Friend Requests

Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by nashboy, May 17, 2009.

  1. nashboy

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    Why do people send you friend requests and never send you a message first? whats that about? do you guys have any rules for the friends on your lists? i dont want 1000 friends i just wanna talk to the ones i have...:mad:
     
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    I had a few friend requests from people that never contacted me before. I just figure it's their way of remembering your gallery if they like what they see. It doesn't concern me much. I add them, anyway, unless they are ridiculously abusive.
     
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    Ditto.
     
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    Hell maybe they've read some of your posts and relate to you or think maybe they want to remember you to talk to you later. LIke someone mentioned above maybe its for your gallery. Maybe its to check and see your status so they can see what you are up to and post in some of the threads you are reading.

    I approve everyone with the exception of a couple of known bizarros. I dont feel one way or the other about it. Some people consider their friends list as sacred, i on the other hand dont really care about it.
     
  5. Xcuze

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    If someone requests friends then it means theyve noticed you. For whatever reason. Its a compliment so just accept it.

    Theyre not gonna show up at your door & ask for a bed. Or even a cup of sugar. Its just the internet for fucks sake. Theyre just gonna be another name on a list somewhere in your profile. Big deal!

    There are friends and then there are friends.
     
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    Bluntly said but yea i agree!
     
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    Does that mean I can show up at your door for a cup of sugar...or something else?
     
  8. chicagosam

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    Place something in your signature about how you will deal with friend requests. You don't have to accept all requests or any of them. It's your choice.
     
  9. Xcuze

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    Ugh! people who put that crap in their sign make my skin crawl.

     
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    Just the sugar....but who knows, i might stretch to some milk or cream too!
     
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    We have to be friends first and then we can talk about milking... (I mean Milk)
     
  12. got_lost

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    Blimey charlie I agree with you!

    That said, not on the first bit.
    I am fussy about who I have on my friends list and even occasionally 'prune' it!
    Don't know why. Maybe a thing I got from myspace.
    Just don't want 'friends' I don't know or have anything to do with.
    Just don't see the point.

    I don't have some hot gallery or anything so people aren't sending me requests for that. Maybe if I did I'd accept more. I accept requests if I've had banter with someone or seen them around the threads I'm in. But not if I have no clue who they are. Especially if they have 300 friends.


    I'd definetly be more open if there was prior contact before or at the time of the friend request.... I think :cool:
     
  13. nashboy

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    yea now that i read everything...i dont see it as such a big deal with people that actually participate in this thread...but if they have no pics or ive never seen them post or they have 5,000 friends or a combination of the three...i wont accept. call me an ass...but its lame.
     
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    I couldn't agree more.
     
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    I usually befriend people I have chatted with on here or on Yahoo. On occasion, I'll take a friend request from someone I don't know or haven't seen, on the provision that I'll kick them off the list if I never hear from them. It's not so bad on here. Now that I got a Yahoo chat account and do more of my chatting, blind requests are a bit more of a pain. Anyway, that's how I roll.

    I also think it's not necessary to put a line in the signature about friend requests. Just ignore the requests. Even if they send a couple or some IMs, you can just delete those, right? (Then again, I'm sure those people might feel a line of harassment has been crossed.)
     
  16. D_Ivana Dickenside

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    i agree with you, hotness. some people are just friend whores and add whoever so they can seem cooler when they really aren't. people who do that kind of stuff really have no lives, cause we all know nobody really talks to a thousand people on one website.
     
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    I keep my friends list to people I know and feel I can generally trust - mainly because certain things (like image albums) can be set to friends only, and Rob has said he's going to provide more features like that. I'm happy to share certain images with the people on my friends list, but not others. So when I get random adds I just refuse and leave it at that.

    If people want to 'remember' someone for their gallery or whatever they can bung them on their contacts list - that doesn't require permission.
     
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