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So as the title says I want some tips for eating out a girl. I have an idea, of what to do, but would like some more tips!

I try the sucking on the clit then licking around the clit /directly and my girlfriend seems likes it, but I then I get faster (which in the moment seems right but I know once she enjoys something to stick with it. *Mental note for myself to think about next time haha*) But what should i do with my tongue? Just lick around the clit with the ocasional direct contact? suck hard/ medium/ soft? Take it slow? Use fingers? Finger speed? etc.

Basically what have you guys had success with?

I am aware I should be asking her, but I want to surprise her next time:)

So I would appreciate pointers! I live to please her, hopefully I can blow her mind next time!
 
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totally cliche but ask her what she likes! that being said, i have good luck with a lot of build up--soft kisses on the inside of the thigh. soft touches. gentle approaching to build suspense. then finding long rhythmic licks to the side of the clit...like you said keep doing what she likes. For my wife, it's all about the build up!
 

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The first thing to remember is that oral sex is the icing on the cake. Start out slow. Start by kissing her all over . I like to start by kissing her on her back and working my way down to the backs of her knees and then roll her over and work my way back up. When I get to her vagina I like to wet my finger and rub around slowly and softly until I feel her get wet.slowly start licking up ,down ,side to side and. maybe pull lightly on her pubic hair. Pay attention to her and follow direction. You can try inserting one finger maybe two and lightly tap the inside of her pubic bone. Try to find a slight rough spot that should be the G spot. It will swell sometimes. Just tap it and rub it lightly while licking her lips and clit . I think the key is just don't be mechanical ,relax and have fun.
 
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If you want girls to respond, I'd be happy to move this to another forum for you. As it stands, since you posted in the "Ask a Straight Man" forum, only Straight and Bi men can respond.

I was ban from ask a women and wasn't too sure where else to put it :\
 
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Nah its good here fits more here than in that thread. Ive seen multiple posts where the OP stated girls can comment and they did without any penalty and vice versa.
 
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If they grab your ears like motorcycle handles, bury your face in deeper and just won't let you up for air...chances are you're doing it right.

Her clit usually stays covered so go easy and be cognizant of whether she likes direct contact or not. Most seem to be receptive to a good tongue fucking.
 
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Use vibrator, while licking, insert two or three figers and do not move them. Put pressure on vibe with mouth while using tongue. After orgasm, gently use fingers to massage, or tickle upward on to spongy area for further stimulation.
 
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This is cliche, but you can lick the alphabet over her clit. My wife likes it when I put a finger in and I put the pad of my finger on her G-spot and as I am licking her clit, I am lightly stroking her G-spot. Usually she will jolt a little and it has taken me years of practice to get it just right. But you can feel the G-spot swell and you know her orgasm is building. When she cums I continue to stroke the g-spot and lick for several more seconds until she has to put her hands on my head. When she does that I know she has had all she can take and she is ready for me to get in... Everything else said is also great. Just my addition.
 

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Try these steps:
Don't get there too fast. Caress her thighs manually and orally.
Lick around the labia and then gently flick the clit
Insert a finger and stimulate the roof of the vagina
Take the free hand and press palm genty on the lower abdomen
Now insert 2 fingers and rub them on the roof while pressing palm down
Now lick her clit at an increasing rate. Follow her reactions

Don't go too fast; follow her responses. Don't write this on the palm of you hand. You'll sweat it off.
 

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damn good suggestions, guys. not really too many leftover to talk about. even if you can't remember 'em all, just be gentle and attentive to that clit. lick it, tease it, play with it. really let their squirming and moaning clue you in.
 

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This is cliche, but you can lick the alphabet over her clit. My wife likes it when I put a finger in and I put the pad of my finger on her G-spot and as I am licking her clit, I am lightly stroking her G-spot. Usually she will jolt a little and it has taken me years of practice to get it just right. But you can feel the G-spot swell and you know her orgasm is building. When she cums I continue to stroke the g-spot and lick for several more seconds until she has to put her hands on my head. When she does that I know she has had all she can take and she is ready for me to get in... Everything else said is also great. Just my addition.

That's exactly how I do it. I remember learning "lick the alphabet" years ago in an episode of "Friends" in which Monica gave funny and impassioned instructions. O, P, and Q are the letters that seem to get the best response from me. And don't too it too hard. In my experience, women tend to need less pressure and friction than a guy thinks they might.
 

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Learn to surf, read a very good detective novel with tons of build up and intricate character design, find a really difficult puzzle then finish it in a good span of time.

Get buff or close then craft a spaceship out of toothpicks, find a laid back comedian (male or female) and emulate them, and be as observant as Sherlock Holmes in well...anything.
 

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start slow, read her signs and get more aggressive as she gets more turned on. When she starts kicking and bucking, that's when you want to grab her ass cheeks and pull that pussy in close because you're in for a wild ride. Variation is key, don't just do the same thing over and over. Mix it up, and if you have to, put a finger in her butt.
 

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Soft and slow at first.....LOOK & LISTEN to her!!!
Learn to take directions. Put your stupid ego aside.
Be patient!!!! Don't rush. Pay attention to HER!
If she wants things faster/ slower/ harder/ softer, shell tell you.
And when they get close, stay at that speed! Don't go into light- speed . Guys like that, girls don't.
 

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Like any other act of intimacy, giving oral sex is all about you two coming together as you get lost in carnal pleasure. And if intimacy is at the heart of it, communication is the key to making it happen. Don't go in with some preconceived script: "lick her labia majora fo 90 seconds, then proceed to her clitoris. . ." As you face touches her thighs, sense how she's feeling: her body heat, her breathing, her motions, the sounds she makes. Do the same with every nibble, lick, breathe you make on every square inch of her body; pay attention and she'll tell you exactly what she likes and wants, often without saying a single word. After you two join in this communication between your mouth and her flesh, you can just get lost in discovering your partner and pleasuring her with all of your soul.
 

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Don't give up after five minutes. There is usually a lull where she seems to stop responding. Just keep flicking, she'll come around in another 5 minutes or so.

And if you stop, she'll get frustrated.

It usually takes about 5 - 15 minutes for me. It can feel like longer when you are down there, and she seems to not be responding like she was when you started. Don't lose confidence, keep going.


If you can, watch her use her vibrator. It is usually pretty uneventful. She'll just hold it against her clit for 4 minutes until she gets off.

That's what your tongue has to do. Also, remember, she has 1/11th the nerve endings in her clit as compared to the glans, that's why stimulation has to be fast.

Build up is essential, but it won't get her off. You gotta move your tongue fast, fast fast as possible when it comes time to get her off. But moving your tongue around fast is less likely to work if you didn't build her up first.
 
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