

[Lovetobetouched]

I think this is the biggest difference of MM sex versus MF sex, we both enjoy sex with each other, so why would I deny, make it difficult or expect something in return from my fuckbuddy as compared to with a woman. If he needs a fuck and I enjoy being fucked, Im almost always avaialble. I enjoy being a bottom and the way he makes me feel for being one. So the pleasure is mutual. Im happy that I can provide for him a "service" because it benefits me greatly, sexually speaking.

I think only one occasion over the last few years we have been fucking, where I couldnt hookup with him and that was only because I was very sick.

We are discrete, he is a very proud strong alpha doninant male that views himself as "straight", I dont really care nor is it my business whatever way he chooses to view himself. His wife lost interest in sex a few years ago, so Im able to provide for him a physical outlet. He loves his wife and family and doesnt want to be with another woman, because of all the issues that can entail. So we fuck discretely.

Agree. It’s actually very manly to take that attitude. I have so much respect for my wank bud. He’s a great bloke. He’s suggested fucking me and me fucking him. I am thinking that I trust him so much now, we should try that. He’s actually a great friend.

 

[18wheeler]

It doesn’t make us gay but it might cause an awakening or realization, I think

I think this is accurate… at least for me

 

[bi2]

Agree. It’s actually very manly to take that attitude. I have so much respect for my wank bud. He’s a great bloke. He’s suggested fucking me and me fucking him. I am thinking that I trust him so much now, we should try that. He’s actually a great friend.

I think in many ways, myself and my fuckbuddy help each other out. He needs to fuck, I need to be fucked, the fact that we enjoy our physical relationship and get satisfied by each other, so of course, when we can hook up we always do. In many ways I am "used" and "objectified" by him, but this turns me on and he knows that, so naturally we take up the roles of him being dominant and me being completely passive and obedient. It works for us and it means we always have good sex. Importantly we are both adults and consenting, so it really doesnt matter what anyone else thinks.

 

[Lovetobetouched]

I think in many ways, myself and my fuckbuddy help each other out. He needs to fuck, I need to be fucked, the fact that we enjoy our physical relationship and get satisfied by each other, so of course, when we can hook up we always do. In many ways I am "used" and "objectified" by him, but this turns me on and he knows that, so naturally we take up the roles of him being dominant and me being completely passive and obedient. It works for us and it means we always have good sex. Importantly we are both adults and consenting, so it really doesnt matter what anyone else thinks.

Very true