Douch baggery

[dragonxxx963]

Guys drive me crazy with some of the dumb shit they say or do regarding women. I simply shake my head and/or call them a dumb ass depending on severity. All that and I am not on the receiving end of it. As a woman two questions how does it make you feel? And what, if anything, do you do about it? And I lied I have a third question if you did or said something did it ever make a difference? I feel like idiot runs deep. Most would be unchangable.

 

[918177]

Some are easily dealt with.
Some are a bit more stubborn......like that hard water stain in the toilet bowl.

After so many years here have a very good grasp on ToS - in letter and spirit, and how they're
interpreted by the mods is essential.

I play a deep game on many different levels.

If you wait by the river long enough you'll see the bodies your enemies float by. ~ Sun Tzu.
A healthy shove between the shoulder blades helps. ~Me.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

How does it make me feel? Curious. How did they come to these ridiculous conclusions? Who birthed them? Who provided the fertilizer to that egg? What circumstances were present throughout the duration of their time in this world?

Honestly, I keep coming back to the same point. Humans are still evolving. We're not nearly as far along as we credit ourselves to be.

What do I do? Inform. Call out the bullshit. Keep a deadly weapon on me at all times. Including my brain.

Has anything made a difference? I have no idea.

 

[MickeyLee]

choke-slams and throat punches in real life.

sarcasim and eductation online.

a prayer for selective sterlization.

 

[deleted924715]

It makes me feel flabbergasted at some people's warped reality and thankful for my own life and the people in it.

It also reminds me why I am a dog person.

What I do about it depends on my mood. Sometimes I just hit "ignore" and sometimes I... Don't

I dont think what I say makes a difference. They're too invested. If they could cope with reality, they wouldn't be spouting their nonsense.

 

[EllieP]

It takes all kind of people to make the world go round. Sadly, we don't always have the choice to be surrounded by the cream of the crop. But I try to be generous to those who are truly ignorant and only need enlightenment.

It's those who are so entrenched that nothing I say or do will make a difference. Those are the scary ones.

But I will always start with giving an honest answer to their question. Their response judges them quickly. I have conversations with some very nice people who appeared initially ignorant but now appear grateful for our dialog. That makes me feel good!

And I've had those conversations that end abruptly. And I'm usually reported for being a bitch.

 

[LaFemme]

I am no longer surprised at stupidity. Ignorance is easy. Blaming others is easy. Some men blaming everything on feminism is easy. Blaming things on immigrants or non-whites is easy. Being open, kind, respectful, educated, and willing to dig deeper is hard.

How do I deal with it? I try to model how I want things to be. I usually state my point and walk away. No point arguing with those who refuse to open up. (Although I love watching!). Not a damn thing I can say will change the mind of someone set on their course. Could they change my mind? If I was wrong, I hope so. If not, then, no.

I don’t usually get angry though. Takes awhile to raise the beast. But if she wakes....I have to push away from the keyboard. I’m not a nice person and don’t want to get banned.

 

[deleted924715]

I am no longer surprised at stupidity. Ignorance is easy. Blaming others is easy. Some men blaming everything on feminism is easy. Blaming things on immigrants or non-whites is easy. Being open, kind, respectful, educated, and willing to dig deeper is hard.

How do I deal with it? I try to model how I want things to be. I usually state my point and walk away. No point arguing with those who refuse to open up. (Although I love watching!). Not a damn thing I can say will change the mind of someone set on their course. Could they change my mind? If I was wrong, I hope so. If not, then, no.

I don’t usually get angry though. Takes awhile to raise the beast. But if she wakes....I have to push away from the keyboard. I’m not a nice person and don’t want to get banned.

Yeah, the minute someone attempts to use 'feminist' as an insult, they just laid their mentality bare for all to see. I know exactly where they've been hanging out and why.

 

[LaFemme]

Yeah, the minute someone attempts to use 'feminist' as an insult, they just laid their mentality bare for all to see. I know exactly where they've been hanging out and why.

Totally. I am a feminist. My mother was an immigrant. I'm not white. None of those things can be used to hurt me. They are merely facts.

 

[918177]

I think someone is standing pretty darn close to the river bank...

* breaks out a picnic basket and settles down to watch under a shady tree*

 

[deleted924715]

It's always the ones who expect deference that meet a watery end. I'll walk away amicably from someone I disagree with if their manner suggests a sense of parity. Not so with the ones who expect deference.

 

[918177]

*SPLASH*