Getting a massage. How can I tell the therapist I crave being touched?

[BottomAtl]

When you're in a LTR that has faded more than you'd like - including simple things like hugs - and you don't want to cheat can you tell the massage therapist about this? I'm trying to figure out how to tell the guy that I don't need a rough massage. Something as simple as long caring strokes (not my dick) would be nice, and needed.

What's the best way to broach that subject without coming across like I want sex or a happy ending (I don't I'll take care of that later).

 

[halcyondays]

Deep tissue massage isn't for everyone. Tell him you don't like it. Ask for a gentler massage. Do not tell him about your craving/need to be touched by someone or that you need hugs. That's for you and your partner to sort out perhaps with a different kind of therapist.

When I did MT 30+ years ago I had clients who said it's just nice to be touched. I understood the lack of physical intimacy in their lives. I think most people suffer it to some degree.

If your MT won't do gentling massage find one who will.

 

[BottomAtl]

It was a great massage. I didn't say anything. I just let it go. He said he'd start with medium pressure and to let him know if it was ok, or if I'd prefer something different. It was perfect. He incorporated some stretching too which really helped a few tight spots. And he didn't go anywhere he shouldn't have gone but I'm honestly surprised I didn't get an erection.

 

[Man2kiss]

When you're in a LTR that has faded more than you'd like - including simple things like hugs - and you don't want to cheat can you tell the massage therapist about this? I'm trying to figure out how to tell the guy that I don't need a rough massage. Something as simple as long caring strokes (not my dick) would be nice, and needed.

What's the best way to broach that subject without coming across like I want sex or a happy ending (I don't I'll take care of that later).

I have worked exclusively with men, and have found that many men crave touch. Most men don’t say that, at least at first, but once they are confident they can trust me many things are shared. I try to create an environment where the client feels safe and comfortable. I don’t try to convince them of what they need but allow them to tell me without judgement. I have found that I become more of a wholistic therapist of body, mind and soul. It’s rewarding to me that my clients trust me with both what they do and what they say during their session.

 

[BottomAtl]

I have worked exclusively with men, and have found that many men crave touch. Most men don’t say that, at least at first, but once they are confident they can trust me many things are shared. I try to create an environment where the client feels safe and comfortable. I don’t try to convince them of what they need but allow them to tell me without judgement. I have found that I become more of a wholistic therapist of body, mind and soul. It’s rewarding to me that my clients trust me with both what they do and what they say during their session.

Are you ever a confidant? Like a therapist for guys who have no one else to talk to?

 

[Man2kiss]

Are you ever a confidant? Like a therapist for guys who have no one else to talk to?

As it turns out when someone is on my table then tend to talk about things that are not easy for them to say to others. I treat them as a doctor treats patients and they know that nothing is shared with anyone else even their name is confidential.

 

[BodyWorkerNEPA]

I have worked exclusively with men, and have found that many men crave touch. Most men don’t say that, at least at first, but once they are confident they can trust me many things are shared. I try to create an environment where the client feels safe and comfortable. I don’t try to convince them of what they need but allow them to tell me without judgement. I have found that I become more of a wholistic therapist of body, mind and soul. It’s rewarding to me that my clients trust me with both what they do and what they say during their session.

I can agree with all of that. Men who come to me generally have a need for human touch.

 

[al1011]

I can agree with all of that. Men who come to me generally have a need for human touch.

Whats the difference with a man getting a massage from another man? Like I find it hard to find any male massage people. Like is it just men have more strength for deeper massage or do the guys giving the massage specialize in male massage and now all the right areas to push and work?

 

[BodyWorkerNEPA]

Whats the difference with a man getting a massage from another man? Like I find it hard to find any male massage people. Like is it just men have more strength for deeper massage or do the guys giving the massage specialize in male massage and now all the right areas to push and work?

Every client is different, and as a therapist I need to read their responses to the work and adjust the pressure accordingly. Many women can deliver just as much pressure as men can, however I prefer the touch of another man when I receive a massage. Male energy resonates with me differently than female energy.

 

[JCCramer]

I’m the same way, I don’t like rough strokes. I’ve found that asking for a Swedish massage with low-medium intensity gives me what I want most of the time with new masseurs.