Oscar302: Dear All, I have been reading this site as a guest for a short while and have finally registered. This is my first posting! I have been having great sex with my long term gf for years now, but have been wanting to try anal for ages. She is sometimes reluctant, but is often up for trying it when horny. However, we never get very far because it just does not feel right for her. I have tried inserting just ONE finger, to lubricate and to 'open it up' gently, but the minute I get 1/2 an inch inside she asks me to remove it because 'it doesn't feel right'. This means: 1. it hurts, and, 2. she feels like she is going to take a dump and is scared that she will do this all over the bed! Especially since she has heard anecdotes of this happening. I don't actually have a big penis. Only 5 1/2 x 6 (yes the mid-girth is more than the length!), but if I cannot even slip one finger in, what hope do I have?!! Also, I would prefer not to use any artificial substances like pain-numbing gels etc. I would appreciate your responses and help very much. Thanks a lot! Oscar.