Ever fall for a friend?

[lokican]

This question is intended for the gay or bisexuals out their, but it can be applied to straight male/girl friendships as well. Have you ever fallen for a friend before? Me and a good friend who is also bi-sexual, have fallen in to the trap where we fell for a friend, and as a result held them to a different standard, I.E. treat them like your their boyfriends/girlfriends. This has happened to me often, gotta say its almost like an inner demon, has caused drama, and affected me negatively. Has anyone else ever experienced this?

 

[Principessa]

This question is intended for the gay or bisexuals out their, but it can be applied to straight male/girl friendships as well. Have you ever fallen for a friend before? Me and a good friend who is also bi-sexual, have fallen in to the trap where we fell for a friend, and as a result held them to a different standard, I.E. treat them like your their boyfriends/girlfriends. This has happened to me often, gotta say its almost like an inner demon, has caused drama, and affected me negatively. Has anyone else ever experienced this?

Lokican, you are not alone! This question is probably the most frequent relationship question among the gay and bi-guys on this site. Frankly I don't understand it, but that's just me.

If I have a crush on a guy and find out he is gay. Yes, this has happend one or two times many, many years ago then I no longer think of him in a romantic fashion. I either back off entirely or I become his A-List fag hag. It would never occur to me to pursue a gay man and try to change him. I'm good, but I'm not that good. :wink:

 

[marwan80]

dude, I'm going through one myself right now. I am so in love with my best friend. He's just perfect! I noticed that I have been treating him like a bf when he opened his Christmas presents infront of his family (I spent Christmas with him). We're both students, but I saved up to get him a ticket to fly out to Atlanta to visit me for Spring Break. I kinda felt like a douche. But, you know what, shit happens.

 

[lokican]

Marwan, I have been in that situation many times before, if your friend is straight honestly, start to pursue a romantic relationship of your own, even if your friend is bi or gay he still may not return your feelings. My advice keep the friendship but pursue something else, even a one night stand.

 

[BiItalianBro]

It happened allot when I was in my teens/early 20s and coming to terms with being turned on by both genders. As time goes by you will learn how to let go of those feelings and love your male friends in an appropriate, platonic matter. I remember getting really confused when I was young by 'boys will be boys' stupidity being latent curiosity...well, its usually not.

My friendships today (straight, bi and gay) are based on mutual interests and character. We all go through stuff, but I choose to surround myself people people who shun unnecessary drama. If I find myself in a friendship that is keeping me up at night...its time to re-evaluate that relationship. Sure, some of them are hot and I have seen some naked...but the thought of 'getting with' them is about as appealing as using barb wire in a fleshlight .

 

[toad8it]

It happens alot,trust me.I seem to go thru with it after being a good friend to someone for a while.Just seems that would be the next natural step in the "friendship" .It doesn't work out with some becuase of their "preferences",but I can accept that and still be their friend.It hurts a bit,but that's what fantasys are for,lol

 

[Realslik]

Am currently pursuing a friend, ha! I want him so bad..

 

[sexplease]

I've fallen in love with a friend a couple times and, stepped in it a few times too.

 

[basque9]

It happened to me in my teens, before I realized I was destined to be gay! I knew I had very special feelings for my best friend....he seemed perfect in every way! We went on to attend the same college and that is when our friendship became somewhat estranged. Competitiveness and unrequited love kept us distant! I saw him one time after college and our military service were completed and he felt the need to mention to me that he was NOT GAY! The pointedness of that remark hit me hard and we have never seen one another since! That is just as well, because incredibly, I still dream about him occasionally!