For a fuck vs date - your criteria

[damien275x]

I like to sleep with the buff "gym" types but I find their personalies up themself for the most part, so they are a fuck only.

In terms of dating, I would prefer a nice face and average body. Fucks can be the other way around but not dates.

What bout you?

 

[deleted1074483]

for fucks, like you, fit, toned, athletic guys, bubble butts and younger - don't necessarily agree that fit guys are all up their own asses as i'm dating a very ripped young guy - but its the personality, that he's thoughtful, kind, caring, loving, sweet that meant we have stayed together.

 

[LPSG Simon]

I love this - very, very often our tastes differ widely for who we are sexually attracted to vs who we crave emotional intimacy with. Same goes for behaviours when making a case for open relationships (example one partner is into kink but the other one is not).

There's also a good case for keeping conquest separate from domestic partnerships, or that dalliances and demi-relationships are valid: Very often the limerence that comes with these new or short relationships or 'affairs' can be intense but not sustainable in the end, so having to choose one relationship over the other doesnt really make sense because it's likely to fizzle. Whereas, your life partner relationship and its intimacy are far more of a long game investment.

The nice thing about being open minded about that is that you get to ask for the best of both worlds. The idea that someone who is the 'total package' is out there is a bit of a false notion anyway, so why not keep them separate?