Fantasy vs Reality

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I'm wondering if there are other bi guys out there who like me, have found out that what they've fantasized about in a guy isn't exactly as much fun as they thought it'd be once they actually experienced it.

For instance, I've always liked the idea of a hairy, manly man, natural kinda guy. The kind of guy who doesn't shave or trim and doesn't smell fresh out of the shower. But after actually getting to mess around with a couple of guys like that, I've found out that all that hair produces a strong odor. One guy was freshly showered, the other had been working all day. The showered guy's smell was strong but tolerable, the guy who had been working all day made me want to gag lol. Either way, I've found out that I prefer the look of an all natural guy, not so much the smell.

The taste of cum is another. I thought it'd be hot to get a load in my mouth. It's actually not that great. The taste is not what gets me, its the fact that it lingers in your mouth, it coats all your teeth and overall it's just a slimy, bitter taste that wont go away easily.

Finally, a big dick isn't as exciting as I'd thought it'd be. Visually yes, its an awesome sight; holding it my hand is also a really cool sensation. When it comes time to blowing one though, after a minute the joy of having my mouth stuffed with dick wears off and my jaw just ends up hurting.

Overall, what's funny is that i'm still attracted to all of these things... in my head. But in reality i always ending up holding my breath, avoiding the cum shots, and walking away with an achy jaw lol.

Anyone else feel the same?
 
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I understand you, same problems about that ;P love fantasies about doing bj and taking a man into me but when it's happening I'm not that excited. But it depends... when there is love, everything is different. So I decided that I will try to avoid sex without much emotions into it. It can be fun but I'm not a patient person and when I feel hurt or tired, I prefer to give up. And try with girls for a change ;)

As far as body scent and taste of sperm are concerned, it depends on a man and a day... Sometimes it is repulsive and sometimes it is not. Some men have a sweet taste of sperm and nothing wrong with their scent.
 

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I have a hot looking boss at work he is half my age and is hung like no one could imagine VPL is just awesome to look at and I look at his crotch every chance I get.

Fantasy is that I would love to pull down his zipper and see what is inside and have mad passionate sex with him orally and through intercourse

Reality is he has a girlfriend and this will never happen
 

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I'm wondering if there are other bi guys out there who like me, have found out that what they've fantasized about in a guy isn't exactly as much fun as they thought it'd be once they actually experienced it.
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Overall, what's funny is that i'm still attracted to all of these things... in my head. But in reality i always ending up holding my breath, avoiding the cum shots, and walking away with an achy jaw lol.

Anyone else feel the same?

YES. This sums up a lot of how my real-life gay experiences have been. Don't get me wrong: I enjoyed some of these experiences immensely. But I completely agree that very big dicks aren't quite as fun as I hoped, though very HARD cocks, on the other hand, are worth the hype.

I also just don't particularly like the smell of men. I especially do not like the smell of most men's grooming products; a man with too much deodorant or aftershave is repellent. I don't mind the natural smell of their sweat or penis if it's not overpowering, but it doesn't light up the pleasure centers in my brain like the smell of a woman's pussy. My girlfriend can come back from a run and then sit on my face and it'll make me rock hard. If I get a whiff of sweaty balls, even if attached to a very hot man, I will be turned off.

I've fooled around enough to feel sure that this is not just a newbie thing. And my reactions weren't so bad that it either changed my fantasies or my desire to have sex with men. But there is a divergence between the visual gay fantasies that make turn me on and the gay experiences that actually feel the best.
 

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For me it's not about smell or taste but just that the reality never really matched the fantasy. For example, the idea of sucking cock was and still is hot but the reality, I have found for me, is that it can get a bit boring.

I guess sometimes the feelings generated by the fantasy are stronger than the feelings generated by reality.
 

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Happy to hear I'm not the only one who feels this way. It's funny how I still get turned on by my thoughts of these things even though I know I'm not as turned on by them in reality. Sucking cock can get tedious, eating pussy on the other hand only gets better until my tongue gives out. What's strange though is my head still thinks sucking a dick will be more fun than eating pussy even though reality proves otherwise.
 

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Happy to hear I'm not the only one who feels this way. It's funny how I still get turned on by my thoughts of these things even though I know I'm not as turned on by them in reality. Sucking cock can get tedious, eating pussy on the other hand only gets better until my tongue gives out. What's strange though is my head still thinks sucking a dick will be more fun than eating pussy even though reality proves otherwise.

Yup! Exactly how I feel. Even though I have had sex with several men over the years, the reality never matched the fantasy yet the fantasy, and getting turned on by it, remains just as strong. Weird.
 

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Sucking cock can get tedious, eating pussy on the other hand only gets better until my tongue gives out. What's strange though is my head still thinks sucking a dick will be more fun than eating pussy even though reality proves otherwise.
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Yup! Exactly how I feel. Even though I have had sex with several men over the years, the reality never matched the fantasy yet the fantasy, and getting turned on by it, remains just as strong. Weird.

I'm with you guys. I think part of the charge of being bi is the feeling of a great taboo around your gay fantasies/experiences. I sometime get tremendously turned on thinking about gay encounters I have had that were only just okay in person. But I love the memory because I was being transgressive and dirty in this great way. I say this even as a guy who is fully out as bi; yet there is still a lot of residual excitement of tapping into a side of my sexuality that I used to repress and be ashamed of.
 
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I'm with you guys. I think part of the charge of being bi is the feeling of a great taboo around your gay fantasies/experiences. I sometime get tremendously turned on thinking about gay encounters I have had that were only just okay in person. But I love the memory because I was being transgressive and dirty in this great way. I say this even as a guy who is fully out as bi; yet there is still a lot of residual excitement of tapping into a side of my sexuality that I used to repress and be ashamed of.

Yeah maybe there is something in that. I've always enjoyed anal with both sexes but when women have asked why I like it so much, I think it is because it is, to some, quite taboo.

It's the feeling that it is 'wrong' or 'daring' or whatever you want to call it that turns me on the most. Having said that, the fact of the matter is that anal sex feels a lot tighter to me but the forbidden aspect of it is a huge part of my attraction.
 
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I know of 5 or 6 guys that I have VERY strong fantasies about sucking off and even tonguing their buttholes . BUT after reading this I'm not sure anymore . But I have SO MANY jacking off fantasies about doing all of these guys , GOD if my wife ever knew . And like I read , I often wondered if I would be repulsed by doing it .

It's like my BIGGEST fantasy of being a submissive wimp Daddy that I have about being forced , I think of one of these guys pushing me down , calling me all kinds of degrading names , and It's such a turn on ( in my fantasy head ) I ask myself if I could handle it in real life . Because there's this one cocky loud mouth guy who can really act like an asshole , that I work with . But DAMN IT!! if I don't go home after he pisses me off and jack off thinking of this asshole making me submit to sucking him off .

Then that smell , are we repulsed by our OWN smells ? I love to sniff my own soiled undies , that musty sweaty ball and ass scent and sweaty arm pits , and I know this is going to far , but I would even tinkle a few drops of piss in my undies throughout the day . I LOVE sniffing them thinking of one of these guys forcing his cock in my mouth . I think of their cocks smelling a little like stale piss like my pissy underwear . I HAVE and enjoyed finding a guys dirty boxers and sniffing them too .

BUT like you guys have said the real thing might be soooo different , but I really think I would love sucking those guys cocks . Like one here said JUST SUCKING COCK that's all I would want to do , I don't think I could get into a guy sucking me .
 

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I've always been into men and everything about them. I figured all guys were too. Then I had an ex that was repulsed by cum, his, mine... I was shocked. To me everything about men is appealing. Their taste , smell etc. I guess some guys have hangups about men. Makes for us finding the one who complements us.
 

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I agree blowing a guy isnt exactly what it was like fantasizing about it.

But. I thoroughly enjoy doing it. Taste ah i dont mind at all but making and feeling him cum is all its cracked up to be. Ive only sucked a couple cocks. Now i have a bud. We get together when we can. I do for him what his gf wont. Probably blew him 20 times so far and swallow every drop every time.

He wants to try anal but he kniws at present time thats not happening. Maybe eventually but not now.
 
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Lots of good comments. I have found that finding a caring, considerate, giving gay partner makes all the difference in experiencing all your "fantasies." A partner confident and sexy, but still willing to communicate with you (and give you what you want and need sexually) may allow some of the commenters here to enjoy the experience more......

I have also found that taking lots of time, vice "rushing" to climax makes a big difference...

My first gay partner was just such a guy....he was very considerate and let me "try" everything that I had fantasized about....all at my own pace. Things he wanted to do and try, we also did...but If I wasn't "ready" that was OK as well and we moved on.....we were off and on lovers for over 10 years.....

We'd stay in a nice tight 69 for almost an hour just sucking each other's cock and eating each others ass......heaven.....