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Hi all,
I hesitate to write this because I'm a guy who has had previous relationships. Who has loved someone dearly and had to let him go. Who's been through this, basically. But yet I feel like this is new. So, to get to it:
I met a guy a few months ago who I connected to on a different level. And trust me, this was completely different. I opened him to him about things I've never done with anyone. The issue was his ex still lives with him and they sleep in the same bed. He said they broke up 2 years ago and he hasn't met anyone which is why he didn't kick him out. Also that his ex is depressed and he didn't want to kick him out in the midst of the pandemic.
We wanted to date but we both know nothing can happen until he deals with his situation. We keep coming back to each other though. It starts with an "I miss you" and then we start talking again not officially dating or anything. Last night we decided again to stop talking to each other and he said he'd look for me when he's done, which who knows if it's true or not. But, regardless, it's hard to let him go. We had great sex, we did things I hadn't done with anyone else, we had deep conversations, etc. The previous time we said we would stop, we didn't talk for a month (an idea of the fact we've tried to stop talking).
My thing is: how do I let go? I don't want to let him go. Not just because I care deeply about him but because he made me feel so amazing. I know I can possibly find that again but for me it's very rare. I've dated a lot since my last ex 3 years ago and this guy is the first guy I've actually cared about.
How do I let go and move on? Do you guys do anything in particular when trying to let go of someone? What do you all do to keep yourself from thinking about that person? How do you not manage to message them? I know we're all different and some people are really strong and in this instance, I feel very weak and it does bother me since I don't know how to handle it. Thoughts?
I hesitate to write this because I'm a guy who has had previous relationships. Who has loved someone dearly and had to let him go. Who's been through this, basically. But yet I feel like this is new. So, to get to it:
I met a guy a few months ago who I connected to on a different level. And trust me, this was completely different. I opened him to him about things I've never done with anyone. The issue was his ex still lives with him and they sleep in the same bed. He said they broke up 2 years ago and he hasn't met anyone which is why he didn't kick him out. Also that his ex is depressed and he didn't want to kick him out in the midst of the pandemic.
We wanted to date but we both know nothing can happen until he deals with his situation. We keep coming back to each other though. It starts with an "I miss you" and then we start talking again not officially dating or anything. Last night we decided again to stop talking to each other and he said he'd look for me when he's done, which who knows if it's true or not. But, regardless, it's hard to let him go. We had great sex, we did things I hadn't done with anyone else, we had deep conversations, etc. The previous time we said we would stop, we didn't talk for a month (an idea of the fact we've tried to stop talking).
My thing is: how do I let go? I don't want to let him go. Not just because I care deeply about him but because he made me feel so amazing. I know I can possibly find that again but for me it's very rare. I've dated a lot since my last ex 3 years ago and this guy is the first guy I've actually cared about.
How do I let go and move on? Do you guys do anything in particular when trying to let go of someone? What do you all do to keep yourself from thinking about that person? How do you not manage to message them? I know we're all different and some people are really strong and in this instance, I feel very weak and it does bother me since I don't know how to handle it. Thoughts?