Exploring Bisexuality - Apps?

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After being openly gay most of my adult life, I've had a few (3) experiences with women in the last couple of years.

The first happened truly organically, unplanned, for the first time in 25/ almost 30 years. She's back in Brazil, someone I stay in touch with but unable to visit since Covid is still a disaster there.

And more recently, with a married woman from the opposite coast at a clothing-optional resort. Also with what may be my closest friend since Covid. Who herself is 90% lesbian (as if these things can be quantified).

As I got older, I stopped looking for "types" of gay men and aspired to see attractiveness across age, body type, ethnicity in guys. So this just expanded across gender and surprised me what I really was attracted to. With women of a certain age, not especially young. Who can handle my total honesty about how sexually active I've been in the past with men. And may still be.

I acknowledge how ignorant I am of a woman's body. And bring humility and humor in being guided past or through this.

Which app(s) out there seem to best apply to my situation if there are any? I tried to scroll through this section to find a prior similar thread, but no luck. And I'm trying to keep my tone respectful, not egotistical. Plus avoid mistakes some guys seemed to have made with prior threads.

The pandemic has changed our perspectives of sex and romance. I feel open to new possibilities. And wanting to avoid the cliched NSA gay hookups that feel empty. Maybe the polyamorous label is Pollyanna...but we shall see.

Any suggestions on apps, next steps, what I should be asking myself? I appreciate your insight...and just taking the time to read this verbose post.
 

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After being openly gay most of my adult life, I've had a few (3) experiences with women in the last couple of years.

The first happened truly organically, unplanned, for the first time in 25/ almost 30 years. She's back in Brazil, someone I stay in touch with but unable to visit since Covid is still a disaster there.

And more recently, with a married woman from the opposite coast at a clothing-optional resort. Also with what may be my closest friend since Covid. Who herself is 90% lesbian (as if these things can be quantified).

As I got older, I stopped looking for "types" of gay men and aspired to see attractiveness across age, body type, ethnicity in guys. So this just expanded across gender and surprised me what I really was attracted to. With women of a certain age, not especially young. Who can handle my total honesty about how sexually active I've been in the past with men. And may still be.

I acknowledge how ignorant I am of a woman's body. And bring humility and humor in being guided past or through this.

Which app(s) out there seem to best apply to my situation if there are any? I tried to scroll through this section to find a prior similar thread, but no luck. And I'm trying to keep my tone respectful, not egotistical. Plus avoid mistakes some guys seemed to have made with prior threads.

The pandemic has changed our perspectives of sex and romance. I feel open to new possibilities. And wanting to avoid the cliched NSA gay hookups that feel empty. Maybe the polyamorous label is Pollyanna...but we shall see.

Any suggestions on apps, next steps, what I should be asking myself? I appreciate your insight...and just taking the time to read this verbose post.
There are multiple threads with predominantly gay men looking for a way to find women they can experiment with.

The general consensus is that we aren't fodder and a lot of women won't like it.

If you must though, pick literally any app that exists. Any dating site, hook up app etc. Be honest, explain your situation, accept that some will say no and go from there.
 

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After being openly gay most of my adult life, I've had a few (3) experiences with women in the last couple of years.

The first happened truly organically, unplanned, for the first time in 25/ almost 30 years. She's back in Brazil, someone I stay in touch with but unable to visit since Covid is still a disaster there.

And more recently, with a married woman from the opposite coast at a clothing-optional resort. Also with what may be my closest friend since Covid. Who herself is 90% lesbian (as if these things can be quantified).

As I got older, I stopped looking for "types" of gay men and aspired to see attractiveness across age, body type, ethnicity in guys. So this just expanded across gender and surprised me what I really was attracted to. With women of a certain age, not especially young. Who can handle my total honesty about how sexually active I've been in the past with men. And may still be.

I acknowledge how ignorant I am of a woman's body. And bring humility and humor in being guided past or through this.

Which app(s) out there seem to best apply to my situation if there are any? I tried to scroll through this section to find a prior similar thread, but no luck. And I'm trying to keep my tone respectful, not egotistical. Plus avoid mistakes some guys seemed to have made with prior threads.

The pandemic has changed our perspectives of sex and romance. I feel open to new possibilities. And wanting to avoid the cliched NSA gay hookups that feel empty. Maybe the polyamorous label is Pollyanna...but we shall see.

Any suggestions on apps, next steps, what I should be asking myself? I appreciate your insight...and just taking the time to read this verbose post.

you might want to look toward kinky communities with high levels of pansexual members.
Admit your vanilla level (mine is high), be honest about what you seek.
As @Mittimer said, any app that supports homosexual and heterosexual searches will do.

Learn what you can about female response. Watch posts by the heavy replying women here to start.


I have had a partner reveal a past where he experimented with what he termed “gay sex.” This was both as simple pairings and a few multipartner evenings.
His ultimate review was “it was fun, but I want feminine energy. I didn’t want to be in a relationship with more male energy.”
Yeah, I drilled down on the language. ;)

For me, hearing this, it wasn’t that important, or that surprising.
He was sexually active in the 70s. I wasn’t. He lived in San Francisco and his friends are all walks of life. Opportunities abounded.
Now, I knew he was looking for exclusive partnership, and that’s what we pursued.
Since as a demisexual I don’t “get” hook ups, that’s the more puzzling part to me.