Great Sex but No Attraction

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Anyone else been in this situation where the sex is amazing but you are not really attracted to the person. (personality and physically).

I have been hooking up with this guy who gives me amazing goosebumps type of orgasms. Its all fine so far, but he's been keen to meet up outside hooking up. How did you manage this situation?
 
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That's an ultimate challenge you have on your hands. It wouldn't be at all surprising if your sex with him ceases if he senses you just want him for sex only.

For you, the best suggestion would be to find someone else who can rock your world just as much as he does, or maybe even better. Tell him straight up you enjoy being with him in the sheets, but not for meet and greets.

JUST DON'T GHOST HIM. Nobody should be victimized in that fashion.
 
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Sometimes it happens, the only thing you can do is end it or continue for the sex. Most of the time what happens is the relationship will fizzle out on its own and then everybody goes their separate ways.
 

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Anyone else been in this situation where the sex is amazing but you are not really attracted to the person. (personality and physically).

I have been hooking up with this guy who gives me amazing goosebumps type of orgasms. Its all fine so far, but he's been keen to meet up outside hooking up. How did you manage this situation?
Wait...what???

I'm confused. How are you able to have this amazing goosebumps sex/orgasms with someone you are not attracted to physically? :confounded::dizzy:
 

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Wait...what???

I'm confused. How are you able to have this amazing goosebumps sex/orgasms with someone you are not attracted to physically? :confounded::dizzy:
lets just say God is fair.. he's blessed in other ways
 

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Wait...what???

I'm confused. How are you able to have this amazing goosebumps sex/orgasms with someone you are not attracted to physically? :confounded::dizzy:
I was going to say the same thing. It's logically impossible for you to be attracted to someone that you're not attracted to.

(I think I need more coffee to figure this one out...)
 
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Be honest with him that you're only interested in him for hookups and let the cards fall where they may. IOW he might bail. It happens, you part ways and find a new donkey.
 
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